Enlarge the child's "bright spot" for the child's withdrawal behavior, such as not daring to slide, jumping on the trampoline, and speaking too softly. Parents should try to restrain their feelings, not to react too strongly, but to be good at discovering and strengthening the "bright spots" in their children and avoid judging them by other people's standards. The most timid children occasionally make "bold" actions, which may be insignificant to their parents, but parents must try their best to capture these fleeting "bright spots" and give them necessary and even exaggerated praise and encouragement. But in reality, many parents not only scoff at their children's bravery, indifference and even disdain, but also often compare their children with other children. "What are you, who is much better than you?" "Who won the grand prize in the speech contest? You don't even dare to go to the podium." These words seriously hurt children's self-esteem and make them more inferior and timid. Therefore, for timid children, parents must insist on "more affirmation and less criticism"; Encourage more and blame less "principle. Lead by example, often tell children heroic stories, or guide children to watch some movies that reflect heroic figures, and buy some books and periodicals in this field for children, so that the heroic words and deeds of the characters in the stories can subtly influence children. Give the child positive psychological hints and list some brave behaviors, such as not crying after hitting someone, or just crying for a little while, being able to speak loudly and admit his mistakes, etc. We should also pay attention to the influence of father on the boy's character. Fathers often joke and play with children, and pay more attention to talking about fathers with children, so that the image and behavior of fathers can be clearly left in children's minds.