In the sketch "Planning" in the Spring Festival Evening of 2007, Song Dandan and Zhao Benshan's "Rooster Laying Eggs, Fighter in the Common Reserve" were also tangled before laying eggs. Zhao Benshan described the rooster's mental state like this: "I have special contradictions in my heart. It's not the rooster's job to lay eggs. What is the rooster thinking, what is the duck thinking, and what is the goose thinking? What does the little hen who has been with it think? What do people call a rooster when it hatches a chick? Call dad, call mom, or call aunt, call aunt ... "The entanglement of this egg-laying rooster finally laid eggs in the belief of" laying eggs yourself and letting others talk ".
Even the rooster lay eggs is so entangled, let alone a major decision that everyone has to make.
In the movie Heidi and Grandpa, the wise grandmother made the hesitant Heidi make up her mind in one sentence, which is also suitable for all hesitant people. The film Heidi and Grandpa is adapted from the novel Heidi by Swiss woman writer johanna Johanna Spyri, which is a classic in the history of children's literature.
The story is simple. Heidi is a kind and sunny little girl. Her parents died when she was young, and she lived with menstruation. In order to go out to work, menstruation gave her to her withdrawn grandfather. The father and son lived a simple and happy life, but the good times did not last long. Heidi's menstruation took Heidi away and let Heidi accompany Clara, a rich girl. Although Clara treated Heidi like a sister, Heidi always cared about her grandfather and her friends in the mountains, and finally returned to live with her grandfather.
Clara's grandmother is a wise grandmother. Although she comes from a noble family, she has no airs at all. She asked Heidi of Dashan to call her grandmother. She gave Heidi, who has reading phobia, the courage to read, and she gave Heidi a lot of help.
Heidi was laughed at by people around her because she wanted to write a story. Grandma Clara told her earnestly, "Heidi, that's because they know too little." They only know this village, but you have seen more things in this world, haven't you? " If doing something makes you happy, do it, no matter what others say. "
If something will make you happy, do it, no matter what others say.
Many times, other people's opinions will affect our choices.
Heidi, who likes to write stories, almost gave up her hobby because of the ridicule of others. What we like to do, after hearing the negation of others, will unconsciously doubt ourselves, and in the end, it may be gone.
I once wrote an article about online loans, hoping to appeal to parents to pay attention to their children's financial and business education, so that children can establish the concept of financial management and consumption from an early age, and avoid falling into routine loans because they can't stand the temptation of the outside world when they grow up. The comments on the article made me very weak. Some people say that the online loan industry has been cancelled. Some people say that I am washing the land for online loans. Some people say that I am talking nonsense and should call for the ban on online loans.
I also sent a micro-headline, aiming at the wounding incident in Shangrao, I feel sorry for the loss of the boy's life. I don't agree with the girl's father's murder, and I don't think he killed for love. However, this dynamic comment makes me very depressed. Many people think that the killing of the girl's father is a helpless move. Some people clap their hands and applaud, while others are involved in son preference and class opposition. Someone even wrote to me privately that I had received money to help people wash the floor.
To be honest, seeing these comments, my heart is full of powerlessness. If such behavior is affirmed, what kind of society will we live in? We work hard and live hard, trying to give our families and children a better environment, but you don't know where a time bomb will be hidden. I don't know which classmate's parents will enforce the law in broad daylight because they don't know the truth and fake bullying. I wonder if there is anyone around them who will use this extreme behavior to protect their families.
Seeing these comments that are quite different from my original intention, I will have doubts about myself. What is the purpose of writing an article after I use my spare time to compress my sleep time? I like writing. I want to organize my thoughts and enrich my life by writing articles. I will be happier if I can try my best to influence others and bring some help to others.
I can't influence other people's ideas, I can only restrain myself. As Grandma Clara said, if something will make you happy, do it, no matter what others say.
Doing what you like and doing what you think is right requires a price.
In Heidi and Grandpa, Heidi suffers from sleepwalking because she misses her grandpa. The doctor advises Heidi to go back to her hometown. Clara's father, although he understood that Clara didn't want Heidi to be the source of her daughter's happiness, followed the doctor's advice and sent Heidi back to her hometown the next day. Because he thinks that letting Heidi go home is the best arrangement for Heidi, he can't deprive Heidi of her right to happiness because of her daughter.
Throughout the ages, in order to adhere to their ideals, many people bravely followed, not afraid of difficulties, and even paid their lives.
At the end of the Ming Dynasty, there was a rare good emperor named Zhu Youtang, who was tolerant and kind. During his reign, the riddled Ming Dynasty was full of vitality and the people lived and worked in peace and contentment, which was called "Hongzhi Zhongxing". But the emperor survived, which is a miracle. He hid in the harem for five years.
Because his father, Zhu Jianshen, was the most dedicated emperor in the Ming Dynasty, with 3,000 harems, and Wan Guifei was his only pet. Wan Guifei is a villain in many TVB TV dramas, jealous and heartless. Zhu Youtang's mother is a maid-in-waiting. After learning that she was pregnant, Wan Guifei sent eunuch Sharla Cheung to get rid of her many times, but Sharla Cheung didn't. She kept him in the harem until Zhu Youtang was born. A group of maids, eunuchs and abandoned queens raised Zhu Youtang until he was five years old.
One day, Zhu Jianshen looked at his white hair and lamented that he had no son. Sharla Cheung waited for an opportunity to tell the emperor about the existence of Zhu Youtang, while Zhu Youtang saw the dawn. Wan Guifei became angry from embarrassment, and Sharla Cheung and Zhu Youtang's mother got lost.
For Sharla Cheung, he knew that hiding Zhu Youtang was a dead end and told the emperor that Zhu Youtang had no way out, but he still insisted on doing what he thought was right and fulfilling his promise, which was a real sacrifice of life.
Doing what you think is right will face many obstacles. Objective problems are not terrible. Just break them one by one. But what people say is terrible, three people become tigers, and they are shaken by too much listening. No firm belief is the most terrible.
The same is true on the road to parenting. Do what you think is right, why care what others say? Breastfeeding or milk powder feeding, barefoot children or wearing socks, children drinking cold water or warm water, climbing mountains or standing first, not attending early education classes ... You can entangle a series of choices, but the starting point of entanglement should be which choice will make children happy and make you happy.
"If something will make you happy, do it, no matter what others say." Grandma's words can cure all your entanglements.