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Most young people who work hard in Shenzhen will be surprised to hear someone kindly ask you when you will get married when they go home on holidays. What is more terrible than forced marriage is the birth of three children, and both the liver and the children will tremble.
At the beginning of the month, we spent a lot of money and paid off our debts at the end of the month. This is probably our present situation. I'm new to the workplace, I'm afraid of my work, I'm struggling with my life, and the country is not yet stable. I really don't have the energy and economy to continue my children and grandchildren.
Someone has calculated the cost of raising a child in Shenzhen. The cost of pregnancy examination, nutrition and production during the first pregnancy is about 20 thousand. Children are the most difficult to raise from birth to three years old, not only worrying, but milk powder, clothes, diapers, early education and illness add up to more than 100 thousand!
The cost of 3-6 years old is about 70 thousand, which is still calculated according to the cheap kindergarten fee. Chatting with my friend that day, he said that the kindergarten tuition fee for children is 8000 yuan. I asked stupidly: is it every year? It's too expensive. He gave me a white look: Are you kidding? Every month!
Hardship begins after school. Various interest classes, training classes, living expenses, tuition and miscellaneous fees, and possibly school selection fees, as well as various electronic products that children cry for, installation fees, university accommodation fees and transportation fees will not be listed one by one. Some people think that a monthly salary of 30 thousand can't afford their children's summer vacation at all.
In short, it costs about 540,000 yuan to raise a child in Shenzhen and graduate from college, and then pray to God that he can find a job to support himself after graduation. If your family wants two children, multiply this number by two.
In the eyes of the older generation, economists have long concluded that this is a loss-making business! Children are emotionally priceless and economically worthless!
According to the survey conducted by China Research Center on Aging, more than 65% of families in China have the phenomenon of gnawing at the old, and about 30% of young people basically rely on their parents to provide for their old age. And we were the main force in the old army after 1980s and 1990s. In other words, I'm mixed up like this myself, and I really don't think my children can be any better.
According to the survey, two-thirds of the people who have bought a house rely on their parents' support to buy a house. The situation at that time may be like this. We bought a house with the down payment from our parents and took out a loan for 30 years. Then have a baby and come to you for money to buy a house when the child grows up. Let's see, your mortgage has not been paid off. It's worth crying about. This is really a terrible vicious circle.
Therefore, it doesn't exist to expect children to feed you back when they grow up.
Will the quality of life be high with children? I took this question to ask a twin mother. There is no love on her face: it is good to be alive, but there is no life.
When I learned that I was pregnant, the doctor said, congratulations. Her reaction is: how to get rid of it? Her parents and husband were unanimous in their opposition, and she gave in. After returning home, she struggled for a long time and felt that she could no longer afford life, so she sent the dog back to her hometown.
Another friend, Dink, has worked for more than ten years. Every day after work, they go shopping, watch movies and eat together, and take annual leave to travel around the world together. They will definitely choose a city to live for a month every year and rent a house to cook, which is also called changing their environmental management ideas. Recently, my wife began to learn baking and baked cakes at home every day. He became interested in carpentry and set up a small studio to make his own gadgets.
I asked him if he really wanted Dink for life. He said helplessly that he might not last long. Her mother has been crying for several years, and recently she has a tendency to hang herself. Now the good times are coming to an end.
This is what many young people think of their children. My life is still wonderful. There are so many novels I haven't read, so many places I haven't been, and life is not a great failure. There are still many possibilities. Why practice the trumpet?
So why don't young people want children? Let's put it another way. What are the benefits of my having a baby?
A mother always has great expectations for her children. She wants her children to help her go where she has never been, and she can't achieve her goal. She hopes that her children can realize it for her, but such an idea is simply untenable for modern young people.
After 80' s and 90' s, I claim to be my baby. I still wear a sky-high mask and drink medlar every day, hoping to be young forever. I didn't expect my children to accomplish a certain goal for me at all, because I was going to do it myself.
For young people working hard in Shenzhen, having a baby is like playing a game with no end. From the beginning of production, to the settlement, degree and school district, giving birth to children is already exhausting, not to mention the economic anxiety brought by children, which is fatal.
Marriage-having children is like a well-designed game strategy. Once started, it cannot be terminated or deleted. You can only go through one level after another.
However, I hope you don't worry when I'm not ready to play this game.
I may have to make more preparations to meet this challenge.