Ollie's sister has been eating with a spoon since she was 8 months old, and has not been fed by an adult since she was one year old. Every day when everyone goes to dinner together, she also eats her own food seriously. She is very independent! When Owen's brother is almost two years old, he will still leave the table many times when eating. If he is not reminded, he will wait until the meal is cold. When I meet a neighbor in the elevator, my sister will take the initiative to say hello and then grin; Owen used to hide behind me when he was the same age.
Owen is in Grade One. He usually can't remember what lessons the teacher taught and what homework he left, but Tong Tong, a female classmate of his age, remembers every homework clearly and finishes it well. Teachers often praise her among parents.
No comparison, no harm. I can only comfort myself: boys start to understand late.
"Boys begin to be sensible late" is not just a folk rumor. Boys' intellectual development level is generally slower than that of girls, and some 5-year-old boys are even about the same psychological age as 3-year-old girls.
Why is there such a big difference in intellectual development between boys and girls? Scientists have proved by experiments that there are great differences in brain development between boys and girls. Through the magnetic resonance imaging experiment, it can be seen that the corpus callosum in the boy's brain is smaller than that in the girl's, and the corpus callosum is an important part responsible for the connection between the left and right brains. Because the corpus callosum is "smooth", girls can often analyze and process information more easily. Boys, on the other hand, have more spinal fluid in the brain stem, more dopamine and testosterone in the blood than girls, more energy and better physical strength, and are far ahead of girls in the development of big movements.
Therefore, parents with boys at home should educate their children in the right way:
1. Don't compare with girls of the same age. Boys themselves develop slower than girls, and if they often compare with girls, they will be more anxious and inferior.
2. Choose an early education method suitable for boys. Boys are slow to develop, so don't let them write too early. If boys are slower than other girls, don't worry too much. Try to simplify the complicated information before telling them.
3. Participate in activities that reflect the advantages of boys. Boys are generally far ahead of girls in the development of big movements. Therefore, boys can take part in running, playing basketball, skating, swimming and other sports at the age of 3-6, which can not only enhance their physical fitness, but also give play to their own advantages and enhance their self-confidence.
4. Actively cultivate boys' good moral character. Short-term intellectual development will not let boys lose at the starting line, and good ideological and moral character is the cornerstone for boys to win in the future.