Around the world, because many mothers are busy with work, the number of children entering nurseries has quadrupled in the past decade, and some children are sent to nurseries while learning to walk. Many children experts call nurseries "prisons". Some babies as young as six months old were sent there, and they stayed there until 8 am to 6 pm to go to school. These children are mainly urban children, accounting for about 5% of the children in nurseries, and 35% of parents give them to nurseries after their children are two years old.
However, according to the British report, experts warned that there should be a yardstick for early education, and blindly emphasizing the education of children while ignoring their nature will do harm to children. Steve Vidaur, an Australian expert in children's education and a famous clinician, warned that giving children under the age of three to nurseries would increase the risk of damaging their normal psychological development.
Many nurseries can't take care of children, and neglected children often have fear.
Due to the accelerated pace of modern work and the increasing pressure, many parents are too busy with their work to take care of their children. Therefore, governments all over the world regard increasing nurseries and kindergartens as a policy to relieve parents' worries. In Britain alone, there are 250,000 children under the age of three in full-time or half-day, and even 5% of parents "throw" their children from six months to three years old into nurseries, and those children spend most of their time alone.
Steve Bidulf, an Australian expert in children's education and a famous clinician, has 20 years' experience in children's education. He once advocated early education, but now he finds that ideal and reality are always difficult to match, but he changed his point of view, claiming that parents are the best teachers to train children, and nurseries and kindergartens are only doing "second-rate" work.
Because the best nurseries try to meet the needs of very young children, but because there are too many children, teachers can't take care of them at all, so the result is often counterproductive. Those poor nurseries can't take care of the children at all, only provide them with food and drink and let them move by themselves. These neglected children often have fear, and they will feel the desolation of losing their maternal love, which is undoubtedly a nightmare for children. Their loneliness is heartbreaking.
It is found that children who are placed in nurseries are more aggressive and prone to anti-social behavior.
Bidulf firmly pointed out that more and more evidence is supporting his theory that children who leave their parents to go to nursery too early are more likely to develop aggressive personality, anti-social behavior and other psychological problems, and such children will encounter interpersonal problems in the future and it is not easy to establish intimate relationships with others.
Last year, Dr. Penelope Ritchie, a British authority on children's issues, also issued the same warning. After years of research, she found that children raised by their parents performed better in all aspects than children in nurseries, nurseries or relatives, and they were better physically, psychologically and intellectually than children in other control groups. Ritchie and two professors from Oxford University conducted a follow-up study on 1200 children, and found that children who were put in nurseries from childhood were more aggressive in adolescence. Two other studies also found the same result, that is, the longer you stay in the nursery, the more likely you are to have anti-social behavior and violent behavior. Children's experts point out that morning nursery will seriously affect children's brain development, emotional development, social behavior and cognitive ability training. In addition, their physical development is also slow, their nerves are atrophied and their brains are abnormal, all of which are related to the inability to get one-on-one family care. Therefore, experts suggest that children should be allowed to grow up in a warm and safe family environment instead of sending them to nursery too early.
The best teacher can't take the place of mother. Children under two years old should be taken care of by their mothers one by one.
Bidulf stressed that the most responsible teachers in the best nurseries can't take the place of mothers. Children under two years old should be taken care of by their mothers one by one, and it is the most ideal way for parents to raise them together. If you want your child's brain to develop healthily, you need to stimulate it with love. The interaction between mother and child is the best stimulus, and the care of family and friends is the safest choice for children's development. What the nursery lacks is this kind of influence. Even if the nanny is invited to look after the children at home, it is not as good as the mother's personal care. Besides, most people are not lucky enough to find the ideal nanny.
Children not only need fixed personnel to raise, but also need special care. One-on-one parenting can better meet the baby's needs. Nursery teachers usually take care of several children by themselves, so she can't meet the needs of these children at the same time: drinking milk, urinating, playing games, nursing and so on. Don't think that babies are not sensible. Failure to meet their requirements will make them feel lonely, manifested as irritability and crying. Long-term influence is not conducive to their psychological development, forcing some children to develop aggressive personality, which is the result of lack of emotion.
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The first three years of life affect the last three generations.
Many parents have a misunderstanding, that is, letting their babies enter the nursery early will make them better adapt to the external environment and develop their communication skills earlier. However, experts from the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development in the United States pointed out that the development of babies is special. They need not only continuous care, but also coordinated care, which means that the people they communicate with are relatively fixed, and only parents at home can do this.
Bidulf also admitted that he was a staunch advocate of early childhood education from the beginning, and thought that letting children go to nursery school in the morning had two advantages. First of all, it can help children learn more skills, and because there are many partners, it will also help them learn to communicate and cooperate with others. Second, it will give mothers more time to develop themselves and expand social activities. However, he now finds that this ideal is always difficult to match with reality. He said, "In fact, this is a catastrophic disappointment."
The first 18 months of life is a critical period for the development of brain structure responsible for social and emotional functions, which has an impact on life. The interaction between mother and child plays a key role in the cultivation of this ability. Mother is the regulator of endocrine and nervous system development of infants. In addition, brothers and sisters and grandparents at home are also very important to them. They play the role of helping parents educate their children. Babies get a sense of security from it and get the initial emotional influence. It is through children that human beings convey this emotion. Some experts say that "the first three years of life affect the last three generations" is the truth, and strangers will make them feel unsafe and at a loss.
Psychologically unable to form family feelings. What the nursery lacks is this relatively fixed family atmosphere. Kindergarten teachers are not fixed and often change, such as teachers' illness, vacation and training.
Even if the personnel are relatively fixed, they should take care of the children in shifts, so that the children can't adapt.