Parents educate their children in this way, and children are educated by their parents in this way. They have always been honest, obedient and kind children.
But when I get to school, leaving my parents and living with a bunch of children with different personalities and similar ages, it is inevitable that there will be some bumps.
It is these obedient "honest children" who never swear or fight, but they don't know how to fight back when they stumble with their classmates at school. They are often bullied honestly and silently.
Some grumpy parents may say: What can I do? I have to fight back. If I don't know how to resist, my children will always be bullied.
There are also some parents who think it should be settled peacefully. Fighting violence with violence can't solve the problem, and it may turn small problems into big problems.
So what should children do when they have conflicts with others and are bullied?
This is the dynamic released by CCTV host Wang Xiaoqian.
After school in kindergarten, Wang Xiaoqian went to pick up her daughter early. The teacher told her that she had been bitten by other children.
The teeth marks on her face are obvious, and they have all turned purple. The teacher didn't find out until she saw the tooth marks on her face. Under questioning, she said early that when she was taking a nap, the little boy next to her bit them.
At that time, I held back crying, because other children were taking a nap, and crying by myself would affect others. He also asked why not tell the teacher. Earlier, he said, "He was playing with me, and then he bit me while playing. Mom, let's not talk about this. Let's go. "
It can be seen from Wang Xiaoqian's daughter's various behaviors when she was bullied in her early years that she must be a considerate, kind and tolerant child in daily life.
That is, a good boy in the eyes of parents, but it also has great shortcomings. Just like in the early days, people who bully themselves never ask teachers and parents for help or solve their own problems, but always endure.
As Wang Xiaoqian said, kindness and consideration are good for you, but you should know how to protect yourself from harm.
In the future, if you encounter a similar situation, mom and dad hope that you can push him away at the first time, or ask the teachers and parents for help, instead of silently enduring it yourself.
Parents' hearts will be more painful than children's when their children are hurt. After all, a child is a piece of meat that fell from himself.
When a child is hurt, it is useless for parents to just feel distressed, because things have happened and cannot be redeemed. It is better to reflect on yourself.
Think about whether you have done a comprehensive education when educating your children, such as cultivating children's resistance consciousness and counterattack ability.
Obviously, most parents didn't do it. They just think it's not good to call names and fight, and never mention how to resist or fight back in front of their children.
Because most parents follow the rules in their children's education, let their children abide by the rules and regulations and cultivate their children into an honest and obedient child.
Nor can it be said that this method of education is wrong. Can only say that it is incomplete. There is a very important deficiency, that is, teaching children to learn to resist, learn to protect themselves and safeguard their reasonable rights.
These can be consciously cultivated before children go to school, otherwise it will be too late to regret when children go to kindergarten and are bullied at school.