Some time ago, Dad Cat chatted with a friend born after 1995. She said that she didn't want children, because she was told by the teacher every day when she was at school, and she really didn't want to go out, and because the children were told by the teacher every day. Although this reason for not wanting to have children is wonderful, it also reflects the real experience of parents now.
Take the cat father himself as an example. My daughter's head teacher is very demanding. If the child's homework is wrong, the teacher will criticize her in the WeChat group, or directly ask the parents how to tutor and check the child's homework. The way teachers deal with problems further aggravates the anxiety of parents and children.
Those educated parents are better and probably know how to explain knowledge points to their children. Those parents with low educational level will be miserable. Some ask for help everywhere, some look for answers online, and some can only beat and scold children. This long-term anxiety has also caused parents to become more and more impatient.
Plus, after a day's work, parents are already very tired and have to work hard with their children to do their homework, so parents are more likely to be impatient. If the child doesn't cooperate at this time, all kinds of procrastination, procrastination and carelessness, the parents' emotions may get out of control in minutes, and then they will beat and scold the child, strike the table and break their hands and get angry. ...
At this time, parents may think of their childhood. My parents were really happy at that time. Just take care of the children's food and clothing, and basically don't have to worry about school. Take papa cat as an example. When I was a child, I didn't want to do my homework. Once the whole class didn't do anything except the monitor. As a result, the teacher called the students to the podium one by one and "educated" them one by one with a stick. After that, I never dared not stop doing my homework.
As for homework, what will I do? Find your own way. After all, my parents both graduated from primary school. When they were young, what they taught in primary school was similar to that of illiterate people now, and so were their classmates' parents. No one is much better than anyone else. Therefore, students can only listen carefully in class and finish their homework together after school to "help" each other.
At that time, there were no remedial classes and no interest classes. Everyone has similar conditions, and parents can't "overtake in corners". But now it's different, the gap between families is getting bigger and bigger, and the competition is getting fiercer and fiercer. Various voices are also conveying anxiety to parents. Parents are taught how to have children online, and they are also stimulated by all kinds of excellent children.
As a result, before going to elementary school, parents began to report various early education classes, parent-child classes, interest classes, picture books and so on. And after so many classes, parents may find that it is mainly up to parents to teach their children to learn well. After all, children can't learn anything just by taking 45 minutes of classes in interest classes.
After entering primary school, both parents and children will face declining academic pressure. This kind of pressure is generally that the school sinks to the teacher, then the teacher sinks to the parents, and the parents sink to the children. In order to make achievements, teachers will naturally let parents take the responsibility of education, such as asking parents to help their children with their homework, urging them to review, checking their homework, visa books and so on. These are routine operations.
Seeing this, some parents may complain. Why did teachers in the past always rely on their parents when they could teach a lesson well?
Father Cat once talked to a teacher about it. There are two main reasons for this: on the one hand, children learn a lot more than in the past, on the other hand, the competition is becoming more and more fierce.
For example, a child can get 60 points in the exam only by the teacher. At this time, a parent gave the child a tutorial, and the child's score increased to 80 points. Later, another parent enrolled the child in an extracurricular class, and the child's score increased to 90 points. Children's grades are constantly improving, but good universities only have those places, so parents can only work harder to give their children a good future.
The teacher can't help it. Everyone comes down in one continuous line and can only make progress together. Cat dad thinks that teachers who stare at parents every day to help their children with their homework are really good compared with those who are irresponsible. After all, children are themselves, mainly on their own. The sooner parents understand this truth, the better!