This study is from the United States. In the past, we all regarded America as a model of "happy education", but the truth is estimated to disappoint you-
In the United States, only children from poor families and a few ordinary families skip home after school at 3 pm in local primary schools; Most of the children, carrying schoolbags and musical instruments, went to their respective remedial classes. Why?
Because children don't participate in family education and social activities to improve their resumes, they basically miss out on famous universities. In developed countries, children can indeed have a "happy" primary and secondary school, but "learning less and managing more" means:
If you want to enter the upper class, besides public education, you need more self-discipline, more extracurricular tutoring and more social resources.
The real competition is outside the classroom. Because public education in western countries only provides you with the "most basic" educational rights; If you don't get more quality education outside the classroom, you will only be stratified and eliminated step by step in your growth.
Let's look at another example around me-
Colleague A is very worried recently that her daughter will go to "junior high school" next year. Under the guidance of the idea of "happy childhood", my daughter has poor grades, no special skills and poor study habits. She was dozing off even when others were cramming.
Colleague B began to investigate the major early education classes, although the child was only 4 years old. You know, she once sneered at early education: "Children just want to have a happy childhood." But when she found that almost all her friends signed up their children, she finally couldn't bear it.
However, her ideas changed quickly, and she soon realized that the harder her parents worked, the more they understood the importance of education. Many parents who enroll their children in classes have graduated from good universities and have good jobs;
They deeply understand that the sufferings of childhood are all for the sake of having more choices in adulthood; With more choices, you can avoid pain to the greatest extent.
Qian Wenzhong, a professor at Fudan University, once said, "I don't believe that education is happy." He thought: you can't give in to your child in the name of "love" anymore, but you should be really responsible for your child. Don't blindly believe some specious statements in society, such as quality education and exam-oriented education.
Why is it difficult for poor families to have sons? I once met a sanitation master in the community (note that there is no occupational discrimination here, but he happens to be a sanitation worker). He was telling people that his children were "not born to study", but the next second he made an appointment with someone at the mahjong bureau to "remember to bring wine tonight".
Parents play mahjong every day. How can they blame their children for "not reading"? Unfortunately, I don't know when it started, and the low-probability event of "parents always only care about their own play, but their children are admitted to prestigious schools" has become more and more respected.
Of course, mother doesn't mean to let everyone enroll in remedial classes, which can never be equated with early education. What parents do is the best early education. If parents are irresponsible, blindly pushing to make up lessons will only increase the burden on children.
Grandma just wants everyone to understand the reality. Under the current social situation, the children of poor families and the children of rich families have long been invisibly separated in education.
We can't change society, but at least we should give our children some help within our power. Childhood is a very important formative period for children. Good study habits and living habits will benefit him for life in the fierce social competition!