Many parents are confused. How to reward your children effectively? Because sometimes children are willing to do things because there are rewards, which goes against the original intention of doing things or studying. Parents are worried that their children will not do things because they are really interested. But sometimes children have to do something they definitely don't like, and they must also use rewards, such as going to the hospital to see a doctor, taking injections and taking medicine, for example, not to leave things lying around. I think there are several situations that can be considered.

First, when a child likes to be interested in something, never use rewards to attract him, which will weaken his interest. In addition, if children do good deeds, don't give them material rewards, which will also reduce their chances of doing good deeds next time. Because the good moral character of helping others is linked to material rewards, in the long run, it will easily lead to problems in his values.

For example, my daughter likes painting. I will tell her more about painting, or take her to know about art, which will broaden her horizons and make her want to learn. Now she likes drawing more and more.

The second situation is the behavior habits that some children must develop, such as finishing homework on time, eating and sleeping on time. These are behaviors that need to be standardized, and she may not like them. If she wants to cultivate children's habits, she can be rewarded first, and when she gets into the habit, it will become a daily behavior. At this time, the reward can be gradually reduced.

The last one is that the task is too difficult for children, such as learning math. The child may be interested in counting at first, but later it is difficult for her to do addition and subtraction or even some application problems, so she doesn't like it. At this time, rewards can be used to provide children with a reason to continue learning until they are able to complete the task.

Author: Carina, head of entrepreneurship education of financial groups listed on NYSE, Tony Bozan certified manager of mind mapping in UK, and signing author of mind mapping in Luo Ji. WeChat official account: original time (jiuyaoruci)