Seeing the above example, do some parents feel the same way? If your child has such a personality, do you respect the child's personality and then guide him slowly? Or is it invisibly labeled as "cowardice" for children? It seems that children are encouraged to dare to try and not be cowardly, but their parents reinforce that they are a cowardly child in words and deeds, suggesting again and again that eventually children will think they are cowardly people, because their evaluation comes from their parents' evaluation. We always change our children invisibly according to their own good personality, but we don't understand and appreciate their own personality, so as to help them grow up! If a child always feels that his parents have turned him into someone else's child, he will feel that his parents don't love him. Some obedient children may wronged themselves and try to change in order to get the love of their parents. Only they know the pain in the process, while parents only see the external performance of the child and seriously ignore the internal growth of the child. Faced with children's different personalities, parents need to do the following:
Allow children to be weak.
There is no difference between good and bad personality. Children's various emotional manifestations, such as unhappiness, sullenness, cowardice, are all normal manifestations of children. Parents should allow their children to be unhappy and cowardly, and vent their inner dissatisfaction by crying when they encounter something, even though we know that children's crying will make us more upset. Parents are the strong backing of their children, and they can rely on them, especially when their children are vulnerable, and care more than reprimand and criticism to motivate them. Parents should recognize their children's personality characteristics and help and guide them.
Parental demonstration
Parents are role models for children to learn. Even if the child shows what we call cowardice and cowardice in character, the positive performance of parents will continue to inspire the child. If parents themselves are bold and independent people, children will learn imperceptibly. Children will also show their parents' positive behavior in an emergency. If parents are timid and obedient to Nuo Nuo in their usual work, so are their children. Don't put all the responsibility on the children, they are not scapegoats!
Teach children communication skills.
Like the children in the case, parents can try to teach their children how to get along with their peers. Some parents will say, I told my children, but the children haven't changed much. We should not think that education is a kind of "poison" that will have immediate effect. Education needs a gradual process. When a child's toy is robbed, parents can guide the child to say, I am very angry that you robbed my toy. Can you give it back to me? In the process of children's change, parents need to actively demonstrate, wait patiently and encourage. In the story of "Angry Elephant", an early education course in Wen Lan, the elephant's toy was robbed. He tried to express his emotions and finally played with the children. In fact, in the communication and cooperation between children, it is not only to express greetings such as hello, goodbye and bye-bye, but also to learn to communicate and learn communication skills in conflicts.