In fact, Yong Lian's illness was entirely caused by Fu Cha. Although the Queen loves her son Yong Lian deeply, she is always too strict. The queen is a person who is strict with herself. Because she cares too much about other people's opinions, she also brought this idea to her son. She asked her son to be top-notch everywhere, and children should get up early to study every day.
The second prince is sleepy and has been dozing off. He wants to sleep a little longer. Fu Cha saw his son like this, so he pulled him to the door and let the cold wind wake him up.
Yong Lian caught a cold because of this. In the process of treating the disease, he also asked his son to keep on studying and going to school. In the end, Yong Lian got asthma and was framed and died.
On the other hand, in our current education, advanced and overloaded education also abound, especially early childhood education, which has become a common practice.
So how did this trend of advanced education come into being? What are the hazards? What should we do?
(A) the reasons for the formation of advanced education:
1. Parents have the mentality of keeping up with the trend in education. The traditional exam-oriented education mode is deeply rooted, and it is difficult to go to school after the liberalization of the two-child policy. In the social competitive environment, there are only prestigious schools and academic qualifications, which has become the first choice for many families to acquire knowledge and human capital through education and examinations. Parents believe that early childhood education should be prepared for future competition. Parents' comparison and follow-up on children's education has contributed to the "primary school" of early childhood education to some extent.
2. School education is often utilitarian. The marketization tendency of preschool education makes kindergartens face the pressure of survival and competition, and the source of students is the key to their survival. Therefore, parents' wishes have become the direction of preschool education, and parents are attracted by characteristic teaching. Some kindergartens employ unqualified teachers, so it is easy to bring the educational model and teaching methods of primary schools to kindergartens in educational practice.
3. Insufficient governance of functional departments. The Ministry of Education has promulgated the newly revised Working Rules for Kindergartens, but the functional departments lack systematic management and governance. Some cities have investigated the tendency of "primary school" in kindergartens, stipulating that kindergartens with problems will be downgraded, but some early education institutions are still in the blind spot of supervision.
(B) the harm of advanced education
1, which makes children tired of learning. In this process of primary education, children often get negative emotional experience, which leads to fear and disgust of learning. Repeated learning of content will lead to children's inattention in class and have a negative impact on their learning after entering primary school. The "third grade phenomenon" caused by higher education is also recognized by more and more people.
2. Kill children's natural potential. Elementary preschool education ignores children's age characteristics, violates educational laws, deprives children of more opportunities to play, destroys children's lively nature, limits the development of children's divergent thinking, ignores children's emotions and long-term development education, and will curb children's all-round and balanced development.
3, endangering the health of young children. Too early and too much standardized learning in primary school is not conducive to the development of children's muscles and bones, and it is easy to lead to physical symptoms such as myopia, hunchback and emaciation, which affects the healthy growth of children.
(c) Higher education seems to
Another example illustrates this problem very vividly.
Forty years ago, Zhang Fang, aged 13, was admitted to the juvenile class of the University of Science and Technology of China under the guidance of his father Zhang Zheng. At that time, it aroused strong repercussions in his Shanghai and brought great glory to the Zhang family.
Who knows that after graduating from college, he was assigned to a research institute in Shanghai and resigned because he felt that his major was not right. He thought he could find a professional job, but he ran into a wall everywhere. When Zhang Fang was almost 50 years old, she only made a living by tutoring others, but she never found a formal job. Except for some books, she lived in a small and messy shack with a computer.
When a reporter asks, "Do you have any regrets?" He replied, "I regret that I didn't go to school at my normal age." He also said that he would not let his children go the way they used to.
Rousseau, a famous educator, once said:
Misuse of time is more costly than wasting time, and children with wrong education are farther away from wisdom than children without education.
Yu, a member of the Chinese People's Political Consultative Conference, also said that he personally opposes advanced education and difficult education. "I'm not interested in learning at the age of 6 15." He said that a child's growth process is like a tree. After pouring a lot of chemical fertilizer, it may grow rapidly, but it will develop morbidly in the later stage. "This is also the reason why many small geniuses in China have poor explosive power when they grow up."
There are many mathematical geniuses in China, and their mathematical ability is very high, especially in high school. The math ability of the worst American high school students has killed the math ability of all American high school students. But when these mathematical geniuses grow up, there are more than 80 mathematicians in China and the United States, and China doesn't even rank, which fully shows that higher mathematics education is invalid.
(d) Higher education is not desirable, but early education is very important.
Compared with giving children a bunch of preschool classes and training classes, the following ability training is more worthy of parents' attention.
1, lifestyle
Chen Heqin, the founder of early childhood education in China, believes that real early childhood education is life-oriented education, and children should be taught to develop good living habits.
Studies have proved that children with regular work and rest and strong self-care ability have strong adaptability.
2. Language development
Language development plays an important role in children's memory, emotional management and social skills.
Talking about picture books can not only cultivate children's habits of reading and thinking, but also greatly promote children's vocabulary;
In addition, in daily life, children should be guided to express themselves and encouraged to express themselves, not their parents.
3. Sports development
The development of sports ability can promote the improvement of cognitive ability.
Actions are divided into fine actions and big actions:
Fine movements: games such as origami, painting, plasticine, paper-cutting and building blocks can not only promote children's imagination and creativity, but also greatly promote children's hand-eye-brain coordination.
Big sports: Ball games, swimming, mountain climbing, cycling and other big sports are very beneficial, which can not only help children grow taller, but also exercise their physical fitness. Children who develop well in big sports have stronger self-confidence and anti-frustration ability.
4. Development of social and emotional abilities
Emotion is closely related to social skills.
If you can't express your emotions properly, it will definitely affect your social interaction. Therefore, parents should help their children to exercise their social skills, give them a sense of security before they are three years old, and pay more attention to cultivating their correct expressions when facing different emotions.
"Don't let children lose at the starting line" is like a knife hanging over parents' heads, forcing people to have nowhere to hide, so they can only give up halfway, and the finish line is too far away to give up.
The fact is that the starting line is not equal to high academic qualifications, and parents are the starting line for children.
Parents with high academic qualifications and good family conditions can really provide better educational resources for their children.
But for children, parents' spiritual guidance and positive encouragement are what they need most.
Parents with low academic qualifications and poor conditions can make their children realize the importance of "autonomous learning" if they can set an example.
The starting line for children may not be as high as others, but as long as you stick to it and live for a long time, you may not be able to cultivate excellent children.
Therefore, let children run in nature, swim in the sea, climb in the bunker and roll on the grass when they are children.
What parents should do is to entertain and educate, and seize the golden opportunity of early education in the process of children having fun.
Telling children more stories is far more important than sending them to cram schools to recite ancient poems. It is far better to accompany children to count birds in trees outdoors than to force them to recite numbers within 100.
Childhood is a journey, not a game. Never put the cart before the horse.
Do what parents should do and wait for their children's future to bloom!