Junbao's mother always likes to say, "Look at three years old and look at seven years old." what are you reading? Faced with the dazzling array of early education classes and emotional intelligence classes in the market, how should mothers choose? Mothers sit together and chat. They found that their children knew everything, while their children knew nothing. Junbao's mother came one by one with that comparison and that anxiety, and now she often lives in this comparison. Their children have reached several levels of English, and their children can solve math problems with equations in primary school. Is Junbao going to take extra-curricular classes, too? It's easier said than done, so let's take a look at raising children together! All education is to let children "become adults first, then become talents". Although grades are a small part, they are the most important part. When children can be independent and responsible, they will naturally achieve something. As children in kindergarten, what should parents pay attention to?

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Know what "I am ready" is!

In order to train children into adults, we must first have excellent "basic conditions" and make good physical and psychological preparations. If these preparations are not in place, there will be various problems in primary schools: inattention, love to talk in class, and many small moves.

The preparatory work includes two parts:

1. Get ready

Sit up straight, feet on the ground, hands on the table, eyes on the teacher, ears to listen to the teacher, don't talk with your mouth. After this habit is formed, the purpose is not only good for children's health, but also the position of your head, eyes, ears, hands and feet is right, which greatly reduces the chances of children making small moves or whispering in class.

Prepare your mind.

Willing to actively participate in activities, accept new things, and be willing to think for themselves or ask adults for help when encountering difficulties, instead of directly throwing them to adults to solve problems. Effective and high-quality companionship of parents is the key to cultivate a well-prepared mind. For example, when a child has difficulty in building blocks, he will go to his father. Does the father bring his children to explore what the problem is? To work hard, to try, to guide children to complete step by step; Or take away the children's toys and return them to the children together, or tell the children that if they don't put them away for a long time, they will be broken. You can play something else. This behavior of the two fathers has brought two completely different attitudes to solving problems to the children, and over time, it has formed the way for the children to face difficulties themselves. I wrote that everyone will definitely agree with the performance of being a new father, but in real life, too many parents are surrounded by people who are absent-minded and have their hearts in their mobile phones.

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Do you know what "I will be responsible" is!

Nowadays, children do their own things mechanically on the premise that their parents "want me to do it", rather than "I want to do it" from the heart. For example, eating is chasing and feeding, toys are just playing, regardless of cleaning up, and housework at all ages is even more hands-free. Growing up, children didn't realize what I should do. What are the consequences of doing or not doing it? How can he be responsible for his actions and how can he take the initiative to ask for it? This kind of chasing and feeding will turn into staring at your homework when you go to school. Because parents interfere too much, it will lead to a vicious circle Children will never be left behind and will never be responsible for themselves. Because he doesn't do it, someone will always help him. Suppose such a child becomes a doctor. He stands on the operating table and forgets the operation plan. Did his parents tell him how to operate?

To cultivate children to be responsible for their actions, parents should grasp what to do, what not to do, what to help him and what not to help him, grasp this boundary, help children when they actively seek help, and remind them that this is what they should do.

1. If the child doesn't eat, respect him.

Not eating means eating nothing but water, and it is strictly enforced (never providing snacks). You don't need to worry that your children will be hungry. Before he is hungry, he will realize the consequences of not eating. Because he is not allowed to feel hungry, he will not be responsible for his behavior of not eating;

Don't nag when cleaning.

Children throw toys all over the room, just play and tidy up. Don't nag when cleaning. The next day, it was still such a plot deduction. I must take my children with me to clean up the toys. Let the child feel that the toy belongs to him. He was responsible for them, and it gradually evolved into letting him clean up his toys. If he refuses to clean up, there will be corresponding punishment. I often don't buy new toys, or just throw away my packed toys to let him know that they are his toys and that they are precious. But in my eyes, they are all rubbish. If they are not well preserved, they will be discarded.

Step 3 educate children to do housework

Doing housework, everyone is a member of the family, and everyone has to bear and pay. Junbao has done a lot of hard work for me now. Although it is the first time to pack a bag of jiaozi on New Year's Day, he has been able to turn it over with one hand. His good hands-on ability and serious study come from his father's effective company and our busy work.

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Know what "respect others" means.

As soon as children enter kindergarten, they enter a small society. A well-educated child is bound to be favored by teachers and classmates. Once, after playing basketball with my son, I went to Meng Le for dinner. There are a lot of people in that shop, but even if there are a lot of people, I can't hide the little girl's harsh screams and loud reprimands to her grandmother. Everyone looked at me frequently, which embarrassed my grandmother and explained, "The child is very kind. Seeing that I only ordered one meal, the child can't bear to be hungry. " This kind of "kindness has no good words" may be the attitude of parents to grandparents, and children follow suit. Seemingly simple social etiquette, such as "the right is not in the voice" and "a kind word warms three winters", and learning "hello", "please", "thank you" and "whispering" are magic weapons that will benefit children for life.

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