However, it seems that not many parents remember these four words.
My generation of parents tried their best to give their children the best things in buy buy, even a bar of soap and a bottle of shower gel. Moreover, we study hard and learn parenting education, and spend tens of thousands of dollars every year to send them to the parent-child swimming pool of the early education center. I used to be such a mother. I bought boxes and boxes of toys, each of which was more luxurious and bigger, but most children lost interest after playing for a few days. At this time, I found that he likes to play with my mobile phone.
Why? Because the phone glows? Because cell phones look fun? Which toy with sound and light is not more fun than a mobile phone?
The answer is simple, because when I accompany him, I always sit next to him and play with my mobile phone; When feeding, hold the bottle in one hand and play with the mobile phone in the other; When I put him to bed, he lay on my shoulder, and I held him in one hand and played with his mobile phone in the other. For eight months, he has been watching me play with square bricks and things like that, and naturally he became interested. He likes everyone's cell phones, including those of strangers in the elevator. When he saw them, he wanted to reach for them.
I wonder, if I have been reading with a book in my hand since he was born, will he still like to look at picture books now? I have prepared a bookcase full of picture books and expensive children's books sent by various friends. I never opened it. Bought more than 100 yuan of cloth books from America. I thought he would like it, but I just flipped it a few times and threw it in the corner. There is nothing like his excitement every time he sees my mobile phone, scratching the screen with his fingers without teaching.
I suddenly realized that the child's imitation ability is beyond my imagination. I always thought he was too young to receive any education. He showed me every step of development and change from birth. Everything is too fast.
Sharing meeting in the evening Many people are sharing their experiences. Some people say that Montessori is awesome, some people say that Waldorf respects talents, some people say that international schools are the best choice, and some people say that public schools have the most solid basic education. However, although all education experts say that family education is the most important, it seems that every parent feels that his family is happy and there is no problem, and school education plays a decisive role.
But recalling the education I received since I was a child, all the things that have a direct impact on my character growth are from my family. I can hardly remember which teacher hit me and what I was like.
For example, my family said that I sang out of tune, and I stopped singing when I was five or six years old. For example, my relatives always make fun of me at parties and embarrass me. It is difficult for me to participate in group activities now.
I think the perfect family education is not only the perfect happiness of a family of three people, but also the example. For example, in the various courses of children's education that I often attend, if the teacher leaves homework, 90% of people copy from each other (me too), or buy classes and stay up late (me too). Parents are like this, can children not copy? How many parents study every day? Can children like reading? Parents have nothing to do to watch TV, and buy buy buys it. Why do they ask their children to study? I shudder at the thought of it!
I always remember a little thing about my boss.
My boss is a particularly overbearing person. The first time I saw him, I felt scared, like a triad. I am his assistant, so it is natural for me to help him with some work. But every time, he said thank you very politely. Once he says thank you, I will tremble. I wonder if I didn't do well enough to make him so polite. Isn't that my job? For what? Once I couldn't bear to say to him, "You're welcome, boss. Very kind. Very scary. " The boss said, "I am a child and I want to be an example." Later, I never refused him to say thank you, although I was still not used to it.
This is a very small thing. I didn't have children at that time, but it reminded me of what it meant to lead by example. Lead by example, don't pretend, don't be different in front of children. Leading by example is a habit, a daily behavior, something that people can see but don't deliberately do. If you lose some good behavior habits as an adult, you should try to change yourself back. Not for a while, but forever.
Therefore, when you feel that your child has a problem, you might as well look at yourself in self-observation first, and then reflect on your child's problem. Maybe everything will be solved.