The above is not the most critical, what is the most critical? If you stop bullying, you may be retaliated. Even if you stop it, the law will come to you. Then who will stand up? So when the law began to protect crimes, justice and fairness were already dead.
The main causes of serious violence among children are:
1: indulge yourself and do whatever you want.
2. It exists in a specific environment and community environment full of violence and serious distortion of values.
3. Since childhood, violence has become commonplace.
4. There is no distinction between good and evil, and the concept is distorted.
5. The judicial organs do not have enough control over the punishment of children and adolescents who commit crimes.
6. Schools, teachers and parents have insufficient understanding of children's fighting behavior, and their understanding of its harm is superficial and understated.
7. The evil effects of video games.
Many children are prone to violence now. If you meet a violent child, you can observe the people around him and his family atmosphere. Children's violence can be divided into several aspects:
1. Children's violence is a way of self-protection. Younger children may not know that this is wrong. If this behavior is not stopped in time or someone tells him what is right, then this behavior may continue.
2. Observe the people he contacts. If everyone he contacts likes to solve problems in a completely violent way, then the child will naturally learn to do so to solve problems, or to protect himself and communicate with others in this way.
3. Observe his family. Parents are the first teachers of the children. If children live in violent families for a long time, they will learn. Children will not doubt the communication methods they have learned from their parents, and violence will form certain beliefs in their hearts.
Environment is the biggest factor that affects children, so we should not only tell them what qualities we want to cultivate, but also let them see the most important things. Examples speak louder than words.
Thank you. Children are more aggressive than adults. Are the children mentioned here a little older? For example,/kloc-children over 0/0 years old. /kloc-There are many reasons why children over 0/0 are prone to violence:
1, does the growth of violent children lack warmth at home? For example, there is a fierce quarrel and hands-on between parents at home. As the parents of their children's first teacher, they gave their children a vivid demonstration class of "violence to achieve their goals". Therefore, children will naturally use violence to realize their wishes, divide interpersonal boundaries and realize their poor self-esteem.
2. Parents' incorrect view of education. Some parents born after 70 s and 80 s overindulge their only son because they missed the prime time of having a second child. Everything in the family is child-centered and son-centered, and the relationship between husband and wife is average. The status of children is higher than that of husband and wife, and the family is not very harmonious. This kind of doting is related to the mother's economic status and weak position in the family. Because of the humble position of the mother's family, they can only choose to indulge their son blindly instead of worrying about his atrocities. They think this is a symbol of the child's greatness and ability, so the old saying "a loving mother loses more children" means this;
3. Family and school lack moral education and legal education. There is no law course among primary school students, and this legislation really needs to be strengthened, because there is indeed a situation of "failing to beat" at present. Families and schools generally believe that children can learn well, be good at Olympics and English, but they really don't pay enough attention to children's violence. Moreover, the school especially doesn't like to discuss such things, and always downplays them. Even if it happens, they don't want to face it unless they go to the media.
Children are exposed to online dramas and games, and they can't tell the difference between fantasy and reality. Children often learn from the practices of characters in games and online dramas to deal with conflicts in reality, which is very dangerous;
5, because the physical strength of violent children is dominant, therefore, our children should invest in Taekwondo, martial arts and fighting, which can defend themselves and improve their self-confidence! Being constantly in a state of progress in learning is also conducive to improving children's "winning business"!
I wish the children stay away from violence and have a wonderful childhood!
Tips: Due to the limitation of personal energy, among all questions and answers, the question and answer on "parenting" will be given priority. Other types of questions and answers, see if time and energy are sufficient, please forgive me!
Small environment and big environment may make children learn violence.
1. The small environment is the family atmosphere. What the questioner said is more important to children than to adults. Apparently, the adults did the same. Parents are a mirror of children, and most of children's behavior habits and ways of thinking are gradually formed from people who get along with him day and night. Why do parents give themselves a "pass" when using violence? Therefore, what kind of person do you want your children to become? You should first change slowly, set an example and grow into that kind of person. Ask your children now, otherwise your words will be of no value in front of them.
2. Macro environment refers to social atmosphere. If children are in school and the school atmosphere is unhealthy, children may learn violence because sometimes violence can protect themselves. And cyber violence. Children watch TV, watch some violent videos on the Internet, have no intention of touching violence, and may learn violence invisibly.
Why do you think violence is cultivated? In fact, there must be a solution to the conflict between people, forces and interests. From the army to the fighting students, violence has never left us. From the internal point of view of the country, violence undermines social stability and harmony and must be stopped! However, from an individual point of view, if parents excessively demand restraint from their children, or even use domestic violence to restrain them, they will either train their children to be more violent, or make them no longer trust their parents in the face of external threats and become insecure and cowardly.
As we know, almost every child will have behaviors such as hitting, biting and kicking, which is a necessary stage of their growth and development.
But there will be some children in life, especially Xiong Haizi, whose teachers and parents are particularly headache. It seems that for no reason, it is even more "violent."
The teacher asked parents to be more disciplined, and parents were particularly helpless. The truth is said, and now the children understand it, but these behaviors still appear uncontrollably every day.
Sometimes, we need to look at the essence through phenomena, which may not be as simple as discipline.
Share with you the guidance methods for such children.
1, key sports indicators make children calm and concentrate.
The name proprioception is not familiar to everyone, but it is a very important indicator of children's development.
Its simplest explanation is muscle motion perception, such as knowing how to bypass obstacles on the road without tripping, how to control the two hands to catch the ball, how to coordinate body jumping, and how to hold a pen and write.
It is responsible for coordinating everything in your body muscles. Another important function of proprioception is to help children deal with external stimuli.
Everything that happens around us every day enters our brain through sensory reception. If there is something wrong with our sensory receptors, there will be a situation where a little external stimulus will be infinitely amplified after entering the brain, causing the child to be particularly excited and active and unable to concentrate calmly.
Just like the example of my children at the beginning, the seemingly unprovoked violence of us outsiders is likely to be the deviation of the children's proprioception.
It can be seen that proprioception is also an important indicator to manage emotions and affect concentration.
2. Children with violent tendencies are likely to have a high demand for proprioception.
Many so-called "violent children" are actually very, very eager for the stimulation of proprioception.
Generally, normal children don't need that much, but for such high-demand children, it seems that the physical stimulation is not enough.
Once they are not actively guided, they will spontaneously appear a lot of violence to actively seek these stimuli.
In addition to biting, beating and kicking people for no reason, such children have some other specific manifestations:
If your child meets most of the above conditions, then we should realize that for such a child, we can't just rely on discipline, but need targeted proprioception exercise.
Otherwise, even if they understand the truth, their bodies just can't control it.
3. Give a little restraint to crazy play
This kind of children have one thing in common, that is, they are surprisingly energetic and run and jump every day as long as they are awake.
Many parents often try to make their children stop and be quiet for a while, but it often backfires.
First of all, such children need more time and space to carry out various sports activities, so that children can get more "sports perception" stimulation.
Their bodies are like a steaming kettle. We shouldn't cover them with covers, but we need to provide conditions for steam to escape.
However, when playing wildly, you can skillfully give a little restraint to prevent children from getting too excited and having another "violent incident".
There are two most effective methods. The first one is controlled by the rhythm of music. For example, children should be able to walk, but they can't control it. At this time, they might as well sing a song with nodes. The simplest one is like ABC alphabet. This rhythm helps children adjust their movements.
The other is to give more specific instructions, such as playing on the playground. For other children, we can say, let's go to the playground for a while;
For this kind of child, we have to say, can you run from here to the swing and back? The simpler the explanation, the more it can help children to adjust themselves to the greatest extent.
It is also a constraint to ask children to "follow the line" like this.
Said two tips, and share some targeted exercise methods below.
If you have been to tens of thousands of early education schools in physical education class, you may feel familiar with it.
Proprioception exercises are very important for every child. The better the proprioception develops, the better the coordination ability of the body and the higher the level of emotional control.
So these methods are not only helpful for "violent" children, but also a particularly good interactive game for any child.
4. Active weight movement
This is a way that many professional organizations will adopt, that is, to increase the stimulation of children's muscles and joints through the movement of heavy objects.
In fact, this kind of exercise can be done by yourself at home and at school.
Give a few examples to make you understand more intuitively:
1, move books, carry heavy bags, push boxes full of items, etc.
2. Push the wall and do push-ups against the wall.
3. tug of war. If you are alone, you can pull the rope tied to the door.
For children who bite badly, we can also provide these opportunities: blowing bubbles and playing table football are equivalent to putting pressure on oral muscles.
The essence of this kind of exercise is to give children some strength to stimulate muscles and joints, so that their "proprioception" can be perceived, thus stimulating the self-regulation of the body.
5. Passive pressure movement
Many professional organizations adopt a method called "pressure blanket", which is to wrap children tightly with a certain weight blanket.
Most of these sports are passive, and the main purpose is to calm the highly excited children.
However, in the actual operation process, many children do not like this professional treatment, which is easy to reject.
On the contrary, some deformed family sports forms are not only simple, but also easier for children to accept.
Or give a few examples for your reference:
1, very, very tight "bear hug"
This is a very good way to appease most excitable children, especially after hitting others.
Don't start with education. Give such a "bear hug" first. Holding the child very, very tightly can help the child calm down.
Step 2 roll the dough
Let the child lie prone or lie down, roll on him with a yoga ball, and exert certain pressure according to the child's reaction.
The best pressure is that children can feel it, but they are not excluded, which requires parents to adjust it in time when they operate.
Step 3 roll hot dogs
A blanket or quilt, let the child lie on it and roll up the child bit by bit like a hot dog.
In the process of rolling, try to wrap the child tightly. This is not only to exercise proprioception, but also beneficial to vestibular stimulation (balance).
6. Matters needing attention in specific implementation
(1), discovery rules
Record the trigger point where children are often prone to violence, and do more exercise before this happens to prevent it before it happens.
For example, some children are prone to this phenomenon every night, and some children are often excited when everyone sings together.
After understanding these rules, parents or teachers can selectively carry out these activities before, which can help children to adjust themselves.
(2), pointing to the present
Every child reacts differently to different stimuli. When practicing proprioception, the most important thing is to ensure that children have a "response" to stimulation.
The reaction here refers to pleasant acceptance, that is, the child does not reject it, and the child can have positive feedback, such as happy laughter and interaction.
Family education lacks rule training, parents' emotional education accuses children of emotional and moral kidnapping, or bottomless indulgence leads to the inability to accept and recognize themselves!
Family education, social hostility, unforgivable crime!