No matter how ordinary I am, I still want to take my life into my own hands.

I'm only 3 1 year old, and I graduated from cold window. My life is not over from my childhood dream. I still need achievements and garlands, and I still long for poetry and distance.

All this came to an abrupt end with the arrival of the child.

That child, that "little man" with pink cheeks and innocent eyes, has usurped my life step by step since the day he was born.

It has added countless joys and helplessness to my life! Without the help of my mother-in-law, compared with my husband's salary of 60%, I can only quit my job and go home to take care of my baby.

At this point, my life began to get out of control. It is no longer arranged by pictures as I dreamed. I am like a puppet, a puppet, and I lost my soul unconsciously.

All for the children? It's a false proposition!

In a blink of an eye, the child is one and a half years old, and his big sports and language development are good. I propose sending children to a nursery, but my husband is very opposed to it.

Reason:

First, although his salary doesn't have much balance, it is enough to spend, and there is no urgent economic pressure for me to work.

Second, it is also a "play" for children to go to the nursery. Playing outside is better than playing at home. Such a small baby needs a mother and can't lose her sense of security too early.

Since when did my husband and I directly change from negotiation to unilateral decision-making? I'm the whistleblower, and he's in charge!

I was sent home again, but my reluctance encouraged me to try again.

I started secretly looking for a nursery, looking for a custodian aunt, and looking for a safe, secure, flexible fee that does not exceed 60% of my current earning power.

Ran a lot of institutions, mainly divided into several categories:

First, public kindergartens: starting from small classes, you are eligible to enter the park when you are 3 years old. And school ends at 4: 30, and the park must be cleaned and disinfected before 5: 00 at most. Even at the age of three, transportation is still a problem.

Second, private kindergarten classes: there is one in the community, which is opened in a 200 square house in a building. 1.5 to 3-year-old children, mainly parents to solve my thoughts and needs. The maximum number of children is 15, and the minimum number is 6. Three young female teachers take care of them. I play indoors most of the time, and occasionally take it downstairs to play on the slide for half an hour. On weekends, it is 2,500 yuan a month from normal evening to 4: 30, especially it can be delayed to 6: 30, which increases the cost 1000 yuan.

Third, the kindergarten class of early education institutions: more formal than the last one, listed for operation, early education courses are not simple care. The cost is 3500 yuan, and the winter and summer vacations, weekends, and school hours are synchronized with regular kindergartens. Shuttle is still a problem.

4. Private kindergartens: kindergartens that can enroll in nursing classes at the age of 2 and can be seen in all aspects, with a minimum of 2,000 yuan per month. Except that the price is cheaper than the third category and the scale is larger, the other time is the same as that of public kindergartens.

Verb (abbreviation of verb) custody aunt: My aunt was denied by us from the beginning. Neither of them is at home, and there are no old people. It's a bit risky to leave the family and children with an unfamiliar aunt, and there are no suitable people among the familiar relatives. Pick-up and drop-off the custody aunt is 2000 yuan per month, pick up the children at 4: 30 until 7: 00, and you can go home after work.

The model of private kindergarten+school bus+aunt is the only feasible one. The cost is 4500-5000 yuan per month. Children facing a new environment and a new caregiver are definitely not as good as their mothers. It means that my salary in this job is only 8000 yuan.

But will I still have the confidence of 8000 yuan after working full-time for two years and entering the workplace at the age of 32? Even if there is, it must be a desperate mode of overtime business trips and single breaks. But the husband is already in this mode. There must be one person in the family who can get off work on time from nine to six, never work overtime on weekends, and the children are free to ask for leave if they have something to do. It is impossible for such a job to have a high salary or a future in a private enterprise.

Social education requires us to work hard for our dreams, and children are eager for our care and companionship, but no one tells us how to take care of both.

Stay-at-home mothers are destined to be a group abandoned by society, dragged down by children and not understood by people around them!

We call for more possibilities and flexibility in social employment in the future.

(Shouting from a full-time neighbor)