Will the high investment in early education have a high return? Don't let the children lose at the starting line? Let your children be better than others from the age of 0 ... At present, early education institutions for children aged 0-6 have sprung up like mushrooms after rain. Will the high investment in early education have a high return?
Will the high investment in early education have a high return? 1 Early education courses will become aristocratic education.
In the publicity materials of some early education institutions, the reporter saw a series of words such as "stimulating potential", "developing intelligence", "cultivating social skills", "inspiring imagination" and "improving emotional intelligence in games", which made parents dazzled and excited. There are many kinds of courses offered by these institutions, but the common feature of most early education classes is "expensive".
The reporter consulted an early education center on Shaoshan North Road as a parent of a 6-month-old child. According to the professional consultant of the center, they arranged two courses for the 6-month-old baby: mother-child fun and sports music. A 45-minute class focuses on the baby's physical quality, senses and cognition. You have to pay tuition for at least half a year or a year. The preferential price for half a year is more than 5000 yuan. You have attended more than 50 classes, and the average cost of each class is 1, 000 yuan.
In addition, some early education centers implement membership system, enjoy high points through one-time large payment, and exchange points for early education hours, prompting parents to continuously invest in them.
Parents' thoughts
Willing to spend a lot of money for children
According to parents, the teaching methods of early education institutions are different and there is no certain standard. Ms. He's five-month-old son has been attending an early education class for two months, with an average monthly tuition fee of 1000 yuan. Ms. He said that in each class, five or six parents are holding their children, doing exercises and playing games under the leadership of a young teacher.
"Sometimes I think the money is not worth it. Just spend money to let children find children to play with. " A mother surnamed Jiang admitted that she gave her baby an early education class because her friends' children were all at school, and she was at a loss about how much influence and role early education could bring to her children.
"As long as it can promote the baby's intellectual development, let the baby show extraordinary temperament from an early age, and speak fluent English at school, the money will not be wasted!" A mother who took a 2-year-old child to an early education experience class expressed her expectations, and her words also represented the voices of some parents. This idea of not letting children lose at the starting line also exposes some parents' thoughts of quick success and instant benefit when educating their children.
Expert reminder
High investment does not necessarily bring high returns.
In the investigation, the reporter found that the price, education and other relevant departments have not yet included early education institutions in the scope of management. There is no uniform standard for the curriculum, tuition and teachers in the high-priced early education industry.
Wan, a preschool education expert from Hunan First Normal University, said in an interview that the current early education market is not mature. Some early education institutions really start from carefully studying the physical and mental characteristics of children aged 0 to 3, while others seize the parents' desire for success and aim at profit. Expensive investment does not necessarily have a high return. The value of early education courses cannot be proved by price, so we must be careful when choosing them. At the same time, it is also hoped that the relevant departments can strengthen management and guide the standardized development of the early education market.
Wan reminded parents that it is important not to cultivate talents, but to cultivate children's healthy psychology and personality, whether it is early education for infants or later study and education.
Will the high investment in early education have a high return? 2 1. Understand the "importance" of early education.
The so-called "early education" is by no means simply learning knowledge and cultivating talents. This is not the main purpose of early education. Let the baby learn in the natural environment, learn from life, guide the baby to do what should and can be done at this age, and promote the baby's physical, intellectual and psychological growth and development. This is the role that early education should play. In addition, the significance of early education lies in grasping the critical period of the baby's growth, fully tapping his potential through external stimulation and guidance, including large-scale exercise, fine movements, visual tracking, inner ear balance rhythm, language, ability to accept instructions, etc., so that the baby's reflection ability, sense of space, physical coordination ability, IQ and so on can be reasonably developed and improved, thus avoiding unnecessary learning obstacles in future life and cultivating social skills and intelligence.
(1) Fully affirm the baby's strengths.
As the old saying goes, "there are more than dozens, and I don't know if the prize is long." When parents reason with their baby, they should fully affirm the baby's advantages, give timely praise and encouragement to the baby's progress, and then correct the baby's mistakes on this basis, so that the baby can easily accept the opinions of adults. Parents should not and should not blame their children for their mistakes. It will only make the baby feel inferior and rebellious.
(2) Be reasonable.
Parents tell their babies to be reasonable, not to talk nonsense, and not to be harsh on them, because adults will not be convinced if they talk nonsense, and they can't do it if they are too demanding. For example, some parents like to eat snacks themselves, but tell their babies the disadvantages of eating snacks. In this case, the baby won't listen.
(3) Give the baby a chance to defend himself.
When parents reason with their baby, the baby may defend his words and deeds. At this time, the baby should be given a chance to defend himself. Parents should understand that defense is not a sophistry, but a chance for the baby to explain things clearly and give the baby a chance to defend himself, so that the baby will better understand what you said and let the education receive good results.
(4) Understand the baby's emotional state.
Babies, like adults, are more likely to accept different opinions when they are in a good mood and go to extremes when they are unhappy. Therefore, when parents reason with their babies, they should fully understand their emotional state and educate them when they are in a good mood. If you reason with them when they are depressed, it won't do.
(5) Early education should be integrated into children's daily life.
Education must run through the baby's life and be with life. The younger you are, the more inseparable education and life are. Every life nursing contains rich educational elements, such as developing the independence of eating, sleeping, pulling and dispersing, developing sanitary habits and developing a positive and diligent attitude towards life. When going out for a walk, the baby can observe ants in the soil, birds in trees, leaves fluttering in the wind, vehicles and pedestrians on the road. Babies have a lot of learning in daily life, and they can learn to control their behavior for a purpose. If parents ask the baby to pack up his toys before going out to play, then the baby will learn to pack up his toys and practice the ability to organize and do things in order to achieve the purpose of playing; If parents insist on telling stories to their babies after doing something well, they can practice their babies to learn to wait, so as to achieve the purpose of listening to stories. There are such educational factors that can be used at any time in life. It can be said that there are teaching materials everywhere, which can be educated at any time. Parents should always be caring people and integrate educational factors into their baby's life.
(6) Early education should be integrated into games.
The game is an activity that pays attention to the process rather than the result and takes the activity process as the activity object. It has the characteristics of pleasure, openness, variability, autonomy and non-utility, and is very suitable for baby's activities. Babies of all ages will be keen on games and pursue the happiness of the process. The younger you are, the worse your sense of purpose is, and the more attracted you will be to the process. The process of playing can develop the baby's physical and mental potential and enrich the spiritual world. Childhood accompanied by games is happy, and they have the opportunity to absorb beneficial elements in the environment in a free and relaxed atmosphere, so as to accumulate strength for future development. At the same time, they also learn to have fun with themselves in the game and get a happy mood. Therefore, parents should cherish the baby's childhood and create conditions for the baby to grow up in the game. Create a game situation for your baby and encourage your baby to participate in or enjoy your baby's game. As Froebel said, "Cultivating children in games is the beginning of all education".
(7) to conform to the baby's nature
Baby's growth education should let nature take its course. And playing is a baby's nature. Playing is not only a good way for babies to gain knowledge and experience, but also a socialization process. In this process, the baby's imagination and creativity are stimulated, and gradually form an optimistic and enthusiastic character and a spirit of mutual assistance and cooperation. In life, many parents don't realize the significance of "playing" to their baby's growth, and arbitrarily think that "playing" means doing nothing. It seems that only reading, reciting, reading foreign languages and doing arithmetic all day are "serious things". Parents who are eager for their children's success are trying their best to "open a small stove" for their babies, and the babies are forced to "eat grass" like a group of lambs. In fact, how many babies can accept and digest? Therefore, parents should keep a normal heart for their baby's growth and let nature take its course.
(8) Pay attention to the cultivation of the baby's non-intelligence factors.
The learning process of any knowledge contains a series of scientific and complex psychological factors, some of which are related to learning enthusiasm, such as emotion, will, behavior, etc., which belong to the category of non-intelligence factors, and non-intelligence factors have a positive role in promoting the development of intelligence and cognitive processes. In the process of understanding things, the combination of the above factors directly affects the development of baby's potential. The development of supernormal babies' intelligence and special abilities, in addition to the better quality conditions they may have, is mainly acquired efforts. They all have the same personality characteristics: curiosity, self-confidence and strong will, and they can always get rid of all kinds of troubles and stick to it. These are the results of non-mental retardation. In the process of early education, it is particularly important to cultivate the baby's non-intelligence factors, because good personality quality can benefit people for life, so we should take some good qualities shown by the baby as an opportunity to cultivate and promote the development of the baby's non-intelligence factors. Therefore, parents should seize the "best period" of their baby's psychological development and seize the opportunity of sowing in spring.
(9) Enrich the baby's experience.
Under the premise of safety, health and hygiene, enrich the baby's experience as much as possible. Baby's learning is based on the process of play and experience. Early education is not to educate a baby into a super genius, but to tap the baby's potential through senses and personal experience, so that he can have more experiences. Pay attention to repeatability, consistency and age when enriching the baby experience. For example, after returning home from an early education class in an early education institution, you should repeat the contents of the class so that the baby can re-understand, and the behavior or standards should be consistent every time. The content of early education should be suitable for the baby's age.
(10) Try to make the baby's senses absorb more and encourage the baby to express.
Multi-sensory absorption can make the baby experience the versatility of things more than blunt and boring plane contact. For example, reading a travel book is much more lively and interesting than actually traveling. At the same time, encourage your baby to express more, even if his expression is incorrect, you can't blame him. For example, if you let the baby take the ball, he will bring the basketball. At this time, you can't tell him "Baby, you took it wrong", but you should tell him "Baby, you are amazing, you brought the basketball, now go get the ball" in an encouraging tone. When he takes basketball again, you still have to encourage him, "It's amazing that the baby takes basketball twice".
(1 1) Treat the baby equally and respect the baby's personality.
When faced with a choice, don't help your baby make a decision without authorization. Let him make his own choices, as long as he is safe and healthy, encourage and agree with the baby's decision. Don't order the baby, but give him a choice.
2. Pay attention to the "don't" of early education.
The baby begins to learn from the first day of birth. Babies need a good basic education, which has become the knowledge of most parents. However, many parents believe that when the baby is still young, he should be allowed to grow up "freely" as much as possible, without giving too many artificial guidance and constraints, otherwise it will not only "destroy" the relaxed and happy childhood, but also have a negative impact on the baby's health and ability development.
In infancy, babies have great potential, and the earlier they start education, the more conducive they are to the development of their potential abilities. If parents can pay attention to the "don't" of early education, it will be good for the healthy growth of the baby's life.
(1) Don't worry, don't compare.
At different stages, the baby will develop different degrees of ability. If the requirements for him exceed this actual level, it is inevitable that someone will be forced to do so. Especially for babies, sometimes after a few months, there will be great differences in physical and intellectual development. Knowing this, parents should not worry too much. In addition, avoid unnecessary comparisons with other babies; The baby in the neighbor's house next door can already bat the ball, and the baby who can speak English can already speak English. ,,,, In fact, this is meaningless. Every baby has its own growth rhythm, which may be slower than other babies in these aspects, but it is normal to be faster in other aspects. It is natural to ask the baby not to lag behind others in everything, to be the same as or better than others. After all, what's the problem even if the baby can't learn to hit the ball all the time? It is said that Lenin never learned the pronunciation of Lickitung (the most difficult pronunciation in Russian) in his life, which did not prevent him from becoming a great man. Of course, it is good for the baby's all-round development, but it is unrealistic to ask him to be "comprehensive".
(2) Don't underestimate your love for your baby, and don't hit your baby.
Traditional China people express their feelings implicitly. Therefore, it is necessary to break through the traditional way of expression, express love with language, and let the baby feel directly. Surrounding the baby in this loving atmosphere is an effective way to establish intimacy and laziness. And don't hit the baby, the baby will make mistakes, but remember, he didn't mean to. Babies can lie when they are 2 years old. If you hit him, it will only give him more pressure and continue to lie. The correct way is to tell him what is right, instead of accusing him or even hitting him.
(3) Don't "pull out the seedlings to encourage them"
Many parents have unrealistic expectations for early education. Some parents think that the baby should be prepared for school as soon as possible, so that a 4-year-old baby can master the knowledge of primary school in advance. In fact, parents are too eager to achieve success in their baby's early education and ignore the foundation of learning. Learning to think is the premise of learning other knowledge. On the one hand, early education should adapt to the baby's thinking development level, on the other hand, it should also help the baby master the thinking method.
(4) Don't dampen the baby's enthusiasm because of comparison.
Sometimes, it's not intentional, but parents like to say to Bao, "Look, whose baby is learning so well, why can't you do anything?" This comparison will make the baby feel frustrated to a great extent and begin to face learning negatively. In fact, when the baby is young, it is easy to cultivate his interest in learning English, but the older he is, the more he can't afford it. At this time, parents should adopt encouraging strategies and pay attention to the baby's personal progress instead of always comparing the strengths of other babies. Baby education can only be carried out when the baby is not antagonistic, so that they can develop voluntarily.
Don't learn by rote
When parents coach or supervise their babies' learning, the goal should not be to list meaningless knowledge. In the baby stage, the baby should rely on his own efforts to discover the colorful world around him and gradually enrich his perceptual knowledge. Knowledge is valuable only if it becomes the driving force of intellectual activities.
(6) Don't pursue "standard answers"
In exam-oriented education, there is always a standard answer, and only by answering the standard answer can you get full marks. But there is no such answer in real life. The society is changing, and the baby's future must be created by himself. Therefore, parents should cultivate creativity in their babies' infancy. In the excellent early education guide, the method often used is to guide the baby to think, discover and encourage their new ideas, and improve the baby's creative ability in the application of creative methods.
(7) Don't always live alone.
Pursuing children's all-round and harmonious development and cultivating good personality is an important trend of early childhood education in the world. Infant is an important period of personality formation. Babies always play by themselves, or always pester their parents, and their personalities will not develop in a balanced way. It is an interaction and mutual promotion for the baby to integrate into the group and communicate and play with other people in the group. Only by laying a solid foundation in early childhood education can personality develop in a balanced way.
(8) Don't neglect your role in early childhood education.
Although many parents accept the concept of early education, they actually don't respect it. For example, some parents just take their baby to class every time, twice a week, and even if they complete the task of "early education" with their baby, they expect the baby to really develop their intelligence and improve their ability, but in fact the effect is minimal. The reason is not the problem of early education schools, but that parents ignore the connection between early education schools and family early education.
What a baby learns in an early education school needs to be repeated and strengthened by parents in life, which is determined by the baby's cognitive characteristics. The teaching philosophy of early education schools also needs parents to implement in their lives, so that their babies can receive a unified standard of continuing education, instead of one set at school and another set at home. The effect of such dual-track early education can be imagined.
Many parents don't know how to love their babies or educate them in the traditional way. Even if you go to an early education class, you push early education to the school, but you lack interaction with your baby. In fact, for infants and young children, the key is to cultivate interest in learning, rather than instilling knowledge, which requires parents and early education schools to do simultaneously.
For example, to learn the violin, children should first enjoy playing the violin through music lessons. Once they find themselves interested in the violin, their parents don't have to force them, they will study voluntarily. But at home, parents still have to let their babies enjoy it, and they can't continue to force their babies to learn the piano in a forced way as before. This implementation is very important for the effectiveness of early education.
As the concept of early education in China is still immature, parents need more guidance and know more about it. Therefore, in addition to implementing the contents of early education classes after class, parents should also experience the learning process with their babies in early education and feel the happiness and sense of accomplishment in learning.
(9) Don't shy away from sex education for your baby.
It is a common fault of China's parents to regard "sex" as a scourge and prevent their babies from receiving sex education. In fact, sex education is a compulsory course for babies. Why do you say that? When the baby grows up, many parents will find a lot of information about the baby's upcoming sex. This question will make parents feel particularly confused because they don't know how to answer it. For example, a baby often asks, "Mom, how did I get here?"? How did you give birth to me? " Mom will have a hard time answering. Even the baby will ask more complicated questions, and parents don't know how to answer them. Because most of our parents in China have no formal sex education, they don't know how to face these problems, but they have to face them. Therefore, it is necessary to give proper sex education to the baby.
(10) Don't say anything to the baby.
In the family, parents mainly rely on language communication to educate their babies. Therefore, parents' language plays a vital role in the baby's growth. If parents often say something they shouldn't say, it will seriously affect the formation and development of baby's healthy psychology, which is not conducive to the healthy growth of baby.
The baby's self-confidence is gradually established in the affirmation of parents, so when the baby can't do something well, parents should not say, "You are so stupid!" " "In this way, the baby will show a state of retreat and depression, so he is afraid to try new explorations. Encourage the baby to continue to work hard.
2 The baby's psychological endurance is relatively poor, and it is easily influenced by the external environment. Therefore, parents should create a harmonious and warm family environment for their babies. If parents often quarrel, blame and belittle each other when things happen, it will reduce the prestige of parents in the baby's mind and lead to the baby's disrespect for parents. Therefore, parents should live in harmony.
The baby is very imitative, and the language of parents has a great subtle influence on the baby. Therefore, parents should be standardized, fluent and civilized, and try to avoid swearing and swearing. Otherwise, the baby will follow the example of parents and swear words, which will bring bad influence to the baby.
Baby's self-esteem and positive and optimistic attitude are cultivated by parents' respect. Therefore, parents should respect their babies and don't hurt their personality and self-esteem at will. When the baby does something wrong, criticize the baby's own advantages and don't involve the baby's personality. Parents can say, "What you did today is wrong!" And explain to the baby why it is wrong, where it is wrong, patiently reason with the baby and persuade the baby to correct it, instead of saying, "You idiot, always do something wrong!" " "This will hurt the baby's self-esteem, make the baby lose the fun of getting along with his parents, and also put a lot of pressure on the baby and make him feel depressed.
Happiness is a baby's nature. To cultivate a baby's happy personality, we must not only ensure that he has a healthy body, but also have appropriate educational methods. In education, we should adopt more positive education. For example, if the baby's reading posture is wrong, parents should say to him in a consultative tone: "Can you sit up straight?" Instead of saying, "Don't read like this." For example, the picture drawn by the baby is not very good in some places. Parents should kindly and gently say to the baby, "You draw very well. It would be better if we changed places again. " Instead of saying, "Look at what you drew, it's a mess!" "In this way, the baby will think that his parents are deliberately playing tricks on him, or that his parents don't like him or love him, which will be very sad.
Fear has a great influence on the baby's physical and mental health, so parents should not scare the baby. For example, if the baby can't sleep well, parents should stay with the baby quietly, or tell the baby a story quietly to coax him to sleep, instead of saying, "If you can't sleep well, let others take you away!" "For another example, when the baby is disobedient, be patient and reason with him. Correct his mistake and don't say, "If you don't listen, I'll throw you into the street!" " "Often intimidate the baby, the baby will have fear, and it is easy to become timid, timid, withdrawn and withdrawn.
⑦ Games can puzzle and develop the baby's thinking. Parents should cultivate their baby's interest in the game, participate in the baby's game with an equal attitude with the baby, and put the baby in the leading role. If the baby has difficulties and needs inspiration, induction or demonstration, parents should not arrange it. For example, if the baby has difficulty in building blocks, parents can say, "Baby, use your brain carefully. Mom and Dad believe that you will build it. " Instead of saying, "You should put this building block here and that building block there?" In this way, it is difficult for the baby to enjoy the joy of success after his own efforts. After a long time, the baby will lose interest in the game.
Babies' trust in their parents is the basis for them to live in harmony with their parents. Therefore, parents should pay attention to winning the baby's trust, and don't often tell lies because the baby is still young. If they tell too many lies, the baby will never believe anything their parents say again, and the consequences will be tantamount to "wolf coming". Although the baby is very young, parents should keep the rumor and tell them the truth.
Pet-name ruby what the baby knows is often preconceived, so when parents answer the baby's questions, one must be accurate and the other must be realistic. Parents can say, "I don't know the answer to this question. Can I tell you when I understand? " Don't talk nonsense because of face problems. This makes the baby have a wrong understanding, which is misleading to the baby and will form a wrong concept in the baby's mind.
Attending the baby's ability to distinguish right from wrong is still relatively poor. Therefore, parents should try to be consistent when educating their babies. When parents educate their baby, don't say "it's all mom's (dad's) fault, which makes the baby cry." Dad (mom) beat mom (dad) for you. " In this case, the baby will be at a loss, and when punished by one party, he will seek asylum from the other party. At this rate, the baby won't correct his mistake.
(1 1) Don't deliberately underestimate and belittle your baby's ability.
Deliberately belittling and belittling the baby's ability is also a manifestation of "spiritual punishment". In order not to make the baby proud, some parents often belittle the baby's progress, blindly compare the advantages of other babies with the shortcomings of their own babies, scold and satirize them, so that the baby can't see his own advantages, and he has a sense of inferiority since he was a child. However, a person whose self-esteem has been frustrated since childhood will have many psychological and behavioral obstacles, such as self-denial, lack of love, anxiety and other psychological diseases. When he grows up, he will find it difficult to adapt to society and even embark on the road of crime.
In order to establish the baby's initial self-esteem, parents should cherish and care for the baby's self-esteem just like cherishing and protecting a beautiful glassware, avoid the harm caused by their words and deeds, and let the baby's heart be bathed in the warmth of family and the love of parents forever.
In daily life, parents should cherish their baby's self-esteem and pay attention to the following questions:
Parents should pay attention to the occasion, don't be sarcastic, sarcastic and reprimanded in public, but adopt the method of positive guidance and individual heart-to-heart, to impress people with emotion and convince them with reason.
When the baby does something wrong, don't scold and blame. You should find out the baby's motives and reasons, and then guide them to help the baby find the reasons.
③ When educating the baby, we should pay attention to pertinence, deal with the matter as it is, and don't shake out the past "historical problems" and "old scores", so that the baby will be discouraged and give up.
4 the requirements for the baby are moderate, not too strict, and the requirements should be relaxed appropriately. Babies who grow up in an overly strict background often lack self-esteem and have excessive dependence; On the contrary, the baby's shortcomings should not be connived and connived. In the case of not damaging the baby's self-esteem, use persuasion to let the baby overcome the shortcomings.
⑤ When the baby makes achievements and progress, even if it is insignificant to adults, it should be praised and affirmed in time.
6. Don't always praise other babies and compare them, which will make them feel inferior.