Some time ago, I saw a netizen print out his own bill for raising a baby. It takes about/kloc-0.03 million from the time his wife gives birth to a child to the time he buys a good car and a house for the child.
This time caused a heated discussion among netizens. Some netizens said: "Isn't it sweet to buy a house for millions?" Some netizens also said: "This is the standard for raising a baby in a small county in the fifth line. This should be on the front line. One million is not enough for the down payment. How can we raise a baby? " The words of netizens are summed up in one sentence: "Raising a baby is to raise a money-burning machine. It is really impossible to have no money! "
It's too difficult to raise a child. After the opening of the second child policy, many families began to "compete for a second child". Some netizens lamented: "There are only two cases of having two children this year. One is really rich and the other is really big. " The crooked mother agrees very much.
Grandma Wang's family in the community is one of the families who are "fighting for a second child". This not only adds a second grandson, but also makes the family very busy.
The neighbor asked Grandma Wang, "What if you have two boys here?" I have to prepare two houses. Grandma Wang is not worried: "Leave it to fate." . You can support yourself. If you can't afford milk powder, you can drink rice soup. If you can't afford the tuition, you can go back to your hometown. There's always a way. "Neighbors see grandma wang so optimistic, it is not good to ask again, so as not to be cut off.
Some people say that Grandma Wang is so open-minded because of her good family background. But in fact, Grandma Wang's family is not rich at all. The two old people have no income. The only son in the family is working, earning several thousand yuan a month. The daughter-in-law took care of the child at home after giving birth to a child and never went out to work again.
Based on this calculation, the life of Grandma Wang's family is really tight. The young couple talked about having a second child. After giving birth, the wife can go back to work and solve the problem at once, instead of changing jobs all the time.
In this way, the reason is very simple. A family with a big heart chose to have a second child. At first, the young couple hoped that it would be a girl, which made the family less stressed. Unexpectedly, it was still a boy.
The crooked mother doesn't know whether the young couple are worried about their two sons or whether they can meet their children's growth needs. Just like the "bill for raising a baby" published by netizens, it takes 65,438+0 million to raise a child. This 6.5438+0 million can only meet the basic needs of children. With the cheapest diapers, you can go to the cheapest school, you can't have hobbies, you can't go to cram school.
If the guaranteed money is not ready, how can you have confidence to have a second child? Giving birth to a second child is not decided by patting the head. Young couples can't just consider their own convenience and decide to have a second child before considering other issues. Such consequences will only increase the burden on families.
Just like the previous case, it puts a heavy yoke on the father of the only child who has the ability to work, and also puts a question mark on the harmony of the follow-up family.
If you want to have a second child, you must first measure your family situation and make economic and psychological preparations for another child. This is responsible for the child.
1. Prepare the economic foundation
In modern society, it is easy to have children, but difficult to raise them. I believe that no parents want their children to lose at the starting line, so they are all thinking about giving their children the best material conditions.
From the birth of the child, give the baby high-quality milk powder, take the child to early education classes, and develop intelligence. Is primary school a public large class or a private boutique small class? Children's favorite hobbies, such as painting, are very talented. Do you want him to take a painting class and support him to pursue his dreams? Every process of raising children costs a lot of money. First measure what kind of living conditions you can provide for your children, and then decide whether to have a second child.
Be mentally prepared
In addition to the economic foundation, parents should also be psychologically prepared. Raising two children requires more time and energy. Ask yourself if you have enough energy to cope with life.
3. Get Dabao's consent
Dabao is also a member of the family. Before giving birth to a second child, you should also ask Dabao for advice. For example, you can say, "Mom and Dad will find you a younger brother and sister to play with, ok?" This can increase the child's sense of participation and make him feel like a member of the family.
Aunt's conclusion:
Giving birth to a second child is a serious matter, and it must not be decided by a hot head. Do a good job in economic preparation and psychological preparation, give children a guarantee, promise a responsibility, and let children grow up happily.
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