What is the reason why my son is one and a half years old and afraid to meet strangers? I don't know why I hide behind when I meet strangers, but parents should pay attention to it. I can't treat free and unrestrained children as children with problems.

My son is almost 1 half a year old. There are two things that confuse me. 1: He will take the initiative to say goodbye to strangers outside, and sometimes even take him to the mall. He will greet people from shop to shop. But others came to talk to him, and he was embarrassed to come and hug me. But he is willing to play with others when he is a little Doby. 2: 1 year-old, we will send him to early education. He was obviously quiet in his early education. Other children about his age are always running around. He just doesn't take the initiative and often just observes the situation around him. But I don't think he is afraid. He won't cry if I go out to play alone and come to me or something. The early education teacher said that he was really calm. I wonder if it's bad for boys to be so quiet? In addition, I also found that he didn't want to rob other people's toys, but was often robbed by others. Even if I was robbed, I didn't respond. I went directly to find other toys to play with, as if it didn't matter. Is there a problem with acting like a child? I usually take care of it alone. Do I need to make any improvements?

"the characteristics of an unrestrained child"

One-and-a-half-year-old children are not afraid of survival, like to say hello to strangers, and like to be quiet and not fight. It can be judged that the child belongs to the free type. The biggest feature of a free-flowing child is that he will be easy-going as long as there is no serious conflict. He won't invade others, and he won't ask to play together. He likes to observe, but he doesn't have to insist.

According to the truth, accompanying a free-flowing child does not need too much trouble, but should be more relaxed and enjoyable. But judging from your problem description, you are not only confused, but also anxious caused by these confusions. These puzzles and anxieties are actually the result of your self-annoyance, which is caused by your like to compare your children with others and your impatience to wait for your children to grow up slowly.

"No comparison, no harm"

In the early education class, you see that your children are quiet, while other children like to run around. After the comparison, are you worried about whether your children are different from others? Now when you see other people's children like to compete for toys, while your own children are acting like they don't care, you think there is something wrong with them. When a child likes to greet strangers on his own initiative, he is shy when others tease him. You think this child may be abnormal.

No comparison, no harm. This is not only a ridiculous joke, but also a wise saying for parents to accompany their children to grow up healthily. We often say that every child is unique, so why compare your own child with others' children? I haven't seen other people's children better than my own. As long as your children grow up healthily. The reason why a child likes to greet strangers and is ashamed to be teased by others is that he still lacks cognitive experience in dealing with people. As long as you wait patiently for him to accumulate some cognitive experience in dealing with people, it is estimated that you will start to worry about him playing with others casually and being abducted by others.

"Help children grow up with your heart"

However, it may be because you are too relaxed to spend time with an unrestrained child, so you have time to think. Although you haven't been overwhelmed by the problem of accompanying your children like other parents, you can't help but pay attention. If you don't pay attention, it's easy to ignore some children's learning needs. Because like other children, a free-flowing child is not so necessary. When necessary, as long as his parents say no, he will usually' forget it', so he may often lose many learning opportunities.

In addition, the child will be two years old in half a year, which may be a sensitive period of self-awareness. In the sensitive period of self-awareness, parents should not suppress him, but try to spend more time and creativity and learn to' let children have a way to go'. It is what he wants to do, and he will fully support him to do and explore. If he can't do it, guide him to find other interesting things to do, and then find opportunities to guide him to find out why he can't do it.

In addition, parents need to actively guide their children to learn languages at this stage. This does not mean that parents need to teach him seriously, but they need to consciously talk to their children, let them remember more common words, learn to read them to him by writing children's songs, guide him to perform together, read picture books with him, tell him with children's language and feelings, and inspire him to think.

At this age, he doesn't need to take part in some sports activities, but he should expand his life circle. For example, you can often take him to the park, go shopping, get in touch with things that have never been touched before, and cultivate children's attention and interest in exploration and learning.

"situation story"

The story "Little Handsome Princess Learn to Eat" tells how little Handsome Princess likes to eat by herself and use the same food as adults during the sensitive period of self-awareness, and how mom and dad try to "let her have a way out" and finally let her use her own food first, instead of using the same food as adults.

The handsome princess learned to eat.

When Princess Handsome was almost two years old, she became unwilling to wait for her parents to feed her. She always likes to reach for bowls and spoons and wants to eat by herself.

However, mom and dad think she is too young to eat alone. And mom and dad want her to learn to grow up and try to eat alone.

So, my mother and the handsome princess discussed and said, "Handsome, my mother knows that you want to eat alone, and my mother also wants to see that you can eat alone, but now these chopsticks are easy to break." Why don't mom go out with you and let you choose a pair of chopsticks that you like and don't break, so that you can learn to eat alone? "

Princess Xiaoshuai heard that her mother not only agreed that she could eat alone, but also had her own dishes and chopsticks. Of course, she promised her mother happily and went out with her to buy her favorite dishes and chopsticks.

Soon, the handsome princess and her mother bought chopsticks. She couldn't wait for her mother to fill half a bowl of rice and learn to use a spoon.

At the beginning, the little handsome princess did spread the food all over the floor and smashed the bowl and spoon. Fortunately, these bowls and spoons won't break.

However, after a while, with the encouragement and guidance of her mother, she was finally able to slowly deliver a spoonful of rice to her mouth.

Seeing that she can finally eat alone, the little handsome princess is very happy. She ate all the dishes in the bowl in a few minutes, and they were delicious, never fragrant. Mom is also very happy because of this.

When it was time to eat, the handsome princess saw that the bowls and chopsticks of the adults were the same, but they were not her own, so she wanted to spoon the food in her mother's bowl.

Mom said, "handsome boy, aren't you scooping up the dishes in the bowl?" Why are you flirting with your mother again? "

The little handsome princess said naughtily, "mom's bowl is different from mine." I want to try eating with my mother's bowl. "

Mom smiled and said, "Mom's bowl is different from yours. Mom's bowl is easily broken and will scare you, unlike yours. That's why mom bought you an unbreakable set of tableware that belongs to you. You are good and obedient, will you continue to eat well alone? "

The handsome princess didn't want to, but she still had to try to eat from her mother's bowl.

Mother thought for a moment and said, "OK, but if you accidentally break your mother's bowl, you should eat with your own chopsticks and stop clamoring to use your mother's bowl."

The handsome princess nodded and agreed with her mother.

So, mother gave her bowl to the little handsome princess.

The little handsome princess can finally eat with her mother's bowl, of course she is very happy. However, when she tried to scoop the bowl with a spoon, the bowl was pushed off the table by her. Bang, smashed, scared the little handsome princess to cry loudly.

Mother comforted Princess Xiaoshuai and said, "Xiaoshuai need not be afraid. It doesn't matter. We still have many such bowls when they are broken. The most important thing is to remember that in the future, you should use your own unbreakable bowl, and you can't clamor for an adult's bowl, you know? "

The little handsome princess stopped crying slowly and said, "Well-Mom, I know, I don't want to use your bowl anymore!" " "

Mom smiled and said, "handsome boy, then you can continue to eat with your bowl." When mom is ready, she will come back to eat with you. "

So, the little handsome princess ate happily again.