As long as I think about her state, I will be shrouded in anxiety in an instant.
Think about what parents should do when our generation is young. It is urgent to play with mud and play house.
How do you feel that it is so hard to educate children now?
Even, I find it difficult to teach children to speak.
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My daughter is 2 years old and can understand adults. It stands to reason that she is also eloquent.
But she just didn't say a complete sentence except crying and yelling.
It turns out that my daughter started calling mom and dad in six months, just like the children in Bao Ma's group.
As long as it develops normally, it is almost reasonable for everyone.
But as my daughter grew up, a year and a half later, the gap became more and more obvious.
Other children can recite a few Tang poems after one and a half years old, and she can only say simple words.
Sometimes when you are in a hurry, you will say a complete sentence or two.
In order to "force" her to talk, you have to force her to talk if you want a toy, or you won't give it if you don't say it.
As a result, my daughter cried her eyes out, but didn't say a word.
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Seeing other children talk like adults, my daughter can't express herself clearly.
I gave her an early education class.
As a result, watching other people's children be glib and playing games with teachers.
Looking at my daughter is a restless master, touching this and that for a while, completely disobedient.
"She sees everything, why not say anything?"
"The child is two years old, and language development is crucial. Talk to her more and guide her more. "
"I am two years old and have to talk, otherwise it will affect my future intellectual development."
......
The teacher's words made me scared and at a loss.
Forced her daughter to talk, both soft and hard means were exhausted.
I'm angry. I still don't say anything and roll around.
But looking at my daughter's sleeping face, at that moment, I wondered if my education method was wrong.
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I did all this for her own good! What was it like to finally "force her"?
Why did other children learn to speak easily, but she didn't? What did I do wrong?
In order to find the answer, I looked up a lot of information online and read a lot of books on parenting, and slowly found the reason behind this.
Children's language development is normal, but speaking late often leads to such a parenting problem-the language environment is single.
Originally, children born under the epidemic situation go out relatively little, have few contacts and have a single language environment.
Besides, her father and I are busy at work, so we can only give the children to grandma.
When the child just called "mom and dad", grandma couldn't take it out to play, so she had to stay at home.
In the long run, it will lead to the lack of communication with the external environment when children grow up.
Secondly, in addition to a single language environment, it can't give children good interaction.
For example, when my daughter just learned to eat complementary food, grandma fed her complementary food while watching TV.
Grandma thought it was easy to feed, but gradually developed the bad habit of not turning on the TV and not eating.
Looking back on my daughter's life from childhood to adulthood, I found that I almost got all the unscientific parenting methods that everyone said.
When she first learned to speak, she was too lazy to play some interactive games for her because she came home late from work.
Although communication didn't work when grandma was watching TV for breast-feeding, I felt hard in the follow-up breast-feeding and let her continue her bad habits.
All this has accumulated over time, making my daughter what she is today.
It turns out that children's problems are caused by these neglected parenting methods!
Then what can I do to help my daughter learn to speak quickly and express herself fluently?
At present, I think two points are very important:
First, don't be a "squatting parent".
Seize every opportunity to take children out to play, meet different children and see different scenery. In this way, she can not only learn to associate with people, but also make more playmates.
Second, try to stay away from electronic products, set an example, communicate with her more and encourage her to express.
"Raising Girls" mentioned that "language stimulation is generated by talking with children, not playing it to them with tapes, CDs or videos. Babies can only develop their communication skills if they get real oral feedback. "
Therefore, in order to let my daughter express herself smoothly as soon as possible, I will take him out as much as possible and communicate with my playmates. We should also have more language interaction with her, play games, tell stories and so on.
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Although I took Eva some detours before, I believe:
As long as I slowly guide, use different methods and vivid cases to make children feel that "talking is very interesting."
Then, it is just around the corner that she can express herself fluently.
I look forward to my daughter becoming "talkative" as soon as possible and sharing it with everyone. Come on!
Today's topic: Dear Mom and Dad, do you have any better ways to guide your baby to talk? Let's communicate together.