Today's children can get more choices, clothes, toys, and high-tech products that we never saw when we were children. However, will children be happier because of this?
_ Of course not. Gymboree, Jinan Early Education, tell you why not. First, children may be more unhappy if they have more choices. One day, a little boy was playing on the swing. When he saw the slide, he immediately went to play with it, only to find that the seesaw was empty. Then he went to play with the seesaw.
A little girl saw that no one was swinging, so she came to swing. When the little boy saw it, he immediately ran over and pushed the little girl away. At this time, the little boy's mother was angry, thinking that the little boy was too greedy and scolded her children.
The little boy is not greedy, but he has too many choices and can't find complete happiness in it, so he plays here and walks there and can't concentrate on exploring happiness in one place. Too many choices distract children's attention, just like at home, such as TV, mobile phone, tablet computer, computer, toys and even game consoles. No matter which one is attractive to children, it is impossible to explore it in depth, which leads to a great discount on happiness and a decrease in happiness.
If children only have picture books, cars and football, then children can enjoy the spiritual happiness brought by picture books at home; Enjoy outdoor and football fun; The car gave him a vision for the future.
Second, with more choices, children's concentration may be reduced.
Psychologist barry schwartz once did an experiment in which he randomly divided children into two groups to draw pictures. The first group of children can choose 1 from 3 brushes, and the second group can choose 1 from 24 brushes. Results The children's works in the second group were much worse than those in the 1 group.
Later, the researchers asked the children to choose their favorite pen from the list, and then tried to persuade them to give up this pen and choose another gift. As a result, the children in the second group are more likely to give up the pen they chose.
Many times, we think that children will be happy if we provide a lot of material satisfaction, but it is not. Every time is instant satisfaction, but together, children will lose their feelings because of these short-term "instant satisfaction" and feel less happy.
Since children are not allowed to choose too much, what should we do?
Too many toys affect children's happiness and intellectual development. What should I do?
Scholars in Virginia, USA think it should be five.
The reason is that when there are less than five toys, children may feel inferior; But if there are more than five, children will be easily distracted and their creativity will be limited. The number of toys needs to be controlled within a reasonable range, so that children's energy is enough to control and every toy can be fully explored and discovered. Children will not only get emotional happiness, but also the development of their brains.
Gymbo recommends a particularly useful toy list for everyone to choose 1 and assembled toys (building blocks and snowflakes): the style is simple, the gameplay is changeable, and the baby can play; 2, sports toys (balls, carts): In addition to fun, it can also promote the development of children's movements; 3. Graffiti toys (brushes, colored paper): Every child is the best painter and can exert his unlimited imagination; 4, plush toys (dolls, teddy bears): will be given life by children, the initial playmates in childhood; 5. Musical toys: (toy drums, toy pianos): Let children listen to different sounds carefully.
Don't be greedy for more clothes, less but better is the best choice. Some psychologists in Japan have suggested that children over 4 years old don't have to wear more than 5 sets of clothes every season, or even less, which can fully meet the needs of children; At the same time, children are required to have no more than 3 pairs of shoes (including household slippers) and no more than 1 hat. Maybe some mothers will say, "My children are still young, and five sets are not enough!"
Then the less the better, the simpler the better, which can meet the actual needs. A clean room can make children concentrate more on playing and exploring. Living in a space full of clothes and toys is more likely to make people feel bored and depressed, and their emotions will be affected, making them more impatient and impatient.
Jinan Gymboree said: "More is confused, less is clear", which will bring more happiness and satisfaction to children.