In the game I released before, my sister Suki occupied most of it. Today's long article is dedicated to my sister Sula! All for her!
Because ..... she's behind. Mainly in language development, I was dumped by my sister of the same age for several blocks. Today's article is actually a review and introspection of the second child. At the same time, I will also break the method of the special language training class I gave Sura and crush it in detail.
Is the language development gap only due to individual differences?
Sura is now 2 1 month old. Compared with Suki of the same age, her language ability is very different. My sister Suki started to speak words other than "father" and "mother" when she was 10 months old, such as "duck", "balloon" and "apple". At the age of one and a half, he became a chatterbox. I can speak many common words in life in both Chinese and English, recite A-Z, 1- 10, speak the names and sounds of all common animals fluently, and also speak complex words such as "architect" and "astronaut".
For the second child, Sura, the vocabulary she can speak at 18 months is similar to that of Suki 12 months. If she can nod her head or signal with her finger, she won't bother to speak. As for Sura's language learning, I always knew that she was making slow progress, but she didn't care too much, because I always believed that it was determined by individual differences. Since it was taught by the same mother, the child's rapid development must come from internal factors. I even suspect that Sura's mouth is busy satisfying the "eating" thing before the baby who likes to eat can talk. So I think it's no big deal to be a one-and-a-half-year-old "silent baby". Anyway, it is noisy enough to have a nagging boss at home.
Three months ago, I began to change my mind I saw an American report that investigated the development of a large number of children in many children's families. The conclusion is that among brothers and sisters, the elder brother usually has the highest IQ, and his academic performance and work income are relatively high. The reason is that his parents put more energy into his early childhood education and enlightenment. And the excellent quality of the second child? Usually emotional intelligence and stress resistance are stronger, and happiness is easier.
This report gave me a wake-up call. I suddenly realized that maybe the gap between the two children's language development is not entirely caused by personal internal factors. I thought about it. Although they are all taught by the same mother, do I attach equal importance to them? Of course, in other early education, I am also very attentive to Sura. I have been playing all kinds of early education and enlightenment games with her since she was born. But in language training, I made a mistake. The mistake is that I didn't give her enough "keyword positioning" training.
Why does "phonetic environment" compare with "linguistic environment"
How many blocks away?
Looking back, when Suki was one year old, every time we went out, I kept repeating the key words of everything we saw in the environment with her, over and over again, every day. However, when Sura was one year old, what was I doing when we went out? I'm talking to the boss! Because the boss is always nagging, talk to me! I always take it for granted that my sister Sura will have an ever-present "language environment" when she is immersed in my conversation with Suki, and she will naturally learn a lot of vocabulary.
But I made a mistake. Such "ear grinding" provides a "phonetic environment" rather than a "language environment". What's the difference between them? There is a "keyword positioning" between the two, and "keyword positioning" determines how many blocks the gap is!
What is "keyword positioning"? That is: help children connect sounds and meanings repeatedly and clearly. A divergent and nagging phonetic background provides a "sound" environment, but what is lacking is the connection between "meaning". "Keyword positioning" means "linking sound and meaning".
That is to say, Sura has been listening to me and Suki, whether in Chinese or English, but I didn't spend enough energy to help her clearly and repeatedly locate the pronunciation to the meaning. It takes a lot of time for children to explore the connection between "sound" and "meaning" themselves. This process is very confusing and error-prone. For example, some children are brought up by the elderly. It seems that the old people keep nagging and provide a rich language environment, but the child is still unwilling to talk when he is 2 years old. Why? That's because "nagging" and "positioning" are different. Old people may say a lot of long sentences and a lot of "sounds", but it is difficult for children to locate the "meaning" they can understand in long sentences and a lot of "syllables".
In retrospect, when I was with one-year-old Suki, although I didn't have a clear theoretical understanding, I didn't have anything else to pay attention to, so I spent all my time talking to her, pointing out key words and establishing a sound-meaning connection. While my sister Sura lost many opportunities for language training while listening to my differences with Suki.
Help your baby to establish a language system at an early age.
Is it out of "utilitarian heart"?
Some people say that children will talk sooner or later anyway, so be it. Why let children start language training early? Is this too utilitarian?
"Utilitarianism" is from the perspective of parents, satisfying their vanity. The so-called "let the children win at the starting line" is also a utilitarian heart that I hate. I don't approve of putting children in a competitive environment at birth and using them as a bargaining chip for parents to compare with others.
However, helping the baby to establish a language system does not make her parents more face-saving, because she can speak, read and write earlier and get good grades. The most important thing is to stand from the child's point of view: helping him to establish a language system can help him adapt to the world and understand himself with half the effort.
What aspects will children's language ability affect?
1. Among them, the most noteworthy is emotional management. When the baby is 2 years old, emotional management will be a big topic. I realize that Suki's emotional management ability is almost closely related to her language and vocabulary ability. When Suki was less than 2 years old, every time she lost her temper, if she couldn't explain herself in words, or even if her parents would understand her mistakes, she would have a particularly violent emotional outburst, and sometimes she was afraid because she didn't know how to control her emotions.
I used "keywords" again and again to help her describe the emotions and feelings she was experiencing, explain the causes of things and her feelings, and gradually she was able to understand what was happening in her body with these words. Once she can use language and vocabulary, she can think rationally and her emotions will suddenly export. When she can explain her feelings, her temper tends to weaken. Because she repeated "key words" with her in this way, Suki became accustomed to analyzing her feelings and reasons in words every time she lost her temper after she was 2 years old. She understood herself in this analysis, and the next time the same situation happens again, she will not be so emotional. Also between the ages of 2 and 3, her emotional management matured rapidly.
Similarly, if a child does not have enough vocabulary and language skills, then she will have a longer way to know herself, understand and overcome her emotions, and learn to manage them.
2. The development level of language system not only affects children's reading and expression, but also has great influence on children's cognition, learning logic, order and mathematics. When children are 2 years old, they learn shapes, numbers, order, cause and effect, space and so on. Most of the time they are in situations, and they need language as the basis to help them understand. For example, the number of more or less, the distance of space, the weight and so on. First of all, we should have a vocabulary reserve to rationalize the vague sense of order. Therefore, the development of children's thinking ability is based on language ability.
3. Social emotional development. With language, we can better socialize and communicate, express ourselves, know ourselves, understand others, have compassion and empathy.
To sum up, I think that apart from physical training, the establishment of language system is one of the most important early education enlightenments for 0-2 years old.
Keyword positioning method
Although my sister Sura has fallen behind her because of my uneven attention, at least it's not too late to realize it now. I don't want Sula to fall into the pit of "the second child is not as good as the boss" because her mother is not fair enough. I'm going to fill this hole myself.
In the past three months, I have consciously started special language training for babies who don't like to talk, and the effect is very obvious. In these specialized language training courses, the most important method is "keyword positioning". Let me elaborate on this method in detail.
What is "keyword positioning method"?
"Keyword positioning method" means "sound-meaning connection", which helps children to connect sound with meaning repeatedly and clearly. I made the key words clear again and again, and clearly pointed out the object or demonstrated its meaning. From simple to difficult, from less to more, accumulating constantly, and reviewing and testing the acquired vocabulary at any time, the child's language system is firmly established.
What are the taboos of "keyword positioning"?
Note that "keyword positioning" is not memorizing words in children's ears anytime and anywhere. This has become another form of "nagging", the biggest harm of which is that it may destroy children's increasingly fragile concentration.
When she concentrates on observing bugs in the soil, fiddling with a leaf and studying the motion mode of an object, and you impose keywords on her ears, it will only destroy her concentration and disturb her internal motivation to explore independently.
What games are the children playing?
Don't bother her with language training?
(1) problem-solving game.
This kind of games can cultivate children's concentration and independent observation and thinking ability, so don't interrupt her easily. Such as inserting rings, simple puzzles, shape sorting, taking containers, etc. , are all problem-solving games. Even if children want to overcome some difficulties and challenges by themselves, such as trying to close the door of the toy cabinet, parents should know how to "leave blank" for such games and let the children explore and try on their own. Unless children actively seek help and interaction, they will not be disturbed, which is not suitable for language training of "keyword positioning method".
(2) Sports games
This kind of game is not suitable for excessive language training. For example, she may have to concentrate on keeping her balance, or want to know how to hold the ball and throw it. At this time, the baby needs to pay attention to his body and doesn't want to be distracted by learning the vocabulary of the objects around him.
When shall we do it?
Language Training of "Keyword Positioning Method"
The following games and situations are applicable to the special language training course of "Keyword Positioning Method", and each category will push specific case studies in the next article.
(1) "Scenario Imagination" game:
Such as playing house, cooking games, pretending games, transporting rescue vehicles, doctors and patients, dollhouse and other scenario imaginary games. In this kind of games, children usually need to be eager to have partners to play with, and their mothers just participate. Situational games need stories and plots, and children are eager to use vocabulary. At this time, "keyword positioning method" is the most effective.
How to arrange the situational imagination game? My method is that every situational game has a theme, and things related to this theme are put together, so that the baby can observe things, remember vocabulary and make analogies, which is good for her systematic cognition. For example, this time it is the theme of fruits and vegetables. I put her fruit and vegetable toys together to learn related vocabulary. Next time it may be transportation, then repeat the "keywords" related to various transportation. The more different categories are repeated, the more familiar she becomes with related scenes and "keywords"
(2) Language training of "marching" and "waiting"
For example, pushing a stroller to take the baby for a walk in the park, or going shopping in the supermarket, or queuing for payment, the child is "on the road" and she is not focused on anything or any game. She is also curious about the surrounding scenery, and the "study window" is open. This is a good time to "read" what her eyes can see. It is best to have a thematic environment, such as "natural field", "supermarket" and "museum exhibition". It is best to go back to similar scenes often and review her vocabulary repeatedly.
(3) Language training on two-dimensional paper
We are familiar with secondary language training and often read picture books to children. But the language and cognitive training of two-dimensional world and three-dimensional object should be carried out at the same time, so that he can better connect the two-dimensional and three-dimensional imagination.
In addition to reading picture books, more effective secondary language training is as follows:
The noun "find out where" refers to the reading game; Scene paste game; Family photo slide game. These games are more suitable for "keyword positioning". For details, please see the game example pushed in the next issue.
(4) Sensory games
Water, sand, mud, ice, rice, beans, foam, pigments, cloth and other "dirty play" game materials are very suitable for 1 year-old babies to develop their senses, know the world and develop their creativity. At this time, "keyword positioning method" can also help her language development. In addition to the nouns of materials, the key words are to help children describe her feelings, describe the texture of materials, and describe touch, hearing and smell.
(5) When children have special emotional expressions.
When a child is particularly happy, surprised, afraid, angry and sad, the expression of these special emotional feelings is the best time to help her reserve "emotional" vocabulary and understand and understand her emotions. The most important thing is that parents should not easily deny their children's emotional feelings! For example, when she is afraid, don't tell her that she shouldn't be afraid, let alone get angry with her because the child loses his temper. The child needs to know that she has the right to have any emotional feelings. What parents need to do is to help her describe her feelings with "keywords", why she feels this way and what her child can do.
What are the sentence patterns of "keyword positioning"?
"Keyword positioning" is not to repeat one word after another for children alone. It is best to put the key words in the context, so that she feels that this is a communication process. After finger reading, there are questions to test cognition and questions to encourage children to answer in language. I'll give you three sentence patterns, each of which can be used for training. I will give many examples next time.
(1) "disyllabic meaning" sentence pattern
This is xxx. You are xxx. You like xxx.
These sentence patterns help children locate sounds and meanings. Every time you say the sound of a keyword, you need the child's hand to touch something, or the mother's finger to stretch out and the child's eyes to stare at something, so that she can connect the sound and meaning of the keyword.
Putting keywords in sentences can help children understand the context, learn the collocation of verbs and nouns, and make it easier for her to organize sentences in the future, resulting in more communication emotions. But this sentence pattern must be short and the key words must be very clear. Once the sentence is long, it becomes nagging, and once the child gets lost, it loses the meaning of the keyword.
(2) Finding cognitive problems
"Where is xxx?"
This is a test to see if the child really remembers the sound and meaning. If she remembers and can recognize things, she can point them out with her fingers.
(3) Encourage children to answer questions loudly.
"Do you want xx or xxx?" "Is this xx or xxx?"
This alternative sentence pattern is to guide children to speak and answer, and children can't be lazy to nod or point with their hands! Especially when things are out of sight and can't be pointed out, in order to express clearly, she can only try to say words.
Writing here, I want to say: the long article of language training class is not to increase the anxiety of mothers. Many children "don't like to talk", but it is not the same as "beyond recognition". For example, many children don't want to answer these questions loudly in the third sentence, but the cognitive test method "Where is xxx" in the second sentence can be pointed out by children, indicating that there is no problem with children's cognition. She can understand all this, but she has not found the motivation and confidence to express it in words.
In fact, many children spend a lot of time silently recognizing things and memorizing vocabulary before the age of 2, and then suddenly burst into speech after the age of 2. It shows that the "keywords" she has learned have accumulated in her heart. Therefore, if there is a "baby who doesn't like to talk" at home, mothers should not mistakenly think that the child is "not smart", as long as they can continue to help the child recognize and help her "keyword positioning".
(This article comes from: Baidu Baby knows that I am a small cockroach)
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