In fact, does such a perfect child exist? We all say: there is no perfect person, so why ask a child to be perfect?
There is no perfect child in the world, and our parents can only accept his imperfection!
Actually, you know what? Children are also struggling with "imperfections" and want to be good children in the eyes of their parents; Be a good student in the eyes of teachers. Our parents always say that children are not doing well here. What should we do? This shortcoming of children is more likely to become the hardest hit area. Because the more you say that he can't do something well, we are his closest relatives, and the people who love him the most have been denying him. Where can he find confidence in his childish heart?
Therefore, we must first accept the imperfections of our children. The so-called "acceptability" means not accepting someone's emotions and behaviors with certain requirements and conditions. We should not only accept children's emotions; And accept the child's imperfect behavior. We should allow children to be imperfect and messy, so that we can see the beauty. Only in failure can children be truly achieved.
To accept children's imperfections, give a few examples:
One: children love to show off.
Children love to show off, allow them to accept his show off, let him go, not change him. All we have to do is help children discover that showing off can make life better? Or what kind of impact will it have on life? Let him see for himself, experience the changes brought by "showing off" to his life with his own eyes, and then let him choose his own homework.
Two: children don't eat well.
Accept the shortcomings that children don't eat well. We can't force children to eat, but we can do what parents should do. Give it to him at dinner. If she says no, we will remove the plate and tell her gently and firmly that if you don't eat now, there will be no fruit and snacks in the afternoon, so we can only eat them at dinner. ? When we say it, we must do it firmly, even if grandparents intervene, we must be firm in front of the children.
In addition: this is a habitual problem for children not to eat well. If children have been eating badly because of zinc deficiency, then they should be supplemented with calcium, iron and zinc to avoid affecting their physical development.
Three: Children throw things around.
We should stick to it gently and firmly. First of all, tell her gently: this can't be thrown away. It would be a small punishment to throw away my mother. For example, if she still throws away things that shouldn't be thrown on the table, then we can hold her little hand for a minute and stop her from moving freely. In the meantime, let's not be emotional, scold, yell or hit, just hold her hand and watch for a minute before letting go.
Four: What if children love to play games?
In fact, this is a small coup, just applying the requirements of his study to playing games.
He usually does his homework, do you always blame him for writing slowly, and others write fast, so you nag: write well one by one; People do it fast, and you think the correct rate has dropped; Do it slowly, you say you have dinner, and then you do your homework ... (Oh, it feels like someone) With such parents, which child will fall in love with homework?
Yes, in short, he can't find a sense of accomplishment, value and honor in playing games. In fact, everything is like this, and it works for everyone.
He plays games, you play with him, and then you hit him every time. When he was playing, you kept correcting him, correcting me, and saying, You are so stupid. You see, you lost again, and you kept denying him, making him feel that playing this game has no sense of accomplishment.
So this comparison, want to cultivate children's interest in reading, have any experience?
Five: Is it necessary to spend money on early education classes?
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