How to educate a child with low emotional intelligence
1, always express love.
Both physical contact and eye contact help to improve children's emotional intelligence. Often expressing love in playing, eating and talking can cultivate children's healthy emotions.
2. Help children express their feelings
It is also important to help children understand and identify various emotional expressions. Many times children are angry because they don't know how to control their emotions.
3. Teach children to make their own decisions
Independence is the most important aspect of emotional intelligence. Only by letting them learn to make their own decisions from an early age can they cultivate their independent personality.
4. affirm the child's mood.
Allow children to express their anger instead of telling them "don't be angry." In addition, it is important to ask them why they are angry and help them control their emotions. Remember not to try to suppress children's emotions when they are angry.
Step 5 acknowledge their achievements
Always affirm children's intelligence and avoid belittling their actions, otherwise children will lose the ability to accept failure. Teach children to respond positively to setbacks and overcome negative emotions.
6. Don't spoil too much
Never say "you can't do this, I'll help you", which will hurt children's self-confidence and lose their sense of security.
Second, how do parents cultivate children with low emotional intelligence
1, parents should set an example for their children.
Children's curiosity and imitation ability are very strong. Parents are the objects of worship in children's hearts. Children observe their parents' every move with the most meticulous eyes every day, silently imitating learning. Unconsciously, the child has learned your tricks. Therefore, parents must be strict with themselves in all aspects and set a good example for their children.
2. Adhere to the consistent family education style.
The love provided by parents to their children should not be spoiled or partial, but rational and principled. Let children know from an early age: what is right and what is wrong; What is allowed; What are you not allowed to do? Always insist on the child's request. If you only make demands on your children without urging them, it will be difficult to form good behavior habits, and your children will take an indifferent attitude towards your parents' demands, so that your parents will lose their prestige. Only by adhering to consistent strict habits can children form good qualities.
3. Positive education based on positive affirmation.
Parents should make more positive affirmations from their children's childhood and guide them to develop towards their own goals from the front. After children are encouraged and praised, their self-motivation will be strengthened. The more realistic parents' expectations of their children, the more trust they have in their children and the more harmonious their feelings with them, the more they can stimulate their enterprising spirit. Praise your child's advantages in time, and express praise and wishes with appropriate rewards and body movements. If you don't play, you will only lose confidence and give up on yourself.
What should children with low emotional intelligence pay attention to?
1, let children build up self-confidence.
Self-confidence is the cornerstone of emotional intelligence. Confident children can be calm and correct in the face of malicious attacks from others, have good anti-frustration and anti-pressure ability, and will be handy in interpersonal communication.
2. Let children develop management skills of negative emotions.
Recently, our institution has added a day of meditation practice before study, so that children can sit down, close their eyes and concentrate on meditation 10 minutes. Experiments show that meditation can help to alleviate one's anxiety, strengthen one's concentration and further improve the learning efficiency. These relaxation techniques, properly designed, are suitable for children, and if they are learned early, they will be helpful for children's future stress resistance.
3. Let children have an optimistic and positive attitude.
Psychological research has found that as long as a child has a positive view of himself and an optimistic attitude towards the future, parents can rest assured that this child will not be too far away from happiness in this life.