Today's children bear one, two or all of the three new mountains. What are three mountains? The first is the pressure from the education system. Kindergarten children began to carry schoolbags weighing several kilograms, and by the first grade, the schoolbags had increased to more than ten kilograms. You said that children are very tired after school every day with schoolbags, and there is a lot of homework to go home. They are exhausted at a young age. Are they more tired than adults?

The second mountain is the pressure from family. Some parents pay special attention to their children's study. As soon as they came home from school, they forced their children to do their homework and even beat and scold them. In some families, parents often quarrel at home and even divorce, which brings great psychological pressure and shadow to their children.

The third mountain comes from the social pressure on children. Now society, education department, teachers, parents and children are all crowded on a runway. What runway? This is: nothing, only the runway that reads high. The runway is so wide, how can the children stand this kind of tossing and not be tired?

In fact, everything needs talent, and so does reading. Not everyone can be a scientist or a professor. It used to be enough to read a book, but politicians, scientists and so on are all trained. Now it is not enough to increase to three, four, five or six books. There is a saying that teaching students in accordance with their aptitude makes the best use of everything. If you don't study well, you may have other talents. As long as children are cultivated into useful talents with social responsibility, family responsibility and personal responsibility, this is the realistic problem that we should pay attention to.

No solution, who knows what's wrong with children now.

In the past, life was so bitter and food and clothing were not as good as now, but the pressure of study was not so great, maybe it was too great, and I didn't encounter setbacks, so I couldn't get over it when I met something.

202111/the police in Yibin, Sichuan received a special call. It was a girl who called the police. Operator Xiao Liu (not his real name) answered the phone of 1 10 and said, hello, what can I do for you? The girl opposite sighed. Then the girl said to Xiao Liu, Hello, I want to commit suicide. I will call you in advance. I hope you can salvage our bodies. Experienced Xiao Liu heard this sentence and immediately felt that things were not good. While comforting the girl, she communicated with her colleagues in code words to locate the girl who called.

Through simple communication, Xiao Liu, the operator of 1 10, knew that the girl was only 16 years old. Because of the relationship between life and study, and the recent bad mood, her best friend in the same class also felt that her life was very distressed, so they agreed to commit suicide together. The day before they were going to jump into the river to commit suicide, they wanted to jump off the building, but they were afraid to go upstairs. They didn't jump, but when they got home, they were angry and decided to commit suicide again. Only this time, they chose to jump into the river. However, after the two girls were afraid of jumping into the river, their families worried that they could not find their bodies, so they thought of calling the police first and then jumping into the river to commit suicide. After understanding what happened, Xiao Liu began to persuade them to talk to the girls about their better life, small animals and delicious food, and took the opportunity to inquire about their positions.

What do we see through this incident? We see the importance of education. We thought about why the two children thought of suicide and what problems they encountered. The family knew nothing about the two children and tried to commit suicide twice. I have to say, I admire these two parents. Seriously, children nowadays are really tired, even more tired than when we were young. When I was a child, everyone was similar, whether at school or in life. It's different now. Now children have to go to early education from birth, and go to kindergarten when they are older. In the meantime, they will be given interest classes. After that, parents will prepare to buy school buildings, send their children to good schools, and go out early and return late every day, especially when the children go to high school 17, 8 or so. Children are under great pressure to study. Some children only sleep for four or five hours a day, and they don't study well during this period. We also criticize them.

Two girls of 15 years wanted to commit suicide, so they called 1 10 to ask if they could help salvage the body after death! Children nowadays are really worrying and always surprise you. But it is undeniable that the child has encountered a hurdle. Perhaps in the eyes of adults, this hurdle is not big or even enough to mention, but in the hearts of children, it may be bigger than the sky. Children in trouble need a little help. The girl in the incident is also actively seeking solutions, but the methods are somewhat extreme.

65438+1October 1 1, Yibin Public Security Bureau of Sichuan 1 10 alarm center suddenly received an alarm from a girl. The girl said that she and her best friend wanted to commit suicide by the river. They wanted to commit suicide by jumping off a building, but were dissuaded by a sister, but they especially wanted to die the next day.

I'm calling to ask, "Can you help me find the body after I die?" .

When the police officer asked her why she committed suicide, the girl said: She encountered a lot of disgusting things and didn't want to talk about it. She and her best friend have encountered a lot of things before, and they can't hold back and can only wait for death.

After receiving the police, I patiently chatted with her, talked about milk tea, talked about kittens, talked about my mood, and eased the girl's mood. I have to say, the girl met a kind policeman.

After the patient inquiry of the police officer, I learned that the girl who called was Guo Moumou and her best friend was Dai Moumou, both of whom were 16 years old. The two met at about 7: 30 and went to the river to prepare for suicide after dinner.

After knowing the approximate location of the girl, the relevant departments immediately went to the rescue, and then the two girls were brought back by the police.

The incident didn't say why the girl committed suicide. We can only make a guess. The girls are all 15 years old, about grade three. One of the pressures faced by children in grade three is academic pressure; One is the pressure from the family to go to school; There is also the dilemma brought by self-growth and some psychological pressure. When the pressure from three parties gathers on a child with immature mind, it is easy to go wrong.

When a child is in trouble, it is said that he should turn to his closest relatives for help. That is, her parents or relatives But the girl in the incident didn't. She asked for help at 1 10, an "outsider" who has nothing to do but can get 100% help. It means that there must be something wrong with her getting along with her parents and relatives, at least she can't talk to her heart. Any problems in the process of children's growth are inseparable from her family!

Nowadays, children don't lack anything, what they lack is psychological things, or spiritual things. Many adults have similar problems now. We adults have all experienced the age of material poverty, or at least not as superior as children today. But they are experiencing some psychological things like adults, such as stress, anxiety, disapproval, emptiness, interpersonal relationships at school and so on.

When encountering pressure, adults can look for solutions, not necessarily children, so in any case, families must leave an outlet for children to release pressure. If the exit of the family is blocked by children, where should the weak children go? We may not be able to harvest a successful child, but we hope to harvest a healthy child.

Probably parents are sad and worried because they can't hear such news. My daughter just turned sixteen. For a while, she struggled with all kinds of things until one day she cried and said to me, Mom, please hear me out first. ...

Since then, my daughter has become obedient, sensible and fond of learning. I am glad that I listened patiently to my daughter's demands and helped her when she needed help most.

So although I can't fully understand the psychology of the two girls, I am willing to try to understand and learn to understand.

A few nights ago, a hospital here received an emergency, and a high school student jumped off a building. Life is like a fallen leaf in the year of sixty. When my medical friend called me, her tone was heavy, and I felt heavy after listening to it.

Children's accidents in succession should attract the attention of all parents. We should reflect on it. Is it the initial intention of parents to let their children save up enough grievances and disappointments and die for various reasons and ways? Is this the result that parents want?

Under the current education system, children have heavy schoolwork, nervous study, getting up early and going to bed late every day, and are under great physical and mental pressure. A little thing will make them sensitive and anxious, unable to control their emotions and behaviors during adolescence, and easy to go to extremes on impulse.

I think: when children have adolescent rebellion, they should not be regarded as a scourge. Pay more attention to children and pay attention to the subtle changes of children; We should keep a low profile and actively communicate with our children. Look at the problem from the perspective of children and understand their situation.

How to communicate with adolescent children is a science. Parents should learn relevant knowledge, strive to be qualified parents, strengthen their children's mental health education, and help their children pass adolescence smoothly.

1. Pay long-term attention to the establishment of children's psychology. Children with strong psychology can distinguish right from wrong and have strong ability to resist pressure, which can reduce accidents.

2. Teach children to love life, cherish life, actively seek solutions when encountering problems, and don't go to extremes.

3. We should not only pay attention to children's grades and rankings, but also pay attention to children's mental health, try to decompress children and seek medical treatment if necessary.

Although the two girls committed suicide together, the alarm behavior shows that they still care about their lives and are attached to the world. It is this light that has become the hope to illuminate their gloomy inner world.

Children are the flowers and future of the motherland, and their mental health deserves the attention of the whole society. Family education and social care are inseparable. I hope everyone