Frankly speaking, I only read the ninth chapter of this book. Maybe the practical part of the second half needs to be studied more carefully. In the process of reading, several parts of this book shocked me. Here I mainly want to say one of them according to my own personal experience: Where does the optimism of children come from?
"Whether children are optimistic or not has a lot to do with family genes-the way parents explain problems-the way close contacts such as teachers and friends look at problems. Parents are optimistic and children are more likely to be optimistic. When criticizing or guiding children, we should be careful not to interpret the problem as long-term, universal and personal, but to interpret the problem as temporary and individual. "
Before reading this book, in fact, I have had many experiences of turning over the pot in the morning. I didn't care and corrected it in time. We were together all weekend, which was amazing: the porridge burned my mouth, and she angrily accused me of "why did you ask me to eat so hot?" Can't it wait? " When playing water polo, she took another type of balloon to catch water, but it couldn't fit into the faucet. "It's all my mother's fault. How did you buy such a small balloon! " When did this child become so unattractive? Early teaching tells us that when children wrestle, we can't blame the uneven floor in front of them. The whole family has been doing well.
"Description style"! ! ! My explanation sent a clear signal to my children. You know, I am a typical "baggage-shedding" personality. When something happened, I immediately thought of two things: first, I didn't screw up, and second, who can I turn to for help. But Chen Chen's father is completely different: first, can he solve it by himself? Second, he still depends on himself. Although this fully shows that our three views are not so consistent, at this point, we are actually full of respect for my husband, a real warrior.
I first thought of being a parent when I was a child. Zheng wrote in a book: "If you want your children to be as successful as you are, you should be a born actor. You should let him see your normal appearance, and then you should discipline him more; But if you want your children to be better than you, you can play. When you are an acting school, you can show it to him. " When I became a mother, I was very serious about acting and acting. Seriously "acting" for four years, people are set to collapse, and chickens fly and dogs jump. The so-called cultivation is self-cultivation, and I continue to practice on the road of acting school.
About ABC rules:
Bad thing: Teacher Wang offered to celebrate my birthday, but we were all busy that day. At the end of work, he asked what hotel to book and how the children would come. I took the time to book a new parent-child restaurant for grandma to take the children to. On the way to the restaurant, I received a second call from Mr. Wang, asking if I had ordered a cake. If not, let me order one myself.
Idea: explode in situ! Is this my birthday? It is not enough to order your own restaurant. You have to order your own cake? Are you sincere? Does this mean that he is only present? He is always like this. He has no romantic cells (85). Why should I live with such people (70)?
Consequence: First of all, I was very angry with my husband and dropped my mobile phone several times. Secondly, I feel sorry for myself (70). I feel tired and don't like the thought of dozens of birthdays in the future, with no surprises and nothing new. Of course, this is a happy ending. After Mr. Wang ordered the cake, he quickly rushed to the restaurant to arrange a place, but I calmed down and didn't open it the first time to give him a chance to explain. All this was due to my opening. . .