During the period of love, many women are addicted to men's sweet words, thinking that spirit is the most important and material things can work together, so they start a "happy" life, regardless of the man's own economic strength and the other's family circumstances.

So many girls are willing to get married without a house, a car and a bride price. In the end, life taught them a painful lesson.

My best friend Xiaoqing is a simple girl. Because her parents were busy with work and neglected spiritual care in her early years, she was very eager for emotional comfort.

Later, she met Xiang Qun, a man who wanted to spend time with her.

When it rains, the other party will always come to send an umbrella at the first time and won't let her go home alone; When wronged, the other party will listen to her voice patiently and comfort her appropriately.

All kinds of thoughtful behaviors made up for the vacancy in her heart for many years and captured her heart. They fell in love.

In the process of getting along, she learned that Xiang Qun's family was not very good. When her father was young, she took her son as a son-in-law and went to his mother's house. With the death of grandparents, all her property was left to her uncle and aunt, so their family could only live in relatives' homes.

Out of love for Xiangqun, Xiaoqing didn't care too much about it. She usually tries to save money and date AA. When Xiaoqing's parents object to their relationship because they are worried that their daughter will suffer with him, Xiaoqing always gives the other party reasons, such as "poor family makes him more motivated" and "frugal marriage will not waste money". It can be said that Xiaoqing's love for Xiangqun is very selfless, and even shortcomings can be beautified into advantages.

When she is immersed in each other's "perfection", she can no longer rationally look at the hardships of her future life.

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After two years of love, Xiang Qun proposed to Xiaoqing, 25, saying that although she didn't have a house or a car, she would work hard in the future.

At this time, Xiaoqing's parents could not agree, so they made some angry words and asked them to break up.

However, Xiaoqing has adapted to Xiangqun's company, and the thought of being separated from her boyfriend is like a knife. She had to get married behind his parents' backs and start renting a house.

At first, they were inseparable and did not feel the pressure of life, but they soon had to face the reality.

As soon as the monthly salary is paid, it will be contributed to the rent first, and because Xiangqun's parents have no stable source of income, they also need the help of the young couple in their daily lives.

So Xiaoqing is no longer free to spend as before. Even if the moisturizing lotion and skin care lotion are used up, the skin is too dry and dandruff is too much, she can only wait until next month when she gets paid. I dare not buy new clothes easily when changing seasons, so I have to make ends meet.

This kind of life makes Xiaoqing feel very uncomfortable, but she can only learn to accept it and expect her parents-in-law to be better to herself, which may realize her original intention, that is, her parents-in-law should be better to her in order to accompany her son to suffer.

Unexpectedly, after going to her husband's house, her mother-in-law was afraid that Xiaoqing had a big temper or looked down on her son. She always tries to demoralize her and is "aggressive".

Her housework roughened her hands. Mother-in-law saw the sore on her hand and didn't say anything, "My son and I have suffered together, so we should love you well." Instead, she said angrily, "You are spoiled ... my son is looked down upon by you." Or "Hey, you're not so good either. There are broken pots and shovels on both sides. "

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In addition, it is also thankless for her to take the initiative to pay for her in-laws, and she can't get half a compliment from her in-laws.

Xiaoqing once bought a blood-enriching red mushroom for her mother-in-law. Her mother-in-law turned to her son and said, "Mom, I know you have been very filial."

But Xiang Qun confessed to his mother, "Your daughter-in-law bought this for you specially."

The mother-in-law looked surprised and disbelieved and pulled her son aside to talk, but Xiaoqing still heard what they said: "What you bought is what you bought. Don't do merit for your wife! Mom has been through it, and your life is not very good. How can she have no resentment, and where will she buy things for us! "

For this matter, Xiaoqing is also very helpless and smiles.

Later, because my in-laws did not have a stable source of income and felt insecure in their later years, they often confided to their relatives: "I don't know if my old daughter-in-law will give money and look at others' faces!"

A word is like telling Xiaoqing that she is a bad daughter-in-law, which makes Xiaoqing cold. Obviously, because she found a husband's family with a relatively weak economy, she was in financial difficulties. She didn't complain at all and wanted to help them generously.

But I didn't expect her mother-in-law to have a sense of fear and morality kidnapped her. Xiaoqing then fell into an unfortunate marriage dilemma both materially and spiritually.

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Later, during Xiaoqing's pregnancy and delivery, because the cost of caesarean section was too expensive, she had to be strong and chose a natural delivery. Her husband's family is not well connected. When hospital beds are in short supply, Xiaoqing can only be arranged in the corridor. When the autumn wind blows, she will get sick and have a headache.

After the baby was born, the babies who looked after their girlfriends all wore new clothes and got big red envelopes, while their children could only wear old clothes brought by their mother-in-law from their neighbors ..... She finally knew that the pain of getting married regardless of her family was not only hers, but also her next generation.

As the children grow up, Xiaoqing can't save money to train her own children when other children go to early education, learn piano and learn painting.

Over the years, she seldom buys new clothes, let alone the cosmetics she once said she would buy. It has always been an unreachable dream that my husband promised to buy a house and a car when he was in love.

Because of poor economic conditions, she has no face to face her sisters and always feels that she can't compare with others; In order to save money, I also tried to turn down the invitation to afternoon tea, so I had a lot fewer friends. She often feels helpless, but no one tells her, so she can only compromise silently in life.

Now Xiaoqing finally repented at the age of 30. Marriage is really no better than love. After marriage, there are too many trivial and expensive places. If you just need the sweetness of love, then marriage is really hard to satisfy you.

After all, if you want to be sweet, you can enjoy the sweetness of love on the basis of material. If two people are worried about material things, how much energy do you think they will have to enjoy love? After all, there are too few people who can find pleasure in life.

From Xiaoqing's experience, we can also know that women need to have ambition and live independently of men, but they can't help but fall in love blindly without considering their own home and start living from poverty to poverty.

I hope that other women who are about to enter marriage will not indulge in too beautiful fantasies and eventually fall into unexpected darkness.