In this way, when I was in class, after class, and when I couldn't sleep at night, I was thinking. As a result, I became more and more weird, more and more extreme, more and more paranoid and more inferior. I don't want others to know, and I dare not let others know. I even thought about suicide, but this is ridiculous. I am afraid of pain. In fact, it is cowardice (haha). Slowly, this has seriously affected my life. Of course, my strange behavior must have been seen by my family. However, they didn't take it seriously, just taught me a lesson. Every time I am taught a lesson, I feel wronged, because I feel that no one understands me and no one can understand me, and I refuse to tell my family what I think, so this world-weariness will be even stronger.
To tell the truth, dogs will jump over the wall when they are in a hurry, let alone people. I have also told my family implicitly that it may be because my parents have worked too hard for us, and because my family is in the countryside, who would have thought of such advanced things as mental illness? My family just thinks I think too much and doesn't let me think too much at all. Therefore, we can only rely on our own psychological adjustment and fight step by step.
But for me, it may not be easy. In this way, this state continued until I went to high school. As I said before, I have a cheerful personality, which just fits. But gradually, I couldn't help it anymore. Do you know what it feels like to be buried in your heart? You think people look at you differently. No one can understand you. You just stubbornly live in your own sad world. One day, it may be an explosion that has been suppressed for a long time, or I just want to release it. I told my family everything without reservation, my thoughts, my actions and everything I experienced. Obviously, they looked very surprised and sad after listening, with a hint of blame. Said I didn't tell them earlier, I kept it all in my heart. Alas, I really blame myself now that I think about it.
So, my parents took me to treatment, but I was eighteen years old that year, and the treatment seemed very simple. I don't understand why I have seen so many doctors. Many people lined up in the house, waiting to tell their illness. It's my turn, looking at so many people. I think they're all staring at me. I felt ashamed, ashamed, so I didn't elaborate, that is, I didn't know until then. It turns out that seeing a psychiatrist is different from watching TV. Two people in an independent space, guarding your privacy and your final dignity. Because of this sense of shame, I described it to the doctor very simply, and the doctor didn't care too much, and then he let me out. After a while, a doctor gave me a thick stack of questionnaires to fill out, saying it was an analysis. I filled it out for about an hour, then gave it to him, and then I had an MRI (it felt really expensive). I don't remember the final result, except that the doctor asked us to get the medicine, and I forgot the name of the medicine. Only a few boxes a month, but it's also super expensive. I still remember that I glanced at the adaptation symptoms, only remembering that it said: it is suitable for psychological diseases such as adaptive anxiety disorder. Then we went home, maybe it was psychological. I really feel much better after taking the medicine. Anyway, I didn't eat, so I stopped eating. Am I ready? Of course not! I don't eat because I feel useless!
Maybe I'm getting old (I'm 22, I don't know for ten years), or maybe I have a set of self-adjustment methods after a long time. But it's obvious: I know it's much better, much more comfortable and much less wronged. Because I didn't say it in time before, I suppressed it for many years. Because I am not understood, believed or recognized, I am still suffering occasionally.
Having said so much, it seems to be beside the point. Finally, I just want to say that if someone around you suffers from mental illness, don't just refute them and accuse them. Please try to understand them, trust them and become the person they believe, recognize and want to talk to. Some of your understanding, a little kindness and a hug will bring them great comfort, endless confidence and powerful strength to fight against it. One more thing: self-psychological adjustment is very important, very important. Think more about happy things, do more things you like, be positive and be happy in the sun. What can't be overcome? For love, we and the people we love, work hard! )
I don't know if your child's experience is similar to mine, but I think if I can give you some help through my experience, I won't say it for nothing.
I am a junior high school math teacher, majoring in math problems. I have been a class teacher for many years, and I still know a little about all kinds of children.
First of all, what is the so-called childhood depression? Children don't like talking and fighting, they just sit in a daze. This is your own intuition.
Second, to understand why children are like this, you can talk to them less seriously. Actually, there is no need to talk seriously. If you do this, the child really thinks he is a patient, so you can't talk too seriously.
Third, children are very young and can easily change from life. Take the children out for outdoor sports, climb mountains and play ball games, and participate in outdoor activities with collective participation. You can ask your child for advice and invite his classmates and friends to get together at home.
Fourth, you can happily clean up the housework with your children, change the hygiene and environmental decoration of your home, throw away some things, and add some new things to your home.
Fifth, this is also a very important one. A good parent-child relationship and a harmonious and happy family are the guarantee of children's physical and mental health and the fertile ground for their healthy growth.
In many previous articles, I mainly discussed what to do if I get depressed, but from the background consultation, many people who consult are not depressed patients, but their children get depressed. The child got depression, what should parents do?
Parents can mainly start from the following four points:
1. The most important thing is to help children get correct diagnosis and treatment. You really want to help depressed children, but first you must realize that your help is not enough. The recovery of children can't rely on your help alone. You need to make an appointment for them, accompany them to see a doctor and encourage them to receive professional treatment. Remember, the combination of medication and psychotherapy is the most effective way to treat depression.
Another important thing is to give emotional support. 3. Talk to your child about suicide. Ask your child if he has ever thought about suicide and if he has a suicide plan under consideration. Asking these questions objectively can open a door for your children and give them a chance to tell you something they don't want to tell you. If the child really has suicidal thoughts, it is important to isolate the child from suicide tools.
For example, toxic drugs and knives are locked up, and guardrails are installed on balcony windowsills of high-rise buildings. Parents often worry that talking about suicide with their children "will plant this idea in their minds."
Please rest assured that psychological research shows that answering questions about suicide will not induce teenagers to consider suicide, nor will it cause them a high degree of psychological pain. If the topic of suicide is avoided, the child will face the painful struggle alone.
4. Be patient. It takes a long time to recover from depression Children may have recurrent attacks and may try to overcome depression, but they always fail. Because depression can damage patients' motivation to change. Without the motivation to change, depression takes a long time to cure. Therefore, be patient with the child and the healing process. Please wait for the treatment to take effect.
First of all, you should go to the psychology department or psychiatric department of a regular hospital for diagnosis. If you have been diagnosed with depression, then the next step is to treat it well. Depression is not a refractory disease, so don't worry too much. The difficulty in the treatment of depression lies in adhering to scientific methods.
Generally speaking, the better treatment for depression is the combination of medicine and psychology. If the degree of depression is serious, or in the acute stage, drug treatment can better stabilize the disease. After that, psychological treatment is needed to speed up recovery and prevent recurrence. Teenagers are in the immature stage of cognition, so they should pay more attention to psychotherapy.
A very important cause of depression is the thinking mode of depression or anxiety. This mode of thinking can be understood as psychological habit. Because of depressed psychological habits, people with depression are prone to fall into depression. Therefore, it is very important to learn scientific coping methods and avoid falling into the psychological habit of depression. After a long time, the thinking mode of depression or anxiety will change and depression will gradually recover.
Mindfulness and cognitive behavioral therapy are the first two methods in rehabilitation training to change thinking mode. These two methods have been scientifically demonstrated and clinically verified, which are effective methods for the rehabilitation of depression and the prevention of recurrence. There are a lot of relevant materials and information for reference in Jianxin Home APP.
Parents will also bear greater psychological pressure after their children get depression. Only by taking good care of your emotions, maintaining physical and mental health and positive sunshine can you create a good rehabilitation environment for your children and take better care of them. Mindfulness and cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) can not only help children, but also help parents to improve their mood and happiness. Therefore, if parents can also learn these two methods and experience the help of scientific methods, they can better help their children learn and apply scientific methods. Therefore, it is a wise choice to study mindfulness and cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) with children.
In addition, to help depressed families, it is important to have high-quality company, especially for younger children. For matters needing attention in caring for and accompanying children, please refer to the article "Psychologist: What is needed to take good care of depressed patients" in Jianxin Home APP: /Water/share/web? Url =% water% 2f Project% 2f Details% 3f Project Id%3D688
Parents should seek professional diagnosis and help as soon as possible when their children suffer from depression.
What should parents do if the child is diagnosed? How to educate children and reduce the possibility of getting sick? First, a democratic family atmosphere: children should be educated to a certain extent, so that children have a certain choice. If you choose what clothes to wear and where to play ... parents should respect their children, pay attention to communication with them and create a harmonious and democratic family atmosphere. Children who enjoy "democratic" choices will feel happy and independent.
Second, the family atmosphere is harmonious: don't quarrel in front of children, and don't tell children about the faults of other family members, because a harmonious family atmosphere has a great influence on the formation of children's personality. Only when the family environment is harmonious can children grow up easily and happily.
Third, pay attention to the cultivation of independent ability: don't do everything for your child and solve all problems for him, which will make your child unable to withstand setbacks and fragile. It can give children some suggestions on how to deal with problems, guide them out of difficulties, cultivate good adaptability, solve problems and think independently, and also help build self-confidence.
Fourth, the establishment of self-confidence: parents should praise and encourage their children's good behavior, avoid too much criticism and criticism, not to mention sarcasm, which will help children overcome their inferiority complex and build up their self-confidence.
Social skills training: unsociable children can't feel the warmth of friendship, so most of them are depressed. Children should be encouraged to make more friends, get along well with others, treat others sincerely, organize more emotional exchange activities between children, cultivate optimistic and tolerant personality and enjoy the warmth of friendship.
Sixth, cultivate children's extensive hobbies: children's happiness comes from many aspects. For example, if a child only likes playing computer, he will be unhappy if the power goes out one day. If he also likes football and painting, then his choices will be wider and he will be happy for a long time.
Seven, life is simple: the excessive luxury of material life will make it difficult for children to satisfy themselves, which will lead to unhappiness. On the contrary, children who live an ordinary life will often have fun as long as they get a new toy.
In addition to educational methods, parents should also pay attention to their children's companionship, instead of giving them to the elderly completely, artificially creating more hidden left-behind children. The love of parents is indispensable in the process of children's psychological growth. Without it, children will be extremely insecure, lack of family warmth, become indifferent and withdrawn, and even have depression.
I got this disease last year. I have been insomnia for several months and have a bad headache. I feel that I will die suddenly at any moment. I wish I were dead. I haven't recovered yet, but I'm much better.
This disease is a mental cold. I beat it myself. Because I work in poor areas abroad, I have never taken medicine or seen a doctor.
I am 33 years old, and I have withstood the baptism of depression. It was true that I was on the verge of life and death for a few months at any time. Now I am grateful for this depression, which makes me rethink my life on the verge of life and death. Now I am more mature than my peers and have deeper life experience.
I am grateful for depression, which makes me more mature, and it is a shortcut ladder in my life.
The key child refused to go out.
Although many people have begun to pay attention to psychological problems in recent years, they will go to a psychologist for help when they have emotional problems, but for children, parents are also very important to rely on, so parents must also pay attention. Let's see: How do parents treat depressed children? 1. Psychotherapy: Parents should pay attention to inspiring their children, don't give them too much pressure in study and life, and let them contact with other peers more so that their body and mind can be released. When the child is seriously depressed, parents can take the child for psychological counseling and ask a more professional psychologist to help the child correct his psychological problems. At the same time, parents should also correct their own educational methods to achieve therapeutic effects.
2. Educational therapy: Parents should correctly use the methods of educating their children, which has a great influence on children. Parents should not be too indulgent to their children, let alone too strict with them, and should not ignore their feelings. Only by adopting correct educational methods can children's depression be alleviated.
3. Drug treatment: For school-age children, if depression is serious, some antidepressants can be used for adjuvant treatment. Of course, if it is not necessary or the doctor does not recommend medication, you should not give medication to your child without authorization, so as not to have any adverse effects on your child's growth and development.