China people say that "caring for the elderly at the age of three, caring for the elderly at the age of seven" means that before the age of seven, children's characteristics basically cover their whole lives, and before the age of seven, most of the time and related influences are carried out at home, which is also an important reason for parents' literacy and family environment.
Psychology tells us that the three Q's of life, namely IQ, EQ and AQ, basically determine the value of life. The key period for the formation and development of these Q's is childhood, which is in the stage of family education. The critical period of IQ is before the age of seven, and the critical period of EQ and adversity quotient is between the ages of four and six.
If teenagers' nature and habits become natural, family education is the place where children learn to do things, learn to live in society, form inner correct values and external good habits, and learn to be human. School education focuses on letting children learn to do things, know skills and methods, and find a professional direction. Social education focuses on vocational shaping, role-playing and stage display. Their responsibilities and preferences are different, and family education runs through the other two kinds of education.
Personally, family education is still very important in one's life.
If ten points is a person's life, then six points may be related to family education from a family.
For example, the formation of personality, congenital factors and acquired factors are very important, but acquired factors can not be ignored.
Another example is the formation of habits, and the influence of acquired formation is more important.
For another example, a child's morality is influenced by acquired factors.
Here, let's talk about the innate factors that are children's spiritual embryos, and the acquired factors are brought about by the growing environment.
The influence of growth environment is closely related to family background.
Therefore, the concept of family education from family still plays a very important role and influence on people's lives.
Family education can be said to be the most important basic education in everyone's life and the foundation of all education. If we have to measure it in proportion, I personally think it should be more than 90%. Then tell me why I think so.
Since we were born, in fact, family education has been carried out imperceptibly. First of all, babies feel the outside world through their eyes and touch. Then, whether our home is clean and tidy, every word and deed of our relatives will enter the baby's eyes, which is one of the reasons why the baby will laugh and cry. So, don't think that this is just a baby who knows nothing. In fact, babies can communicate with adults in primitive ways, which forms the development of baby family education.
With the change of age, we will find that children's imitation ability is very strong. For example, some actions and words of parents will soon be imitated by children and divided into good and bad. A parent scolds at home all day, and children may soon imitate adults to swear. A parent watches TV and plays mobile phone all day, and the child will soon hold the mobile phone. That's why we need family education. Can't we adults watch cell phones and swear? I believe many people are very uneasy about this meeting. No one can do these things, but we have to understand that most parents will ignore their children's feelings or scientifically fail to realize that this will be a key in family education, that is, set an example and do the most suitable thing in the right place, not in front of the children.
Let's talk about older children. When children go to school, their gestures will reveal the temperament nurtured by their parents or the whole family. Some children are polite, enthusiastic, hygienic and modest. Some children are selfish, overbearing and lie; These are all caused by a family, which we call irreversible. Some parents may say, my child is young, but it will be fine when he grows up. I can only say that you are half right. When you grow up, because these things will have a negative impact on children in some ways or change their original life or work status, children will try their best to restrain themselves because of their strong self-awareness and binding force, but the habits they have developed will be buried deep in their hearts and will not change. To sum up, why do bad habits disappear when I grow up is because I realize the problems that bad habits bring to me, so I need to hide my bad habits. When I was a child, I was raised by adults. When I was a student, there was no competition between interests and survival, so my children would be very slow.
Finally an adult. I take myself as an example. Influenced by my parents and family, I should be filial to my parents and the elderly, honest, helpful and enterprising, so that I can help each other's classmates and volunteer in the community from an early age. Helping the old people cross the road and seeing their smiles, I have a great sense of accomplishment. When I see thieves or criminals, I will stop them or report them. Faced with work pressure, I will work overtime to study and overcome difficulties. Although I dare not say that I am a successful person, I can say that I have benefited a lot from family education.
I hope everyone can understand that family education will accompany us from birth to death, and everything we learn from family education will also affect everyone we meet in our lives.
Thank you very much for raising such a topic. This topic has a very important and far-reaching significance.
It was more than 20 years ago that my son went home for the first time to talk about family education after graduating from college. I remember he said at that time: "Family education is different, really different!"
I dare not say how well our family education is done, but we do attach great importance to family education. It is because of one thing that we attach importance to family education. Our county party secretary kicked his son into the street because his son was very unworthy! How shameful is it for a county party secretary to drive his uneducated son out of the street in front of so many people when his child is not well educated?
At that time, I thought: children's education is the first important thing in the family. Children's education is not good, and no matter how big an official is, he can't worry.
Of course, a child cannot stay at home all the time. He must go to school and then go to society. However, no matter how good a school or teacher is, it can't replace family education. When a child goes out to society, almost no one "educates" him, and it is all up to him.
And now school education is almost equal to knowledge education, even "score" education, and I don't want to talk about it. I believe that every parent will have a deep understanding.
So I think that family education determines how far your child can go, school education determines how high your child can go, and social education determines how stable your child can go.
Family education can determine the effect of children's education in school, and determine their mentality, direction and sensitivity when they receive social education in society. Therefore, I think that in family education, school education and social education, family education should account for at least 50% of the "share".
When I was teaching in a private school, I contacted the parents of a student. During the chat, his parents expressed his difficulties. He said: "If you miss something, you can't miss the education of your children!" When the child was young, he was doing business, running around all day, making some money, but neglecting the education of the child. He said, "I'm not rich. I made some money in business. Now I have more than 3 million, but my children are useless. If any teacher promises to educate my child and doesn't want him to become a talent, I will give this teacher more than 3 million yuan without leaving a penny. "
The serious consequences of children's lack of family education can be seen.
Moreover, family education for children should start at an early age. At every stage of children's growth, the contents, methods, concepts, attitudes and emphases of family education are different. It is useless to miss a certain stage and then think about it later. For example, it is useless to educate children to respect the old and love the young. If you don't do it seriously before the child is 78 or 10, wait until the child is 13. On the contrary, it will arouse children's rebellious psychology, make children and parents have psychological confrontation, and make children's rebellious psychology more and more serious. Because the child is thirteen or fourteen years old and has entered a rebellious period, he can't listen to his parents' preaching, his teacher's preaching and others' preaching. This is the reason for "missing".
So I want to tell all parents, first, we should attach great importance to family education for our children, and second, we should not simplify family education to simple learning education, or even score teaching and ranking education.
Family is a very important environment, because eating, drinking and sleeping are all here, and of course it also carries emotions!
This is also a necessity in life, and we also need to learn!
Family education will affect children's sky. What does the sky mean? What he means is that this sky belongs to him and his quality lies in family education!
Can the land under his feet bear the pressure from the sky? 5/5, let's go! There may be more! I think it's up to 8/2!
So what?
1, having a boy will affect three generations, their own growth, the growth of their children, and the support of their parents!
2, girls are more powerful, girls represent a family, I don't know if it is that important, I think it is the most important!
She will spend the longest time with her children and parents and have the greatest influence. It is she who supports the elderly and raises the children!
So I think family education has a far-reaching influence and is not easy to reverse!
A parent who often stays out at night will bring out the same children, and the children's children will be affected!
If a man smokes and drinks, his children will learn from him! If a woman can sing and dance well, her children will learn from her!
Lead by example, try the law by example!
The problem of family education is very complicated and difficult to deal with!
Family education plays an important role before a person can live independently. Parents' survival experience, common sense of life and the truth of being a man and doing things have great influence on a person.
After adulthood, the proportion of social education has gradually increased, while family education has weakened. As we all know, school education is an important place to learn survival skills.
People's behavior habits are mainly formed in the family. Parents' behavior, language style, speech content, temperament, etc. Is the source of early imitation. If parents are good, their children will be good, and if parents are evil, their children will learn evil.
Good behavior has been taught thousands of times, but none of the bad behaviors is as powerful. Because bad behavior is irritating, profound and contrasting, children can learn it easily.
People can't tell right from wrong when they are young, and good and evil are hard to tell. All these require family education to guide them and force them to correct their behavior. Even if he goes to college and goes out to work, if he can't have his own independent behavior to undertake everything and face life and work with his own judgment, then he needs family education to continue to guide him, which is also mandatory.
Slowly, the proportion of social education is also increasing. At this time, people will imitate the behaviors and words of excellent people around them to correct their shortcomings. And some deep-rooted personality temperament is more difficult to be influenced by society, which is determined by family education.
You can live independently in the later stage, and the nature in your bones remains unchanged. There is also a kind of "lazy to change" inert thinking in people's minds, because change is very painful and tiring.
Therefore, family education has influenced people's life and laid the foundation of life. Although over time, people became sensible and lived independently, and they would seek guidance and help from their parents when they were confused in life, at that time, family education was only a suggestion, not a "mandatory requirement".
How much should family education occupy in a person's life value?
A: Family education is a very important proposition! A person's growth is directly related to the influence of major family members, which should account for 60%. Because parents are the first teachers, the ways and means of education should be appropriate and always guided by justice. For example, why is China's world prosperous and peaceful for a long time? Who led the creation of a long-term prosperous and peaceful world in China? Coupled with the school (qualified) teacher education, it will teach good future generations.
I remember a successful manager of Taiwan Province compatriots in China said: Young men and women in China got married inexplicably without formal family education before marriage, and then inexplicably gave birth to children, and then the children grew up unconsciously without formal family education ... and then the next cycle.
Some of the current education is regarded as a failed education by the society. However, China's parents get married and have children, and there is no formal family education, which is the most fundamental educational failure.
Therefore, family education is the cornerstone of all education, and this cornerstone is not solid. Even the best social education is probably a flash in the pan!
Family education plays a leading role in a person's life, because when a person is born, he grows up with the love of his relatives. Early kindergarten education before children enter primary school plays an important role in people's life development.
Some experts say that the newborn baby only knows how to sleep all day, but by the age of three, the child has been playing around alive, his speech expression is clearer and his mental function has changed greatly. Stimulated by good early education, children's physical and mental development in this period is amazing. Early childhood is an important moment of early education, and it is recognized that before the age of three is the most critical.
In ancient times, there was a saying that "three-year-olds look down on teenagers, and seven-year-olds look down on teenagers", which shows that moral education in early childhood is extremely important for the development of people's moral quality throughout their lives. Family rules, praise, criticism and punishment, from obedience to self-discipline, all come from parents' words and deeds. Politeness, sharing, cooperation, helping others, compassionate education, and learning to get along well with others are also known and grown up with parents. Eating, sleeping, defecating, dressing, cleaning, going to kindergarten on time, etc. are also good habits formed by parents. The significance of labor, mutual respect and gratitude also comes from the inspiration of parents ... even elders and self-confidence are reflected from parents.
Family education is extremely important. Getting along with parents is a good soil for children to benefit for life. ……
Family education will affect people's life! People on earth are good at living. This goodness is not kindness, but blank white. People will be influenced by their surroundings from the day they are born. Although they can't speak, they can listen and see. The size of the voice, good or bad, will leave traces in his heart and directly affect his character. The key to family education is parents' practical actions, and parents' behavior affects children's habits. Children with early education are more anxious, and children around parents who often quarrel are more annoying. "Look at the age of three, and look at the old at the age of seven." This is the educational experience summed up by our ancestors for thousands of years, and we must pay attention to it. Once a child's habits and personality are fixed, it is difficult to change. Family education is a lifelong decision.