The reason why we attach importance to the college entrance examination is because it is a fierce competition, even if thousands of troops cross the wooden bridge.
But for the more cruel competition in society, the college entrance examination is undoubtedly to help children get more choices and relatively fair competition opportunities in the future.
I remember when I was a child, the college entrance examination was as serious as the imperial examination. The head teacher earnestly taught us that the college entrance examination is a moment to change our destiny, and every extra test score can eliminate thousands of people in the province. Changing your destiny or being willing to be a salted fish is a gamble!
The purpose is good, but the result is often unsatisfactory. I admit, I don't belong to the type with good mental state. As a liberal arts student, every time I think of answering a wrong question in the exam, I will be accused by thousands of people. Every time I hold a pen, I always tremble ... the final score is worse than the estimated score 10. I don't know if they are all deducted from the paper.
But not everything is true. Teacher Liu has a relaxed attitude towards the college entrance examination. It is said that at 7 o'clock that morning, she went to the examination room by bike, read a mobile answer sheet, and went home for dinner after the exam. The only difference is that there are two more dishes on the table than usual.
It is said that her father didn't know when she took the college entrance examination, and she didn't know that her daughter was admitted to the university until her neighbor sent me the wrong admission notice.
Now the candidates are all after 00, and their living conditions are much better than I didn't know at that time, but the smell of anxiety is getting stronger and stronger. Parents can no longer be indifferent, smile and comfort their children not to be nervous, but at the same time they should compete with themselves. Please come to the Buddha's paper inkstone, lest I delay the "satellites" at home.
Anxiety from the college entrance examination is constantly affecting the whole education industry. Recently, there was an explosive news that plunged the whole education and training industry into a cold winter. A number of discipline education and training institutions have been issued sky-high fines, and educational institutions are about to change.
And such a news makes parents more flustered and anxious. The college entrance examination policy remains unchanged, and make-up exams are restricted. What about the children?
I don't know if parents smell another policy, that is, on the one hand, the state suppresses subject education and training, and it is clearly stipulated in the Law on the Protection of Minors that no kindergarten or training institution may teach primary school content in advance. On the other hand, we strongly encourage and support child care services.
All policies are rooted in one core. Education should return to the essence of education, provide school-age courses and activities for children, and conduct education according to the growth characteristics and laws of minors of different ages.
Compared with the anxiety of college entrance examination, what makes us more anxious is that children aged 0-3 have many educational problems today with economic development, social progress and better living conditions.
Language development is slow, social barriers, unsociable, too many electronic products, inattention and other problems emerge one after another. Education has gone to an unfair two-level polarization. Parents who pay attention to it are too concerned, and they keep a good eye on their children's growth every day. One thing is different from what they expected, and they all think that there is something wrong with the child. Anxiety all day, for fear of missing any critical period of children, will delay the growth of children.
At the other extreme, I think early education is just fun, but I can't go to school. When the baby is born, I'll throw it to the old man and nanny and it'll be fine. In order to make children eat well and take good care of them, I throw my children to cartoons, mobile phones and IPAD. I also call it learning from cartoons. It was not until I found the child staring at each other, unable to understand the instructions, unable to communicate with the outside world, unable to speak, and completely unable to sit still that I was anxious for help.
The college entrance examination is to cross the wooden bridge with thousands of troops, but even if you can't cross the wooden bridge, there are other ways of life.
Because education is a walk, the study of college entrance examination is only a marathon track.
Early education is a crucial period to determine children's brain development, social communication, emotional expression and behavior habits. These are not races, but the basic viability that determines whether a child can walk. For parents who don't pay attention to early education, I am helpless. How can a person who can't even walk run a marathon?
What is even more frightening is that I have seen many parents bring the anxiety of the college entrance examination and the utilitarianism of learning to the age of 3 and shorten the "preparation period" to the age of 3. ...
As for the rule that it is forbidden to teach primary school content in advance, many parents leave a message asking me, 3-6 years old can't learn these things, so what kind of courses should I choose for my children?
In the choice of preschool courses, I give some advice to "anxious" parents and give them a reassurance.
Any study before the age of 6 must be happy and can only be happy.
Realize your dream
Love for children is greater than hope.
Here we think about a problem,
What kind of people do we want our children to be?
Some hope that children will achieve something in their studies and reach the peak of science; Some hope that children will develop in sports and art and become eye-catching stars; Others have always hoped that one day their children will be all-powerful in the market place.
These are human nature, but many times, is the love we give our children too utilitarian?
In a recent TV program, there was a mother whose educational concept was unbelievable.
The mother said that her 6-year-old daughter began to contact extracurricular tutoring classes at the age of 3, and by the time she was 6 years old, she had spent more than 654.38+0.2 million yuan.
At such a young age, it cost 6.5438+0.2 million in three years, which is tantamount to an astronomical figure for many people.
Six-year-old children are dragged forward by various extracurricular classes, and their parents take them around the training institutions in Beijing every day.
Performance, vocal music, ballet, mental arithmetic, piano and catwalk are all extracurricular classes that Sunny wants to attend.
Signed a contract with the company138,000, including about 400,000 one-on-one vocal performances, 300,000 two workers' sports meetings, and about 200,000 new york fashion shows, as well as some other training performance classes and scattered classes, totaling1.2,000. ...
The mother of the child also said that most of the children's education expenses were actually funded by her grandmother, and she also sold a suite for her children's better development.
In this regard, some netizens commented:
"Three years spent1.2000. Does the girl have a mine? "
"10 years can't earn so much money, and this little girl spent it all in three years."
"It's normal for the rich. It is worthwhile to raise children. The little boy at a friend's house spends 100 yuan a year on training, just to give the child an advantage in the future. "
"My god, this which is to spend money on extracurricular classes? This is simply a star packaging scene. "
We don't evaluate whether the results of training can make children stand out, nor do we evaluate whether these expenses are worth it. However, we can see that there is only one reason for a family to pin their hopes on their children and make them "stars". But is it really their wish to be a "star"? Is she really happy? We don't know, but what I want to say is:
Don't pour all our regrets and hopes on a child under 6 years old. They really can't afford such a heavy dream. Others care about whether their children fly high or not, and parents should care about whether their children are tired or not. ...
Nowadays, the college entrance examination is no longer a wooden bridge. Self-enrollment, art test, vocational training, studying abroad ... Now, we have too many choices and methods to help our children succeed and become talents.
Although the college entrance examination is fair and simple, it is not the only one. As parents, it is better to teach people to fish than to teach them to fish. Cultivating ability, forming habits, and doing a good job in parent-child communication and communication are the king! Less anxiety and a little breathing space will give children a chance to wait for flowers to bloom.
Please believe that every child comes into this world with a mission.
Let the child relax and be a witness to his growth.
Please don't stop him from growing in the name of love.