I am glad to read this book under the recommendation of a mother. Meeting in Love is not so much a parenting book as chicken soup for the soul. It is one of the best self-study books I have ever seen, perhaps because she wrote it from a mother's point of view. I admire Bubu's "hard work" and positive and optimistic attitude, as well as his gentleness and understanding of children. The whole book conveys the message of "making children feel stable and happy all the time" and the true love for life.
Liking your work and life is the best example.
"Letting the body or brain do nothing is not necessarily a pause. Transformation' is also a good rest and a fresh start. " Thanks to Bubu's on-demand program, I have the opportunity to repent again and truly experience the beauty of life. The process of "growth" takes time, and you can't jump just because you need it. Therefore, as parents, we need to understand the growth of children and understand that "freedom and arbitrariness" has not brought any special happiness. Don't complain about the busyness in work and life, face life positively with an honest heart, and happiness will naturally come to us.
Teaching by example is more important than words, and children grow up watching adults' backs. In fact, to discipline children, we must first discipline ourselves. Parents, especially mothers, should always let their children feel the message of stability and happiness. Bubu said: "The most important thing in education is not to give children rules, but to be a good adult." "Be a good adult and give your child a debt-free love." Mr. Mori Jinsan said: "Discipline is not to teach children to do it, but to teach them to learn silently." Parents should set an example, get along well with time, and make preparations in advance. Treat children gently, avoid swearing and yelling loudly, and express concern, companionship and care in daily life.
Bubu said: "We always overestimate the happiness brought by material conditions, but I think the best family is that parents have a stable and happy mood and like their work and life." Nowadays, we completely abandon our children to the elderly, and under the slogan of "for children, for the happiness of the whole family", it is easy to fall into the "struggle" of pursuing a high material life and put all our love for children into the process of career climbing "temporarily". We completely ignore the process of "practicing sesame seeds and throwing watermelons", and when children grow up, they fall into the ending of "parents work hard and children don't live up to expectations". Poor child! What a pity, my Lord!
A sense of security may not be a carefree attitude, but confidence in your ability to face problems.
"Cultivating children's quiet mind and body" makes me feel the same way. Indeed, only when people are quiet can they examine themselves and talk to their hearts. "A sense of security may not be a carefree attitude, but confidence in your ability to face problems." As mothers, we should always make our children feel stable. No matter where we are every day, life should have a center of gravity. Therefore, when children operate a toy independently or their eyes stay somewhere for a long time, I prefer not to disturb them. Disturbed parents can't bring peace and stability to children, so we should avoid complaining to children that "I'm busy". Bubu's "Don't worry" will also be my goal.
For "love", we should give it appropriately and never force it. "Give children real freedom" is what every parent needs to practice. Sincerely accept the child's nature, and parents should not be stingy with their appreciation, affirmation and encouragement. It takes time to grow, and it takes time to let go. "Don't have age-inappropriate expectations for children, and don't let children have age-inappropriate dependence." Similarly, when children try to climb by themselves, parents should learn to let go. You know, many times children can do better than we think.
Although I don't believe in God, I am also moved by God's creation of mother. I really like Bubu's comments on her mother: soft, tough and hopeful. These six words make me proud and confident as a mother. My mother's position is unmatched by others. She is the soul of this family. She has all kinds of tenderness for children, infinite tolerance for her family and perseverance in difficulties.
When children are intently watching caterpillars eat leaves and ants move under apple trees, we should learn to wait quietly. We should cheer with our children when they climb higher steps for the first time. When children play with mud, sand and games, we will accompany them quietly and the children will feel very satisfied. Therefore, we should not only expect a planned long-distance trip, a well-prepared party or an expensive playground or early education system. Indeed, "whether it is a father or a mother, whether it is sincere care, it will not miss the soul corner that children need to be cared for."