If you are a passenger on the bus, would you like to wait for this disabled mother for one minute? Yesterday, with this question, the reporter interviewed citizens of different ages and occupations.
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One more minute of waiting is one more concern.
"On this issue, there are too many possibilities. But if I really put myself in the shoes, I will still wait in reality, even if I have opinions. " Luo Anren, a post-70s citizen, is the director and vice president of marketing of a medical equipment company in Chongqing. He said that there must be special or special circumstances for children to make this request, and it is convenient for people and themselves, not to mention a disabled mother who got on the bus and needs tolerance and understanding. "Harmonious social relations need everyone's tolerance, urgency and thinking."
Fan, a sophomore majoring in journalism at Southwest University of Political Science and Law, agreed to wait. "This topic is actually about the impetuous psychology of modern people, and we should be more patient with people and things. I think everyone in society should pay more attention to our environment and people around us, and don't let this society look too indifferent. "
Liu Ailin, a student from outside Sichuan, agreed, "Why not take a minute, smoke a cigarette and blow a cow?" In this car, waiting for one more minute is more love, and it can also make others get a little warmth in a busy day. "
"My career determines that I can't afford to lose this time, but as long as I don't wait too long, there is no problem." Yesterday, 15' s brother Xia Zongbin admitted that he had waited for a passenger for more than 20 minutes and was stood up. "In this case, it is best to ask about the passengers and how long it will take. If the other person is disabled, it is acceptable for me to wait for a while. "
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Public service cannot delay others because of itself.
"In fact, if it is not the last bus, or if you have to wait for a 30-minute bus, even if you are disabled, you should take your child and wait for the next bus, instead of letting the child run to occupy the car first and let a car wait for her alone." Just when many people think that there should be more tolerance and so on, the netizen's view of "citrus reticulata Wo" has also been supported by many people.
Jiang Yu, 35, who lives in Lijiatuo, said that if he was a passenger on the bus, he would not choose to wait. First, when the child got on the bus, he did not explain the specific reasons. Who wants to wait out of thin air? Secondly, if it is the rush hour, this kind of waiting will trigger a butterfly effect, many office workers may be late, and the vehicles behind them will not be able to enter the station, leading to traffic jams and so on. "I have had personal experience. I left two minutes late at the rush hour, and the driving time changed from 40 minutes to two hours. "
"Bus drivers also have a systematic assessment. There are rules for the start and stop times of each shift. If the bus is late, it will affect his performance appraisal. In an instant, the disabled passenger is weak, and the driver may be weaker than her. This is the difference between public service and private service. You can't delay others for your own reasons. The system is the hard standard. " Netizen "open-minded" said that it would be very touching to see this before, but not now. It's not the last bus, so why wait for someone to go to work, so everyone will have grievances.
Zhou You, who lives in Huixing, Yubei, is a post-80s office worker, and he also agrees with "inequality". "I'm not without morality. Everyone's time is precious. How can you be sure that the people in the car are not in a hurry? Society is based on contract first, and then on human feelings. Unless he explains the situation clearly and obtains the consent of all or more than half of the people in the car. If we blindly emphasize the care for others and ignore public order, this is moral kidnapping. "
Self-examination/introspection
What if the last person on the bus is not a disabled person?
Just as the two views of "waiting" and "not waiting" were arguing endlessly on the Internet, someone put forward another voice: the key point is why the little boy didn't tell the truth when he got on the bus. If he does, I believe the passengers on the bus will understand, and tolerance under the premise of understanding is the real harmony.
"If I were a passenger in the car, I would definitely know the situation before deciding." Ms. Mao, 25, lives in Wanzhou and is a civil servant. She said that if the little boy has something urgent at home, he must take this bus with his mother now, so he will choose to wait patiently; But if the boy is not in a hurry and other passengers are in a hurry, he will be advised to wait for the next bus.
Lu Bin, a 25-year-old bank legal adviser, said that waiting or not is actually safeguarding a public moral value, as long as this maintenance does not cause great damage, it is justified. Wait. , in a relatively short period of time will not cause great damage to public order; No, it won't do much harm to the rights and interests of mother and child to let the children go down and help their mother get off the next bus.
Some netizens put forward another hypothesis to reflect: "The social significance of this issue goes far beyond this. Imagine if the ending changes and the last person on the bus is not disabled, should they wait or not? "
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There is no right or wrong to wait or wait for an answer.
Tang Jun, Sociologist, China Academy of Social Sciences: In fact, all discussions on this essay topic are based on assumptions, and these viewpoints can be understood under different assumptions. In other words, no matter how you answer this question, there is no right or wrong to wait or not. Personally, I prefer waiting. As many netizens said, China lacks interpersonal harmony at present. If you wait for a minute or two when everyone is not particularly anxious, you may gain harmonious interpersonal relationships.
Empathy, learn to understand tolerance.
Liao Qifa, a professor and doctoral supervisor in the Department of Education of Southwest University, said: This is a question for people's minds, and it also allows us to learn to understand and tolerate. Finally, the scolding stopped, and the silence of a car also showed that everyone felt a little guilty. They may understand the difficulties of disabled mothers and may be moved by filial piety. People always have to wait until they are not in a hurry before reflecting on their previous words and deeds. Self-blame and self-blame come to mind. So in this case, please slow down, put yourself in the other's shoes and let tolerance keep up.
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Dong Xiaoyu, Dean of School of Journalism and Communication, Southwest University: Although this year's composition material is short and trivial, it is close to life and reality, both emotional and ideological. The understanding, consideration and care shown by passengers show the value of affection, understanding and care, embody the harmony and warmth of society and permeate the positive energy of the times.
First of all, candidates should understand the profound mother-child affection, deep public love and harmonious social feelings contained in the materials. Secondly, the material contains profound thoughts. In today's impetuous social and cultural context, this material composition can guide people to calm down, reflect on themselves and society, and re-recognize life, value and sublimity. When writing, candidates can discuss it from the following points: tolerance, reverence for life, moral value and peaceful mentality. Generally speaking, this kind of composition is not easy to digress, and the threshold for examination is not high. However, in order to write the affection, profound meaning and interest contained in the material, we need to look at society, think about society, care about others, be open-minded and full of emotions. When writing, candidates can start with emotion or speculation. Efforts should be made to write "human flavor", "emotional flavor" and "thinking flavor" with profound thoughts, unique perspectives, novel themes, clear thinking and fluent language.
Xiong, a researcher-level Chinese teacher at Yucai Middle School: This year's composition has always maintained the characteristics of Chongqing proposition in terms of exam difficulty. The idea comes down in one continuous line for three years: 20 13 freezing garage security guards and employees, 20 14 landlord picking up glass scorpions, and this year buses and passengers and other disabled people get on the bus. They are praising the beauty of human nature and advocating social understanding, consideration and care. It further embodies the principle of "close to life" and the spirit of "humanistic care", profoundly impacts people's inner world, stimulates students' emotional sparks, and is conducive to candidates' "handwriting my heart". Candidates can start with praising and advocating positive energy in society, and at the same time criticize indifference, selfishness and "exquisite egoism" in society. It will be more meaningful if we conceive from these angles.
Two years ago, Weibo's composition questions for the college entrance examination this year were popular.
Have you guessed?
Chongqing 20 15 college entrance examination essay comes from Weibo? It's true! Yesterday at noon, this year's Chongqing college entrance examination composition has just been released. Careful netizens immediately found out the Weibo written by the netizen "Zhulin Xiaoxiao 82" two years ago, which also attracted many netizens' hot discussions. It is said that "now the college entrance examination composition is getting closer to life."
As of yesterday 17, this article has been forwarded more than 23,000 times in Weibo, with more than 3,000 comments, and * * * has won more than 3,000 likes.
Blogger:
Chongqing exam questions pay more attention to social humanity.
Yesterday, the reporter contacted this Weibo blogger, Zhu Lin Xiaoxiao, 82, who lives in Nanjing, Jiangsu. Her voice sounded younger on the phone.
"I still remember the scene. I didn't send Weibo to accuse anyone, nor did I complain for my mother and son. " Netizen "Zhu Lin Xiaoxiao 82" said that on April 29th, 20 13, she went to Nanjing to visit her good friend and got on the bus 13. After Weibo was born, he was reported by Jinling Evening News, New Express and other media, which also triggered a great discussion on human nature.
"I think Chongqing's college entrance examination composition is more and more extensive, paying attention to the details and real things in life such as social humanity. This is very good. " She said that if I write this composition myself, I will start with "slowing myself down and tolerating others". I hope that in this era of "speed", we can walk fast and know how to wait for others.
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You can surf the internet appropriately to learn about social hotspots.
Yesterday, after the topic of the composition was published, many netizens praised "Now the composition of the college entrance examination is getting closer to life", "It seems that if you want to get high marks, you need to pay attention to hot spots frequently", "You should brush Weibo more in the future" and "How much do questioners like to brush Weibo to see this article".
Xiong Jing, 43, tried to keep her daughter away from the Internet as much as possible during the preparation for the exam, only occasionally letting her daughter surf the Internet when she needed to study. Yesterday, she was a little surprised to learn that this year's college entrance examination composition came from Weibo. "You can look at it properly in the future, but not for too long."
Shi Zhijian, a senior three Chinese teacher in Chongqing No.29 Middle School, said that Chinese teaching in the school has always encouraged students to pay more attention to social hotspots, and it is a good way to watch media reports and go to Weibo in their spare time.
Let's see how writers, Chinese teachers and "Shang Xiaomei" write "wait"
Wait a minute, let the soul follow.
Every time I see similar news, I will think of a sentence: "Wait a minute, let our souls catch up." This sentence comes from a foreign fable that we often need to leave time for our hearts and souls. In the story, a busload of people saw the disabled people fall silent, which shows that everyone has a kind heart. As for the initial complaint, it was only because I was habitually in a hurry.
People in China are really anxious: children start early education as soon as they are born, kindergarten begins to learn English, primary school carries a heavy schoolbag, senior two prepares for the college entrance examination after finishing high school, and senior two looks for a job. If the work is a little unsatisfactory, they change jobs, start a business without anything, and prepare to go public as soon as they start a company. ...
We are really in a hurry! But is this really good?
A friend of mine took a fancy to a very good product in Canada, but not in China, and wanted to sell it in China. He found the boss of the production enterprise and offered him a very generous term to be the general agent in China. He thought that the other party would definitely agree on the spot. As a result, the Canadian boss said, "Don't be busy, have tea first." So, my friend and the Canadian boss and his wife have been going back and forth for more than half a year, talking about ideals, talking about life and exchanging different beliefs. Finally, the Canadian boss said, "After more than half a year's understanding, I think our values are similar and your character is honest. I am willing to let you be the general agent in China, and I will give you better conditions in turn. "
I was shocked to hear this story! This is a principle that our ancestors often remind us: "No common sky, no common sky." This catchy principle of China people has long been forgotten because we are in a hurry, but it has been fed back by a commercially developed civilization. I have never considered this issue since I started my business for more than 20 years. At this moment, I suddenly recalled the influence I experienced in my development: dishonest Party A, immoral partner, and the temptation to break the law for the benefit ... I am glad that many times it is the moral bottom line and Virgo's cleanliness that gave me the right choice.
Fundamentally speaking, after more than 30 years of rapid development, China's economic development has achieved a soft landing, and the law of 30 years has quietly changed. You don't need to succeed so quickly, just think hard; You don't need to be so anxious to be happy, just let nature take its course. Time-consuming products can get high quality; Take time to gain fans in marketing; Dialogue with potted plants, flowers will flourish; If you have enough time to meditate, your body will be full of potential.
When new media forces friends to share their lives, when Industry 4.0 forces enterprises to carefully select materials and improve their craftsmanship, when wearable devices control everything around us, and when big data gives us cool choices, I believe that slow life will return to the future in this era.
Slow work, thinking about changing your life, leaving time for your family and letting the years settle down ... these time-consuming thoughts will come back to us. When we learn to slow down and believe that everything makes sense, the complaint of that car will become elegant patience and social tolerance.
Brief introduction of the author
Luo Yu: Male, born in 1968, author of the novel The Missing Shangqing Temple. He is currently the vice chairman of Chongqing Website Alliance, the vice chairman of Chongqing Electronic Commerce Association Website Branch and the standing committee member of Chongqing Writers Association Network Creation Committee.
Contains the truth of this world.
When you see a female tour guide reprimanding tourists for not buying kickback souvenirs, are you angry from your heart and loudly seeking justice for tourists? But when the tour guide broke out with tears of regret that all the tourists participated in the "one-yuan shopping group", did you tilt your inner balance to the dismissed tour guide? When you see a domineering female teacher asking her students to open an umbrella in the sun, will you be outraged by the simple children and impose cold violence on the arrogant teacher? Then, if a teacher says that his behavior is worse, and even makes students wash dishes themselves, take their backpacks and put students under their bodies, are you even more intolerable? Should such teachers be expelled from education?
However, the truth is far from what you think. The students help him wash the dishes because he cooks for the students. He often helps students carry schoolbags and carries sick children to the hospital. The students regard him as "Brother Xi" and play games with him. He paid for the children, and the sincere feelings between teachers and students surged. "As long as teachers and students care for each other, there will be true feelings between gestures." -Li Zhenxi, a famous educator.
So you believe in true love again.
So what determines your judgment of things, is it the true nature of things, or the truth that others want you to see, or the truth that you are willing to believe in yourself? There are too many puzzles in the online world. Many people are fanning the flames for different purposes, attracting people's attention, morally kidnapping people, and testing the morality and rationality of netizens. The world is like a beautiful scenery, and the flowers are more and more charming. How can I clear the fog and take the lotus picked by Ye Jia?
Ignorance leads to credulity, impulsiveness leads to complaints, and suffering from loss leads to delusion of being killed. These are all human weaknesses. Everyone says that the earth is square. Who dares to say that the earth is round? It is much easier and safer to let nature take its course than to sail against the current. The belief that the law does not blame the public makes us lose the courage to think independently. When the trend of public opinion shows an indisputable trend, all we can do is applaud. As a result, the truth missed us.
What really matters to us is not what it looks like, but why it is like this. If you are willing to know more about the cause and effect, you will put an end to careless accusations and make reasonable judgments and reasonable behaviors.
Confucianism said thousands of years ago: introspection and self-denial, prudence and tolerance. Few people can really do it. From our own standpoint, we look at the world from a single point of view, just like a blind eye. Of course, it is not as good as the whole picture. We can't see it because our hearts haven't been opened yet. If you look at things with me, everything will be my color. If you treat others with a defensive attitude, you will also feel the malice from this world. Be tolerant of others and the world will be much cuter. The passengers on the bus were on edge because they had to wait an extra minute. They are deeply tired of complaining. Ji Xianlin, president of Peking University, kept the luggage for freshmen for half a day in the cold wind, without a single complaint. His temperament is like a breeze, and the lotus blooms under the moon. He lives in clear water.
Zhang Ailing once said, "Because you know, you are merciful". As long as you look at the world with compassion, you will find that everything has a reason and everything makes sense.
The farthest in the world is the sky, the bluest is the ocean, and the widest is the human mind. Only when there is heaven and earth in the chest can we accept the whole world and achieve spiritual harmony and self-satisfaction. Be tolerant of others, and the world will be suddenly enlightened.
Brief introduction of the author
Zhang Chunyi: Female, born in 1985, is currently a Chinese teacher in Chongqing Railway Middle School. The script China Love Through Time and Space and Colorful Youth Happy Chongqing won the first prize in the 20 10/0,201"Chinese Bridge" competition, and the script Zuo won the first prize in the Chongqing Middle School Drama Festival.
Being kind to others is being kind to yourself.
If one thing is handled in different ways, there will always be different results. So let's see what happens if this incident goes in a bad direction.
On a rainy day, the bus passed the station and stopped. A group of people got on the bus at the front door one after another and put away their open umbrellas, which were wet. The male driver closed the door and started the engine.
Suddenly, a passenger shouted, "Don't panic, there is a little baby!" " There's a kid who hasn't slept together! "A bus wobbled from side to side like a drunk. The male driver reopened the car door and looked back. He saw a little boy, wearing a cowboy coat, carrying a schoolbag and dragging a plastic vegetable bag in his hand, coming up in two steps. The little boy's face was covered with rain and his clothes were soaked. He said, "Uncle driver, please wait a moment! My mother is still down there. "
Half a minute later, the little boy's mother didn't appear at the door. Some passengers are anxious. Passenger A said, "What a good thing! It's been a long time. I'm late for work! " "
Passenger B said, "How long will it take? My wife is alone at home, and I am very worried. "
C shouted, "Waste everyone's time. Everyone has something to do! " The little boy looked up and begged, "wait a little longer." At this time, many people roared: "What are you waiting for? Go down and wait for yourself! "
The driver couldn't bear the pressure, so he had to say to the little boy, "wait for the next bus, son." So the little boy got out of the car and the car flew away, splashing a pool of foggy mud.
Fortunately, this is not the case. The male driver still insisted on waiting in the accusation of everyone, silently shouldering the pressure. The little boy was not abandoned on the stormy road, and the boy's mother got on the bus. This ending is quite in line with our wishes, but it also reveals some information.
Among them, the boy's mother got on the bus. Why did the passengers collectively observe silence? Is it because she is dragging a disabled leg? What does this silence mean? Is it because everyone still has a conscience in their hearts? Is this conscience a remorse for your previous impatience?
Suppose further that if passengers A, B, C, etc. are in their twilight years, they will take the bus with their little grandchildren. He was shivering, unable to get on the bus with crutches for a long time, and the bus left him behind. Will he recall the little boy he met when he was young and her disabled mother, and will he feel a little guilty at that time?
Being kind to others is being kind to yourself. Especially in this media over-interpretation of personal values, flaunting everyone as an individual and advocating the absoluteness of individual spiritual freedom, our ears should always echo the old saying of Mencius: "I am old, and people are old; Young and frivolous, and young people. "
The conscience of the whole society was awakened, perhaps from this bus.
About the author:
Lu Wei: 2 1 year-old, from Chongqing, a junior in Chuanmei. Once, because I have exposed 3,000 books, and published the net post "My family doesn't have a BMW, only a few thousand books", it has attracted the attention of major websites and many media in China. At present, two novels have been published, which are called "post-90 s book collection sisters" by netizens. At present, she has entered the top 20 in the "Shang Xiaomei" image ambassador selection contest carried out by this newspaper.