Jiang Mumu Jr. has been in school for one year, and his classroom habits have not been very good. Now he can understand a little, but he is still stubborn. In the teacher's eyes, he is probably a naughty problem student.
This time, the teacher's comments hit the nail on the head. Behind the small stubborn behavior is that his parents have not strictly disciplined and established a sense of rules. Looking back on the process of raising a baby last night, there were many indulgences, such as agreeing to eat two popsicles at night, agreeing to run around without socks, agreeing not to eat until you eat well, agreeing to watch cartoons for more than an hour and so on.
Grow up with you again
I have been looking forward to growing up with Mu and accompanying him again. This kind of growth is not only to take him to experience everything he can, but also to correct some bad habits with him. After all, it's a long way to raise children, and we can't protect them for life. But letting children understand the rules and learn the rules is the best "umbrella" for children.
I have carefully studied some articles written by Professor Li Meijin and Fan Deng Book Club, and I will share the essence with you. One is encouragement and the other is supervision. I can't keep the mentality of "just one, don't be fierce" to raise Jiang Mumu, so I should punish him in time.
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The biggest dereliction of duty of parents is that they don't care when they should take care of them, or even don't realize that they need to take care of them.
Parents' whispers
When reading related articles, I saw a video: the little girl and her family always shook their heads and kept walking when eating, and fell to the ground in the middle of eating, clamoring for snacks; The key to this video is the parents' reaction. Not a word of reprimand. I watched my children fooling around and didn't realize that their behavior had gone out of line.
After watching this video, I feel like I hit myself in the face in piapia. Isn't this the scene where Mu and his parents are together on weekdays-sitting at the dinner table and letting the food on the mixing plate be scattered on the table and clothes? ...
What a shame. Xiao Mu's failure is our dereliction of duty. Children's shortcomings are not terrible. What is terrible is that parents, as the leaders of their children's lives, lack correct family education concepts and teaching methods.
To think that a child is naive is actually to push the child into a fire pit. Parents can indulge their children, but society will not spoil them. Those mistakes that have not been corrected are like time bombs embedded in the body, which will one day make children pay for themselves.
Just as the saying goes, "Life lasts a hundred years, from primary school", what kind of person a child will become when he grows up is often hidden in the education he received when he was a child.
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In the process of raising a child, parents should learn to be cruel and teach him to be a well-behaved child.
Parents' whispers
We often see such a scene: in the shopping mall, children want to buy toys, but in fact, there are mountains of toys at home. If parents refuse, it will cause children to roll and cry. In order not to lose face, parents can only give in, pick up their children, or escape from the crowd, or take their children to buy toys. Some parents will let him cry until his emotions calm down before communicating.
Soft-hearted to children is because parents love them and think they are still young, but it is because of this soft-hearted and connivance that children can find out the nature of their parents and then manipulate them to achieve their goals.
Not soft-hearted, not conniving, seemingly indifferent, but it is precisely the majesty that parents should have when educating their children.
There is a "Heine's Law" in psychology, which means that behind every serious accident, there must be 29 minor accidents, 300 near-misses and 1000 hidden dangers.
Children usually make countless small mistakes, which will lead to great disasters. As parents, the most basic love for children is to give them correct behavior guidance and three views. A child with no rules is like a racing car without brakes, ranging from ordinary friction and collision to minor injuries to car crashes.
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Set up a flag. To keep pace with the small MuMuBa, resolutely implement the following terms.
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Lights out every night 10. You can play with Babama for half an hour, but you can't watch your mobile phone and IPAD.
second
Eat at most one mini-cuto every night. After ten o'clock, don't eat anything, don't eat snacks, just drink water and eat vitamin C;
third place
Watch cartoons for up to two hours every day on Saturday and Sunday (in stages); Instead of letting children watch TV, parents can't watch TV and watch mobile phones;
fourth
On Saturday and Sunday, parents should stay at least two hours to read with their children, either alone or with them, but they must have reading time.
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