My good neighbor Dongying has encountered such a problem. When she was pregnant, she had already prepared the necessities for her baby, not only milk powder, diapers, cups, cribs, but also many beautiful baby clothes.
But every time my mother-in-law comes to see the children, she will bring some old clothes from relatives and friends. It is said that children who wear old clothes are healthy and good for their health. Although there is no problem with the quality of these clothes, there are inevitably some stains and they are not very clean.
As the child grows up, the mother-in-law is more and more aware of this. Every time she goes back to her hometown, she will take the initiative to ask her relatives and friends if they have any idle clothes for her baby grandson to wear. A good friend never stops her mother-in-law, because she thinks her mother-in-law is kind, which not only saves some expenses, but also brings her a certain sense of happiness.
But once in the process of attending early education, Dongying inadvertently put on an old dress for her child, which aroused other parents' vigilance against her son. They feel that their children are not very hygienic and don't want to be in a group with their sons when playing games. At this time, my friend realized that if this continues, it may also have an impact on the growth of children.
Austrian psychologist alfred adler pointed out that everyone has a latent inferiority complex, and it is this inferiority complex that gives people the motivation to "pursue Excellence".
We used to have a special sense of inferiority in one aspect, so once we have the conditions and strength, we will put forward higher requirements in this aspect. For example, children always wear other people's old clothes when they are young, and they may spend a lot of money on clothes when they grow up, even if they don't buy them, they don't wear non-brand names.
When Qiu Ying watched a psychologist's video, the psychologist also mentioned: Never dress children with other people's old clothes, otherwise it will affect their mental health as adults.
The specific performance is as follows:
1, children are prone to psychological problems when they grow up.
Children always have material shortages, so working independently when they grow up will fill the regrets left by children. Maybe a lot of my monthly income will be spent on brand-name clothes to make up for what I lost when I was young. Instead of this, I don't respect my child's inner thoughts since I was a child, and I don't want to save money, which causes greater regret.
2. Future development may be limited.
Because in the children's world, more and more people realize the importance of the gap between the rich and the poor, so it is easy to distinguish the children's world. Rich children will seek their own circle of friends, so children with simple lives will also have their own circle of friends. There is bound to be a gap between them. If they always wear simple and plain clothes, it will be difficult for them to integrate into other people's circle of friends and be hostile to others. In the long run, children's pattern and vision may be limited.
The pattern of children is very important, birds of a feather flock together, and people are divided into groups, so children should have a better circle from an early age.
3. Children are easy to satisfy, content with the status quo, and do not seek progress.
Once children get used to the simple living environment, they will develop this simple living habit, which may be good. He doesn't want to make progress, but muddle along every day. And I will feel too much pursuit and too much pressure. It is easy to cause stagnation in life.
Mother-in-law may give her children old clothes to wear, thinking that she can save some money, but in the long run, it will affect the children's psychology and even have a bad influence on their mental health after adulthood.
Therefore, for the sake of children's mental health, never wear old clothes for children.