Qian Zhongshu once wrote such a sentence in Fortress Besieged: "Marriage is a besieged city. People outside the city want to go in and people in the city want to come out. " However, it is not difficult to find that in recent years, many people outside the city seem to be increasingly reluctant to step into this besieged city. During the Spring Festival, young people are afraid that their parents and relatives will rush to get married, and they are not willing to try. Even if they have a partner, they will be more cautious in the face of marriage. So what is the reason for this phenomenon? Both men and women, in the face of marriage, will have concerns. They are timid about the unknown marriage and dare not take this step easily. So we find that more and more young people are unwilling to get married in this era, and the reasons for this phenomenon are as follows.

Young people are under great economic pressure. For most men, the economy must be the premise for young people to enter marriage and the foundation for building a new family. Therefore, they hope to work hard for their careers when they are young and dare to propose to their beloved women when they have a certain economic foundation. Of course, apart from this reason, many men need to have their own houses and cars. Without these material conditions, they are not confident enough to propose to their beloved woman, so it is a great economic pressure for young men. Especially in some places where bride price is more important, many men often worry about bride price money, and even continue to worry about the livelihood of their families after marriage. Let's not talk about wedding expenses for the time being. After marriage, they not only have to worry about miscellaneous trifles such as rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, but also pay for milk powder and various expenses of early education classes after having children. If they can't prepare for all the unknowns in the future before marriage, they will feel very headache about the word "money" after marriage, so this kind of pressure will make men keep shrinking, afraid to talk about "love" easily, and even afraid to walk into marriage easily. Modern women are very independent. Nowadays, women's thoughts are becoming more and more independent, which is completely different from the girls of the previous era. In those days, women hoped to change their lives by marrying a good man and starting a beautiful marriage. Nowadays, women choose to be what they want to be in this era and begin to struggle for their careers and dreams. They no longer "fall in love" and no longer rely on marriage to spend their lives. In other words, nowadays women are very "Buddha", and even in the face of constant urging from their parents and relatives, they still maintain their persistence.

If you can't meet a suitable lover, then you'd rather be single than spend the rest of your life with an unsuitable person who doesn't love. Moreover, they have enough ability to support themselves and give themselves everything beautiful, even if they are alone, they will be particularly happy, so more and more young women are beginning to reject marriage. Marriage without a suitable lover is a major event in life. Only by finding the person who really suits you can you feel the taste of happiness in the next journey. So the reason why many young people have never been married is that they haven't met their lover yet, but when they meet the right person they really like, they naturally want to walk into the marriage hall with each other. If you get married just for the sake of getting married, you won't feel lucky when you meet someone you don't like. So even if you spend more time, you should try to find someone you really like to spend the rest of your life with.

This is the idea of many young people, so they don't want to get married more and more, and they don't want to meet blind date introduced by their parents and relatives, because they just want to marry someone they really like in their limited life. Emotional class: Lin said: "In fact, you will regret whether you get married or not. The cat in the alley is free, but it has no sense of belonging. The dog in the pen has a home to go home but has to bow his head all his life. How to choose this multiple-choice question in life is regrettable. " If you are facing pressure from the outside now, then you don't have to be too sad. Life belongs only to you, and even your parents can't make a choice for your life. It will be a lifelong regret if you hastily choose an unhappy marriage just to silence others. This multiple-choice question in life is difficult, but as long as you answer it with your heart, you will get a satisfactory answer. As long as it is the result of your careful consideration, there should be no regrets. There is no perfect choice, only your understanding of happiness.