On my way home, I received a message from her: Mother C, please forgive my biased secret guess. After reading your circle of friends, I am relieved to know that Xiao C is not a single-parent family.
I was struck by lightning in an instant! In retrospect, the topics we talked about were all about the upbringing of children. She didn't ask about her father. Now I understand that she should have carefully avoided this so-called sensitive topic, because she thought there was something wrong with my marriage, because I always took my children to class alone.
I couldn't help crying and laughing when such a big misunderstanding happened. But it's really nobody else's fault. Blame only my little C, the father who disappears every day.
What? You said he was busy. What did he do? Is he a politician or a tycoon? Alas, fart music! He is just a little doctor, that's all.
"Wow, you can marry a doctor, you have money in your major, and you're not having fun?"
Who said that? Come on, come on, you come out, we'll change husbands.
Everyone has been to the hospital for so many years. When it comes to doctors, I believe that many people's attitudes are complicated: once they are attacked by diseases, both themselves and their relatives have high hopes for doctors, hoping that they can save themselves like God. After being cured, I think it should be; If you can't cure it, you will feel a little dissatisfied, and then it will be even more bitter to see those expensive drugs and equipment on the medical list.
As a family member of a doctor, my mood is also very complicated. But I don't want to spit, and I don't want to complain. Next, let's talk about the facts I saw.
The surgeon is very, very busy.
Their normal job is to arrive at the hospital for rounds before 7: 30. Because of the operation, there is no lower limit for the time to get off work at night, and it is common to go home after twelve o'clock.
There are no weekends and holidays, and you must rush to the hospital to see the patient in the morning.
I have to be on duty regularly, not in the day shift or night shift, but in 24-hour shifts. That is, from 7: 30 the first day to 7: 30 the next day. That's not all. Usually I work a night shift, and then a day of surgery, which means I have to work 36 hours continuously.
In addition to surgery, the rest of the time to manage patients, but also time-consuming and laborious serious and standardized writing of each medical record.
I am as tired as a dog every day, but I am still as excited as chicken blood. Dad C was ill two days ago and had a splitting headache at night. Call him the next day and ask him if he is better. He even said that he felt much better when he was busy at work!
I left a sentence "Life is terrible!" And hung up the phone angrily.
Besides work, I am also busy with my studies.
In all professions, doctors are the least allowed to fill in the blanks. They should constantly consolidate their knowledge structure and always learn the latest theories and achievements.
In all industries, doctors are also the least allowed to fool around. Whether for the needs of personal growth or for the rigid requirements of the hospital, they have to take exams and pursue further studies, and they have to climb the steps of residents, attending doctors, deputy chief doctors and chief doctors step by step.
So for them, reading has become as essential as eating. When you go home every day, as long as you are not too tired to lift your head and keep your eyes open, you must watch, watch, watch, learn, learn, learn.
Not only busy, but what makes doctors feel most chilling is the risk of being stabbed by emotional family members anytime and anywhere.
I don't need to list them in detail. Everyone has seen a lot of news. Let's talk about it: in the past year, there have been two incidents of stabbing doctors in Dad C's hospital. One of the people who was stabbed was not a doctor, but an ordinary worker wearing a uniform similar to a canteen white coat.
I worked tirelessly to save lives, but in the end I was embarrassed to bite the hand that feeds me.
With so much happening, doctors can't just sit back and wait. In Dad C's desk, everyone has a bottle of anti-wolf spray. At first, a doctor thought it was perfume, so he tried it out of curiosity. After being sour, sadness comes from it. Doctors should be comrades in arms to help patients overcome diseases, but they should always be on guard against the enemy.
Many people forget that doctors are not omnipotent, they are ordinary people, and they also have incurable diseases. However, they should try their best to reduce the probability of mistakes and accidents. But this still can't change the fact that doctors are still a high-risk industry.
Some people say that doctors earn a lot of money. After reading the above, do you still think they are free to eat? They overdraw their sleep and health day after day, risking being stabbed at work at any time. This is living with their lives.
What, you laughed when I said the word "life"? However, there is a fact that the salary paid to doctors is not as high as that of ordinary employees in an ordinary institution, whether in Beijing or the top three hospitals in the provincial capital. The directors only get five or six thousand dollars, and the small doctors in the front line can imagine.
Many people say that wages are just Mao Mao rain in their income. Yes, what is the salary? Is it a reasonable salary given by the unit to the workers? But for doctors who work all the year round, such salary is a joke, isn't it? Take my family for example, in terms of labor intensity, I am less than one tenth of my father C; As far as remuneration is concerned, he deserves even ten times as much as me. But the fact is, he is less than me 1000 yuan.
I want horses to run fast, and horses don't eat grass. Is this fair? Many people say that doctors take commission and kickbacks, and they hate to bite their roots. But do you think they will? Are they born with greedy faces? Who drove them to this point?
As we all know, the professional groups with the highest legal income in the United States are lawyers and doctors. Why? Because they know that lawyers and doctors have a long and arduous road to success. If they are not treated well, who is willing to go through all kinds of hardships to engage in such a thankless career? They also know that the sudden decline of talents is ultimately the misfortune of the country.
But what has our government done? Are doctors really responsible for the abnormal development of medical mechanism? Stop talking, let's stop.
It is really hard for doctors to do copywriting with such a profession. But as his family, it's not much better.
This is the backbone of the family, but for children, dad is just like "uncle" and "uncle", which is a common title.
The child is two and a half years old and never has a chance to say "goodbye" to his father in the morning, because he leaves too early every day; When I got home at night, the child fell asleep again. Even if I came back early, I was directly ignored by the children. What should I do? No joy.
Once, I went home with my father C. He went to the door first, and the children thought it was me. They came running happily, looked up and cried loudly. They also said to let dad go to the trash can. I asked you why you don't like dad, and the child's answer was distressing: "Because dad doesn't accompany me."
Every time I ask my mother if you are still at work, I am full of tears, waiting for my negative answer; If you ask dad if you still go to work, the implication is, why don't you go?
The only time I depend on my father is when I am sick. Rub up to dad and say, dad, I have a stomachache. Please take a look at it for me. At that time, dad C had a little sense of existence.
With such a husband, I have no temper.
I don't have time to ask questions or care about big or small issues at home. Even if I ask, I don't care, which fully gives me the freedom to turn over serfs and makes me a hermaphrodite.
I am really duty-bound to do housework at home and eat and drink Lazar.
To give the simplest example, on holidays, we should visit relatives and friends, from the planning of who to buy things for, to the shopping of big bags and small bags in the store, and then to a person carrying dozens of kilograms of goods to visit.
Grievance? Unfair! Can you see people fall asleep when they enter the door and become dogs? Do you still have the heart to listen to the lion roar? (Actually, I didn't yell less, haha. )
Although there are grievances, being the wife of a doctor's husband is not without unusual advantages.
What makes me most happy is that I feel that I have become very valuable in the past two years, and my classmates and friends who have not been in contact for many years have suddenly warmed up.
I still remember one night in the summer of the year before last, when the phone was shaking, it turned out to be a childhood friend who had lost contact for many years! Surprise overwhelms sleepiness. I'm so excited and miss you.
After a long time, the other party probably couldn't stand it, and directly interrupted me and said, "Sorry, my sister's colleague's sister's mother-in-law has an acute appendicitis attack. I heard that your husband's hospital is near his home. Can you help me contact the emergency? "
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Look, at the critical moment, someone will always think of me. With more and more such incidents, I'm used to it.
As a doctor's wife, I am particularly honored that my natural bad habits have been cured.
Before quarreling, I pretended to run away from home or threatened not to divorce. Dad C can always be kind and gentle until he makes me happy. But with the busy work, people fall asleep as soon as they get home. I didn't even have a chance to have an attack when something happened.
One night, my illness that I felt uncomfortable doing nothing came back. People are arguing with me because of a little thing that I can't remember now. I suddenly feel so sad. How could he do this to me? ! Taking advantage of the opportunity to go to the toilet, I quietly put on my clothes and went downstairs.
Wandering around the community again and again, huh? Why didn't he come down to me? Not even a phone. Then wait, but it's so cold. No, I can't stand it. Just go home and get a dress out. But I don't think I can get out once I go back. He will swear to stop me.
After returning home, I pricked up my ears and listened for a long time. I sneaked into the bedroom and saw that people were asleep! Fell asleep! I want to cry and watch people snore like thunder. I guess I can't wake up even if I cry my throat out. Damn it, forget it. Wash and sleep.
As a doctor, I gave my patients plenty of energy and blood, but left my exhaustion and tiredness to my close relatives. As a doctor's family member, I should abandon narrow and selfish thoughts, get rid of vulgar tastes and bravely follow the pace of progress. I can't stop him from trying to become a famous doctor. Wow! I feel possessed by the virgin Mary, and I have taken another step towards the goal of being a great woman.
Come on, mom, oh yeah!