When is the appropriate time to send children to remedial classes?
Zhe students are energetic and super active children, and going out is a whirlwind. I was worried that he wouldn't have a strong sense of the rules in kindergarten, so I signed him up for an English class to sharpen his ears and improve his cooperation with teachers and children.
English classes are held twice a week for one and a half hours each time. Foreign teachers 1, bishops 1, teaching assistants 2, children 10, all aged two or three.
Parents can accompany them in the first few classes, and children can attend classes independently in the eighth class at the latest. I have carefully observed that even children who look outgoing and independent will cry when they leave their parents for the first time. The stubborn student Zhe cried for more than 20 minutes for the first time, and it was useless for the teaching assistant to hold and coax him. I relented in the middle and went into the classroom for a few minutes. As a result, when I came out again, he cried even more-knowing that screaming at the top of his lungs would work and that children would use it often, I didn't go into the classroom again. After that, he still cries every time he attends classes independently, but the time is shorter every time. After the fourth independent class, he can have a good time with the teacher.
In the process of separating anxiety, it is better to test parents than children-it is extremely important to let children break the idea of being accompanied and ensure that they can see their families as soon as they leave the classroom door.
In mid-March, I was not at home full-time, and my grandparents' company could no longer satisfy Zhe's curiosity. For example, he often speaks some English words, and the old man can't communicate with him; For example, he said nursery rhymes, but the old man couldn't respond to him. At this point, you can consider letting them go to a slow class and get along with teachers and friends.
On the first day of entering the park, Zhe didn't cry because he was novel and had a good time. But the next day, every time I sent him into the classroom, I cried and shouted, "Mom won't go, mom will accompany me ..."
I made a lot of preparations in advance: I took him to swim in the early education center a few days in advance, contacted the head teacher in advance, and played with the children in advance, but the anxiety of separation still exists. Although I insisted on not looking back when he cried, I applied for an independent office on the second and third day after entering the park and "accompanied him" outside the classroom.
When he comes out to do exercises between classes, he will look around and look for his mother. Once he broke away from the teacher's arms and rushed to the door of the early education center in tears, vaguely saying that he would go home to find his mother. I didn't hold back and shed tears. But I know that if I show up at this time, it will only make his separation anxiety more serious and last longer. Therefore, I only have one sentence to make you cry when you enter the park for the first time: forbearance. At the same time, stand at the door of the classroom for the first time after school to ensure that you can see your mother's smiling face after school. A new sense of security will be established when the babies are sure that "mom can't see it for a while, not forever".
Who will pick up the children is more important than picking up early and picking up late.
From crying as soon as he entered the classroom to having fun with the children, Zhe wakes up every day and asks, "Mom, is today the weekend?" Let's go to kindergarten! "
I was inexplicably moved to hear the little guy ask this sentence with a little milk voice. The only thing I feel sorry for him is that I can't meet him personally every day.
I resigned in May, because I had to read and study every morning and write about WeChat official account in the afternoon. I can only send my children to school in the morning and ask the old man to pick them up at night.
Grandparents pick up and drop off their children and arrive at school half an hour before the kindergarten officially finishes school. When the children have dinner at half past four, they stand at the door of the classroom and wait.
Regarding whether it is better to pick up children early or late, some foreign scholars have done research: children who are picked up for the first time in a class are usually more confident than other children, but children who are always picked up for the first time are usually more vain; And those children who are picked up at the latest, especially those who are often picked up at the end, are usually introverted and even somewhat inferior. So don't always pick up the children first, and don't often let the children leave the classroom last.
Although I always tell my grandparents not to pick up the children so early, they are the first to arrive every day and wait at the door of the classroom with three or four other parents.
I sent my children to school, and my grandparents picked them up from school until early July. One day, I chatted with a friend (her daughter and Zhe are in the same class) and found that she is familiar with every child in the class and most parents, and can fully understand the children's campus life environment.
The next day, because it was finalized in advance, I went directly to pick up the children. When I arrived, Mr. Zhe was pulling a small train to wash his hands. Seeing me, his eyes lit up and pointed at me loudly and said to the teacher, "Look, teacher, my mother came to pick me up today!" " "
As he spoke, he danced away. So happy can be described as ecstatic. On the way back, he put his arm around my neck and said, "Mom, will you pick me up later?"
I'm a little sad to hear the children's words-the time to write a manuscript can be adjusted, the time to study can be adjusted, and one day less to pick up the children from school.
Since then, I have insisted on picking up the children every day. Slowly, I know who his good friend is, his classes during the day, and how long he takes a nap every day ... most old people don't know these details. In their hearts, the child was not injured or wronged.
Then one day, I played with my children in the classroom. My friend had to work overtime that day. Let me tell her daughter that her father will pick her up today. When I explained why my mother couldn't come, the three-year-old girl said angrily, "You don't have to tell me this, I know everything!" " "Obviously, she is very concerned about her mother's failure to pick it up.
Any child will mind, right? It is a ceremony for my mother to pick me up in person, and it is also an ironclad proof that I am very important in my parents' hearts.
I explained the situation to my friend, and she decided to pick up the child first and work overtime after the child slept. As a result, bad things turned into good things. My friend and husband came to pick up her daughter. The little girl is very happy. Holding her father in one hand and her mother in the other, she proudly said to Zhe, "My parents are here."
Zhe said to me, "Will Dad pick me up tomorrow?"
I said, "well, mom and dad discuss it and promise to pick you up together one day a week, okay?"
If it is too late to pick up the child carelessly, parents must apologize to the child, explain the reasons, and let the child know that they didn't deliberately ignore it.
After school, mom and dad came to pick them up together, not only with companionship, love, but also with a sense of security. The love of grandparents can't completely replace the love of parents, so parents should try to pick up as many children as possible, no matter how busy they are at work. Otherwise, children will feel neglected or even abandoned by their parents when they see other children being picked up by their parents, and the resulting loss and sadness will affect their lives.
What happens after receiving the child is also very important.
When I went to pick up my classmate Zhe, I found that when old people pick up their children, they often bring all kinds of snacks, and some even bring drinks. The reason why they do this is: the child went to kindergarten for a day, didn't eat well, didn't sleep well, and didn't make up at home?
It is true to love children, but snack drinks have a great influence on children's living habits: children know that they will eat snacks later and will deal with them when eating; Children know that there is sweet water to drink after school, and they begin to refuse boiled water when they wake up from a nap. ...
So is Zhe. A few days after I picked him up from school, he always asked, "Mom, did you bring me sweet water?" Grandpa gave me sweet water. Why didn't you give it to me? "
Therefore, when picking up children, don't let them eat too many unhealthy snacks and drinks because of psychological compensation.
On the way home, parents should take the initiative to communicate with their children: Did you have fun today? What did you eat delicious? Have you met any new good friends? What game did the teacher play with you?
If necessary, you can ask the teacher for a curriculum. If you can play kindergarten manual classes or games at home, you can keep them as parent-child projects. If there are foreign teachers' classes, parents can also learn songs or words taught by foreign teachers themselves, and create opportunities to sharpen their children's ears at home anytime and anywhere.