What do you do when your child is emotional? □ Give him other different items and try to divert attention.
□ Provide goods with the same characteristics as substitutes.
-secretly throw it away while he is not paying attention.
-go directly to wash, regardless of him!
He has a beloved little blanket with him all the time, and he doesn't care if it is dirty and old when it is dragged on the ground. Every time my parents secretly take it to wash, he will burst into tears, but not washing makes my parents worry that he will get sick. What a headache!
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Smell is the key to comfortable blankets, smelly pillows, baby dolls and other items. For some children, it is a very important symbol of "security". However, these children do not rely on the functions of these "objects", but only need the "taste" of these objects. Because there is a familiar smell on it, you can feel someone accompanying you when you close your eyes at night. This sense of security made him sleep well.
Children often need a "comfortable blanket", especially before going to bed, because "smell" is different from other feelings. Most senses (sight and hearing) are instantaneous. After that, they disappeared without a trace, without a trace. However, the smell is delayed, just like footprints through the sand, which will leave information that once existed. This is why children will always be infatuated with his blanket, because it retains many memories of "smell".
When we clean the carpet, it can not only wash away the dirt, but also wash away the smell. Even the same blanket tastes different. Although children know the same thing, they have different "feelings", so they will lose their temper and sometimes even kill them, so as not to be moved by others and avoid the tragedy from happening again.
Taste is a memory, and smell is a primitive sensory system. As human beings start to walk upright, their horizons become wider and wider, and we rely more and more on our eyes, gradually ignoring the importance of our noses. When our nose smells the smell, the nerve * * * directly transmits to the brain, which induces the activation of "memory area" and "limbic system". Let's judge whether this * * * is safe according to the "memory" in our mind. This is why we want to vomit when we smell corruption, which can prevent us from eating toxic things by mistake. On the contrary, when we smell our mother's smell, we feel at ease and relaxed, because we feel embraced by her smell.
Smell is like the "key" of brain memory. As long as you get the right key, you can open the "memory" hidden in the vast mind. This is why couples often snuggle face to face, hoping to smell each other's unique flavor. Children are not obsessed with things, but with their mother and their own smell on the carpet, from which they get the memory of being hugged.
Adjust yourself and change your children.
First, prepare materials. Children are more sensitive to smell, so they will never forget the "comfort towel". No matter how you explain that dirt must be washed, he can't understand it, and even becomes overly afraid of bacteria or diseases, but induces unnecessary fear. The easiest way is to prepare an "identical" spare product, put it by the child's bed for a while, get the smell of the child, and give it directly to the child when it is time to wash the "comfortable towel" for the child. Through the continuation of the taste, the child will not resist and achieve the goal of cleanliness. Isn't this the way to solve the problem calmly?
In addition, changing the clothes worn by his mother into the smell of his mother can also temporarily achieve the effect of appeasement.
Second, avoid odor confusion. Everyone has a unique smell, but we usually can't smell it. Studies show that mothers can tell whether clothes are children's clothes by the smell on them, but fathers may not. In sense of smell, women are obviously superior to men, which may explain why little girls are more concerned about the change of sense of smell.
Please don't smell the air when there are children at home. The sense of smell is easy to get tired. If there is an excessively strong fragrance, our sense of smell will be temporarily paralyzed. At this time, even if the child holds his own "comfort towel", he still can't smell anything, which is of course more unstable and easy to lose his temper. Try to keep the same taste at home, and you will find that children will become more stable!
Third, give more hugs. "Taste" is a memory, a security and a hug. Especially when parents are not around, children want to get a "hug" and a taste of their mother. What you need to get your child to quit the "comfort towel" is not to refuse, but to give him more hugs. Through the hug of physical contact, the child feels firmly wrapped and satisfies his desire, and naturally he will not be obsessed with the comfort of "substitutes". On the contrary, the more you refuse to hug and blame, it will only push him further, but it will make the child rely more on the "comfort towel".