Many parents want their children to succeed and think that education should start with dolls. Therefore, parents push children under the age of three to various parent-child classes or kindergartens, hoping that children can win at the starting line. However, it often backfires. Children not only can't learn anything in kindergarten classes, but also often cry for their parents. Our good intentions have become the burden and pain of children.

In the final analysis, the main reason is that children are too young, and their mind and self-care ability are not yet mature.

Psychologist Lamb surveyed 3000 children and found that the stress hormones of children were twice as high as those of children who didn't go to school for 9 months. It is enough to prove that the younger the child is, the greater the pressure to enter the park.

So, how old is it appropriate for children to go to kindergarten?

In the case of a fixed guardian, it is more appropriate to send a child to kindergarten at the age of 3 and a half.

Because children are still in the stage of parent-child attachment before the age of 3, with the development of self-awareness, the first small "rebellious period" may appear. If you forcibly violate the law of children's development, the parent-child relationship may be alienated. Therefore, children should give priority to family education before the age of 3, and even the best kindergarten is not as good as parents' company.

However, to measure whether a child can enter the park, the most important condition is not only the age, but whether the child can adapt to the kindergarten.

Children must meet at least four conditions when entering the park:

First of all, you should have social skills.

The biggest change after children enter kindergarten is the need to engage in social activities with other children and teachers, such as studying, playing small games and eating. A child's social skills can help him integrate into the group quickly without feeling lonely or afraid. Moreover, children with social skills will understand collectivism earlier, respect others more and listen to others' opinions more consciously.

Second, there is adaptability.

Psychologist gesell has a famous "Twin Climbing Experiment". He found that even a pair of twin brothers with similar physical qualities, the younger brother who started training in the 46th week climbed the ladder slower than the younger brother who started training in the 52nd week. In this regard, gesell's analysis is that it is too early to start practicing ladder climbing in 46 weeks, so the training has only achieved general results.

Starting to climb the ladder in 52 weeks, the timing is just right, and the children are well prepared, so the effect is twice the result with half the effort.

Therefore, making full environmental preparations is a prerequisite for getting twice the result with half the effort. A baby who has just entered kindergarten may feel at a loss and be afraid of everything. If children have excellent adaptability in such an environment, they may adapt to the kindergarten atmosphere more quickly and find a way of life and study that suits them.

Third, have basic self-care ability.

Educator Rousseau said: "Misuse of time is more costly than wasting time, and children with wrong education are farther away from wisdom than children without education."

Imagine, if children don't even have the ability to take care of themselves, such as eating, going to the toilet and dressing, what knowledge can they learn? Children are also easily frustrated and will resist collective life over time.

Therefore, if you must send your child to kindergarten, you must ensure that he has independent basic living abilities such as eating and going to the toilet. Moreover, children have strong imitation ability. If they are properly guided during this period, their self-care ability will make a qualitative leap. To cultivate children's self-care ability, parents should learn to use picture books as an educational tool in addition to teaching by hand.

Fourth, there is a certain ability to express.

Unlike only one baby at home, in kindergarten, a teacher often has to take care of 5-20 children at the same time, and often does not give special consideration to one of them. If children's expressive ability is not strong, teachers may inadvertently ignore their demands. In the long run, children will become withdrawn, unable to express themselves and enter a vicious circle.

Before children go to kindergarten, parents should teach their children how to express themselves and how to communicate with teachers and children in advance. Do some situational exercises at home to let the children adapt.