First of all, the benefits of having a second child

1, the second child makes the baby no longer lonely, no matter whether it is male or female, the two children have a companion all the way.

2.* * * share the responsibility of supporting the elderly. Children need to be taken care of. My parents are in their fifties and are in good health. But it's also starting to go downhill. Both economically and spiritually. Obviously not enough. Having two children can share the responsibility of supporting the elderly when they grow up. Then, I decided to work hard to make money and have another child. So we can take care of each other in the future.

3. Promote the competition between two children. The baby is the oldest in the family. Such a living environment is easy to make the baby lack the sense of competition. If you have two babies, with comparison, you will form a sense of competition from an early age.

4. Avoid overprotection and doting; There is only one baby, afraid of falling into his hand and putting it in his mouth. Excessive protection and doting on children will only harm them in the end. When children enter the society, they cannot survive in the cruel competition. Can't stand the slightest setback in life. After giving birth to two babies, the subconscious will not be so "spoiled". It's time to scold.

Second, the disadvantages of having two children.

1, economic pressure increases. Although they are all the only children born in the 1980s, they are saving money to buy a house at home, and winter is coming. Mortgage, property fees, child insurance, nothing. Now Bauer is almost one year old. In order to reduce the economic pressure, the wife also wants to find a job to increase her income. But now the pressure of social competition is so great that my wife didn't go to work after she gave birth to Dabao. Having been a full-time wife for five years, it is more difficult to find a job now.

I have no energy to take care of two children. If I have a baby, maybe I just started to upgrade, and my mother thinks I will be in a hurry; After a while, I got used to the role of mother, liked it, and did well, so I wanted another one.

3. A love should be given to two children. Before giving birth to Erbao, the whole family revolved around Dabao. She is everyone's baby. With Bauer, everyone's attention will be diverted, and their eyes will turn from Dabao to Bauer. Even mothers are no exception. Children are the most sensitive, and she can feel that your love for her is obviously not as much as before. There will be a gap in her heart and she will think you are partial. After having Bauer, she will no longer love her. It will bring irreparable harm to children's young hearts.

4. Couples have less time to be "sweet". When there is only one baby, the financial pressure is not so great, and the mother is not so tired. And when the baby falls asleep, the couple can enjoy the sweet time. But if you have two children, your father is under great financial pressure, so he will spend more time at work and more time thinking about how to make more money.

Because the mother has to take turns to take care of two children, her energy is limited. When the babies are asleep, the parents who have been busy all day are too tired to move, just want to lie down and have a good sleep. So the sweet time of love is even less. In parenting, couples will encounter all kinds of problems, which will increase the contradiction between husband and wife. It may even lead to the breakdown of the relationship between husband and wife.

Factors to be considered in giving birth to a second child

1, economic problems: most of them are ordinary families, and the most important thing to consider when having a second child is economic problems. The cost of having two children is almost twice that of having one child. Nowadays, the competition in society is becoming more and more fierce. Nowadays, children are embarrassed to go out without food or clothes. Everyone goes to early education, and everyone has talent. If your children don't, they will be laughed at. Easy to feel inferior.

Compared with economic considerations, who will take care of the children is obviously equally worthy of attention. Be a baby, or consider letting your parents bring you back from work to enjoy parent-child time, whatever! But after giving birth to two babies, the home page should take into account that parents are getting older. Can they stand the torment of two children?

If you quit your job and become a stay-at-home mother, your income will be less and your responsibility for a baby will be greater. It is also a question whether the father can afford the family expenses. This brings us back to the economic problem. It seems that the economic base determines the superstructure, which also applies to families.

3, the age problem: single couples should have children early, not too late. First, when the couple are in their twenties, their parents are generally in their fifties and sixties, and their physical condition is relatively good. And basically do not need the care of husband and wife. If Mr. and Mrs. Shuang Dan didn't have children until they were in their thirties, their parents might already be in their sixties and seventies.

It is difficult to take care of both children and the elderly. The main reason is that the pregnancy rate of elderly couples is reduced, and the risk of elderly pregnant women is high after successful pregnancy. After the baby was born, the postpartum mother recovered slowly. In short, couples who have the idea of having a second child should give birth as soon as possible.

4. Having boys and girls: Most couples who want to have a second child still want to have a son and a daughter, but this is often not desirable. So if the sex of the second child is not what you want, can parents themselves or even two families really accept this result from the heart? Especially in areas where son preference is serious, if the first child is a girl and the second child is a daughter, can the family accept it?

Does mom have the courage and ability to face the pressure from all sides? Does the father influence the relationship? Or do you know the sex of the child through B-ultrasound in advance and have an abortion if it is a girl? And it's not easy to have a boy as the first child. Many people are worried that the second child is a boy and the economic pressure is too great. Worried that children will not get a good wife in the future.