The boss gives you urgent tasks to work overtime; Relatives have just given birth to children, so they should take time to visit them. Mom's old heel pain is back. She should be taken to the hospital. If children want to go to early education, they have to consult their friends in the mother circle. . .
What makes us tired may not be how tired we are physically, but that we are too worried to play the role of a good employee, a good wife, a good daughter and a good mother. But have we stopped to ask ourselves, what do I want? what would i like to do ? Do I have time to pay attention to my inner growth? Once upon a time, I ignored my feelings like this.
? After having a baby, a switch on me seems to have been turned on. I am particularly sensitive to children's cries. I am ready to take care of her all day, even when I take a shower, I can hear the baby crying. Go to work during the day to deal with customers' various problems and mountain of performance pressure, and start taking care of children when you enter the house at night. Work and life occupy almost all my time.
? In-laws come to help with the children, and it is inevitable that there will be some friction in daily life. I can only compromise for the sake of children being taken care of.
? Walking in the chicken feathers of life, I am exhausted and at a loss, like a sleepwalking body, full of numbness.
Wake up my light
? One day, I suddenly found traces of yellow liquid flowing out of my daughter's ears. I panicked. Is this otitis media or a more serious disease? Will it affect your hearing? Hurry and call the husband who works overtime back to the hospital. The family looked at it for a long time and finally took a fancy to it. The doctor took a look and said, nothing, the child is normal, don't make a fuss all day.
Perhaps it was the doctor's impatient eyes, perhaps the displeasure on her in-laws' faces, or perhaps her husband's complaint. A "fuss" set off my accumulated emotions for a long time. Finally, I couldn't help shouting at my husband for his mistakes, so a war broke out at home. . .
That night, I cried in the bathroom for a long time and thought of all possible endings. The next day, I went to see my best friend. She saw my bloodshot eyes and dark circles, and said distressfully. "You are too tired to pay so much every day. It's time to give yourself a holiday. "
Once my best friend took me to do yoga. In front of the big French window, the sun was all over the floor. I listened to soft music and the gentle guidance of the teacher, gradually stretched my body and tried to talk to my body slowly, as if I had taken a hot bath for my tired heart.
Suddenly recalled: How long have you been with yourself?
After giving birth to the baby, I was occupied by that little life for almost 24 hours, always trying my best to give her the best, but have I ever taken care of my emotions? I also have emotions and pressures to deal with. In addition to the role of mother and employee, I am someone's wife. Did I also ignore his feelings?
This incident made my family and I have some ideas about each other, and it also woke me up like a pot of cold water and made me have more ideas about myself. Mother, employee and wife all have different roles in my life, but in the drama of life, the most important thing is to play various roles. Only when you are in good condition can you play different roles well.
? The road to change
Are you attracted by the fresh grass smell when you walk through the freshly mowed lawn? The blue sky after a storm is always refreshing. After that incident, I seem to understand, and I am gradually looking for my lost self.
I began to squeeze in a fixed half-hour to do yoga every day. This period of time is my holiday, which opens the road to self-awareness.
After that quarrel, I began to see things from a new perspective and learned how to communicate effectively with my family. Slowly, your sincerity is seen, and family relations will naturally be smooth.
Don't be trapped by the role of mother. Everyday life is eating, drinking and sleeping. You should escape and give yourself different possibilities. It's like being tortured by the daily work that is repeated every day, and you need a trip that you can just leave. The scenery and experiences on the road will make you grow into a better yourself.
I went to learn painting and writing, did a lot of things I always wanted to do before, and made many like-minded friends. Chatting with friends showed me that everyone got up from difficulties and dilemmas and continued to persist. All anxiety and self-doubt gradually dissipated, and I became more calm and optimistic.
? New self
? Gradually, I regained the right to choose and control my life, and I felt reborn.
When I saw my best friend again, she lamented that I had become beautiful. A person's state determines her appearance, and her inner peace and self-confidence make me beautiful.
A person's time and energy are limited. Only by handing over alternative jobs, paying attention to the core issues of life, pleasing yourself and making yourself happy and satisfied can we succeed in other fields.
All my private time needs to be adjusted and strived for. I asked hourly workers to help me clean up and squeeze out more time to spend with my children with high quality. Tell her daughter in advance that she needs some time to do her own thing every week, and she can accept it gladly; Give my husband regular holidays, let him do what he wants, understand and cooperate with each other, and make our small family more harmonious.
I went to the studio for classes on weekends and met an elder sister who is almost 50 years old to learn Chinese painting. We talked and had all kinds of things at home, but she came to paint every week. Because this is her pleasure, in the words of elder sister, this half a day is her time to release herself.
Self-time is like charging treasure. When you are tortured by life to a low battery, please remember to take care of yourself and charge it.
Life is only a few decades, don't lose yourself because a role pays too much. If life is compared to a big tree, the individual is the branch, and various roles such as work, children and family are the flowers and fruits of this tree. Only when the branches are full of nutrition can they bear sweet and delicious fruits.