Do families like sons better now? A few years ago, there were thick painted words printed on the wall: "All boys and girls are the same". On the contrary, according to the survey index of residents' happiness, the happiness index of two-child families is comparable to that of one-child families, but the happiness index of one child and one daughter is the highest, followed by two daughters and two sons.

Since the opening of the second child policy, cousins began to consider having a second child. As an elder, grandpa advised them to have another child. How much can a child spend in his eyes? Eldest brother has successfully persuaded him to have a second child, but second brother is even more disappointed. After all, the first child is a boy, and if the second child is still a boy, the pressure is not generally great.

The high cost of raising a second child is obvious, and the high-cost life is doomed to be dull, especially for ordinary families. Why is the first child a son's family, and still hesitating after the second child policy is greatly liberalized? Mainly families with two sons, the economic and living pressure is really not great.

Short-term: the living standard of a family has dropped significantly.

Now most young people are burdened with high mortgage, but this is only the beginning. I still remember the words of my colleagues: "Where can this be?" When you have children, you will find that life in debt has just begun. "At first, I thought that as long as I took a sip of soup, I would never starve my children. Now that I think about it, it's really irresponsible.

No one has calculated the cost of raising a child to adulthood, but at least it is much greater than the pressure of mortgage. From the birth of a child, we should consider what milk powder to drink, what preschool classes to enroll in, and whether to attend public or private kindergartens. Trouble after trouble, money is pouring out like water.

For young people who have just graduated for a few years and have a weak foundation, this will undoubtedly reduce their enthusiasm and quality of life. Two sons mean more. From the time they are born, parents have to prepare twice as much money for houses, cars and bride price. But does this mean that the family of two sons will be very hard in 20 years?

Long-term: financial and operational support for children when they grow up.

After the two sons grow up smoothly, if they are not geniuses, almost all of them have to go through a life of seeking the other half with a meager salary every month. Finally, for the sake of long-term love, elderly parents help to manage the down payment of house purchase, which is a normal state of China families and must be faced. Some people say that invisible pressure is the most deadly!

After talking about financial support, let's talk about action support. If all goes well, the children get married smoothly and their careers start to a certain extent, then the problem they face is their children's children. When you have a grandson as you wish, the problem comes again. The boss needs to be taken care of, and the second needs to be taken care of. Which side should you help?

A few days ago, there was a particularly interesting thing. It was said that an old couple in their sixties had been separated for a year and could not meet until the Spring Festival. Asked the reason, it turns out that the two sons live too far away, and both sides need to take care of their grandchildren. In order to be impartial, they can only take care of one with their wives.

Now, do you think money can solve all your troubles? The answer may not be what you think.

In fact, you can't do without money, but money is still not everything. If parents work hard to make money and have no time to care about their children, then even if their children have more toys and snacks, their hearts will still be lonely and gray.

Sometimes, emotional giving is much more meaningful than money giving. If parents pay more attention to education, guidance and companionship, then children may be better and feel at ease in the future, because children have the ability to support themselves.

Therefore, giving birth to a boy or a girl, whether it is hard after 20 years, mostly because of the efforts of the previous 20 years. Relatively speaking, the pressure of two sons will be greater, but this does not mean that it will be very hard after 20 years. Instead of worrying about these, it is better to work harder on spiritual education.