Mom is a teacher,

The mother is the child's guide,

Different ways of mother's education will often affect the child's life.

These words are taken from Yin Jianli's book A Good Mother is Better than a Good Teacher. I have changed a lot since reading this book, even my son says so about me. I asked him why he said that about his mother.

"Because you don't hit me now, you don't get angry when you help me with my homework. Even if I made a mistake, you became patient and lost your temper. I feel relaxed and free. " The son said with a smile.

I see.

There is a saying that caring young people can become senior chefs, and caring mothers can also become experts in children's education. Every child is a unique flower, and every mother is also a unique tree to shelter her children from the wind and rain.

Like myself when I was a child, my mother worked in the fields every day and had no time to take care of our five sisters' studies. We all grew up grazing. At that time, there were no remedial classes, no televisions, no cell phones and no electronic products. It's not that mom doesn't care, but that she can't do anything. At that time, "letting go" created our early independent personality.

I am a mother, but I am at a loss about educating my children. Although "intentional", it can't be "perfect". If you want to reach the word "non-trace" that Teacher Yin said, you will reach the best state.

Before my daughter was born, I began to read teacher Yin's book, which was given to me by my best friend at that time. I eagerly read it over and over again. Now that my daughter is three years old, I have benefited a lot from reading it. Under my education, my daughter has become excellent.

Since birth, she has been listening to stories with her brother every night. For a baby, she may not understand. But listening day after day, over time, imperceptibly influenced her. Her performance surprised me. Whenever she turns on the story voice in her mobile phone, her eyes are wide open and she dances happily. She listened quietly when the story was told.

When I was one year old, I tried to guide her to read books and picture books. Of course, after six months, she often played with books and used them as toys. When she can talk, I try to teach her to read stories. I suddenly found that she has a strong language ability and inadvertently said a sentence or a four-character idiom. With reading picture books, slowly, she no longer likes to listen to stories told on her mobile phone, but likes to sit on my lap, stick to me and read words while reading picture books. She likes it very much. Sometimes a story tells me to read it to her again and again, and I read it to her patiently over and over again. Sometimes my mouth is thirsty, and I think my lazy daughter can hear it and cry. So every time I read a book, I don't play games. I read it to her carefully. This way of reading has been adhered to for two years now, and she has also developed the habit of taking a nap before going to bed at night. If I can't do it, she will keep crying. She didn't sleep until I surrendered and finished my reading task.

My daughter has a good memory. She can remember almost all the books she has read several times, and even recite them word for word. Therefore, when reading, I also exercised her expressive ability. I read half a sentence and let her read half a sentence, which is actually reciting half a sentence. She doesn't know a word, and she can recite the corresponding sentences when she sees the pictures. Sometimes I make mistakes on purpose, let her listen, and then let her help me correct them. Every time she looks for fun in reading, she feels particularly excited.

At the age of 3, she learned to tell stories, make up stories and often tell us. Although there are many repetitive languages, I always listen to her carefully, and then clap my hands happily to encourage and praise her. She is more and more confident, more and more expressive, and her words are particularly appropriate.

Now, books have become a part of her life. She has developed a good habit of reading and likes reading new books, especially old ones. I read/kloc-a cat that has lived for more than 20 nights, not less than100000 times, and she loved this story tirelessly.

Now, even if I don't have time to accompany her, she can sit quietly on the floor alone and enjoy herself in the ocean of books.

Of course, every corner of my house is full of books. She fell in love with books slowly and naturally. As a mother, I always insist on guiding her correctly. Turn the phone to mute when studying. Every time I take her seriously, she always surprises me.

She likes reading her brother's dinosaur books now, and dozens of dinosaurs are clearly recognized. Now she can read more books than she can. She also likes watching TV as much as her peers. Altman, Spider-Man, Piggy Page. But every time she watches TV, as long as I say the TV is going to rest, she will immediately turn it off and consciously pick up a book to read.

I didn't teach my daughter by reciting ancient poems. She always listens to her brother recite them. I can recite dozens of songs now.

She can speak a few simple spoken English, which she learned from Dora the Explorer.

My daughter is not very sensitive to numbers. At first, I was so anxious that I couldn't teach anything. Once when I came back from eating out, it was already dark. She asked me what the license plate number on the roadside said. I read it to her slowly. I didn't expect her to be in high spirits. She searched all the cars in the community and looked at the numbers on the license plate number. I followed her for two hours before she came home.

The next day, while the iron was hot, I took her to understand the figures and walked in the community for two hours.

In four hours, my daughter learned all the numbers. It is normal to confuse 0 with O, 6 with 9 occasionally. After all, the child is only three years old.

My daughter has a very rich imagination. When I take her out to play, I always guide her what these things look like, such as what the moon looks like and what color the lotus is. She can always say a lot. She also likes to ask why. Once I looked at the lotus field and said a poem about it: "Fish are playing among the lotus leaves."

I haven't sent my children to study in preschool classes, nursery classes and interest classes. She follows me every day. She eats by herself, dresses by herself, likes to do housework, knows how to sort garbage, knows how to share when eating and playing with toys, and has developed many good habits. Although I was very tired at first, I became more and more relaxed after my children got into the habit. It is really not easy to form a good habit.

My cousin's son is six years old, and she has enrolled him in many interest classes. She didn't learn anything, but made the child thinner. Spending money without telling, the effect is not ideal. I think it is ok for children to study what they like properly while ensuring adequate sleep time, but parents can't get good results by forcing their children to study. Parents should guide and encourage her correctly.

As mothers, we should start from the child's point of view, just as Teacher Yin said in the book: Parents control the fate of children, and any plan to change children must start with changing parents themselves. The "one thought difference" in parents' educational concept. It will make a big difference to the fate of children.

In Qing Dynasty, Liang Qichao once mentioned in "On the Study of Kindergarten": "A hundred years' life lies in the study of kindergarten." That is: life is a hundred years, and success depends on education received from childhood. Parents who are good at educating their children must start from an early age.

Xunzi also said: "A gentleman's idle son loves him but not his face, making him ugly and guiding him with Tao but not his strength." It means to love children, not to show them on their faces, to command them not to use words, and to induce them by reason not to force them to give in.

There are many ways for the ancients to educate their children, which are worth learning. For parents in our new era, we should not only inherit the ancient educational methods, but also create better educational methods to lead the future of the motherland and shoulder the heavy responsibility of cultivating children.