There is an old saying: no matter how poor you are, you can't be poor in education, and no matter how hard you suffer, you can't suffer children.

Modern parents take this sentence as a famous saying, buy a school district to let their children go to a better school and enroll in various early education classes and cram schools.

In order to give children better nutrition, mothers scrimp and save, and there are delicious foods at home. Let the children eat first, and then the parents will eat the rest.

Yuan Yuan is a post-80s mother. Because of work, she got married at the age of 30 and gave birth to a child at the age of 32. After giving birth to a child, everything is round around the child.

I used to buy a few fashionable clothes almost every month, but after giving birth, the clothes became children's. Yuan Yuan's 3-year-old son loves to eat steamed buns. He bought some outside from time to time when he was a child. Later, Yuanyuan thought that the steamed bread outside was unsanitary and unclean, so she learned to make it.

The round son has a bad habit of eating steamed stuffed buns, especially the stuffing inside. At first, he would eat them together with the stuffing outside, leaving only the last bit of bread.

Yuanyuan was very happy to see her son like stuffing so much. Every time she chooses the stuffing in the steamed stuffed bun for her son, she only eats the skin.

Later Yuanyuan's son learned to be smart. Every time he takes out the steamed stuffed bun, he picks out the stuffing and gives all the skins to his mother.

The meat in the steamed stuffed bun is usually pork belly, so the steamed stuffed bun will be more fragrant. The three-year-old son only eats meat every day, and the longer he grows, the fatter he gets. I'm only three years old, and I'm almost 40 pounds!

Even Yuanyuan took her son out for dinner. Whether it's jiaozi or a steamed stuffed bun, she just picks out the stuffing inside and throws all the skins into her mother's bowl.

After the child went to kindergarten, he threw the steamed stuffed bun skin on the table and was criticized by the teacher many times. When communicating with Yuan Yuan, the teacher said earnestly: It is not love but harm for you to spoil your children like this!

Now your children are selfish and not very gregarious in kindergarten. It is because you usually follow your children at home that it is difficult for such children to integrate into this society when they grow up. Your wholehearted concern and doting will destroy them.

The child became incompetent.

Many parents worry that their children can't eat well, wear warm clothes and wash cleanly. When children grow up, they have to rely on their parents for everything and have a huge baby.

Once upon a time, there was a child named Suo Yang in the north. Because his parents are old, they love their children very much. Don't let them do anything, even when they go to school, they can't let the teacher criticize them.

But my parents died one after another because they worked too hard. Suo Yang didn't go out to work, but stayed at home every day. If the neighbor brings food, he will eat some. If not, he will be hungry.

If the weather is too cold, chop up the furniture at home, make a fire to keep warm, go to the toilet and dig a hole directly on the land at home. Live to be 23 years old and starve yourself to death.

So we spoil our children too much, which will lead to their incompetence.

Children are selfish.

Parents' doting will make children feel that everything in the world should be mine, and children will be overbearing and selfish.

Such children are not welcome at school or in society.

Children flinch when they encounter difficulties.

For example, when I was at school, I felt that learning was too difficult and too bitter, so I simply gave up.

Going out to work, I feel that the boss is too harsh, always criticized, and simply quit.

Such children have low academic qualifications, are unwilling to suffer hardships, and it is difficult to make a difference in society.

It's hard to support yourself. If parents are more capable, they can still make their children grow old slowly. If parents are old, unable to work and have not accumulated enough wealth before, the life of a family will be very hard.

Spoiling is like killing a child. Spoiling is really not love.

The fate between us and our children is actually just a decade or two, and then the children need to go on on their own.

When the child is young, we can only act as crutches to help him move forward. When children grow up, they will lose this crutch and stumble forward.

Smart parents will draw boundaries for their children and let them grow freely within the boundaries.

For example, children can watch TV after finishing their homework, and they can go out to play, but they must go home before ten o'clock in the evening.

Only when there is a border can there be freedom, and children can grow up better.