As the saying goes, in the first ten years, if the mother-in-law can't do anything at home, it will undoubtedly bring a bad impression to the daughter-in-law. It is difficult for two people to get along with each other, and all family members live in an awkward and discordant environment, which is not conducive to everyone's life and growth.
My friend Xiao Jing hasn't seen us for more than a year since she gave birth to a child. Seeing her again, her beautiful face has long since disappeared, with many wrinkles on her forehead and a lot more white hair. She said that she was tortured into a "yellow-faced woman" by her mother-in-law after marriage and asked her why. She actually told us that it was because she didn't get along well with her mother-in-law and no one helped her with her children. The extent of life is unimaginable.
0 1 Poor mother-in-law doesn't know how to respect her daughter-in-law's personal concept.
It turned out that after the child left three months later, Yue Yue had no time to take care of her and her husband, so Xiaojing wanted her mother-in-law to help. Xiaojing's mother-in-law is a very strong person. Xiao Jing was afraid of bad influence because she didn't get along well, so she tried to swallow her words. Xiao Jing told us that her mother-in-law didn't respect her personal thoughts.
Mother-in-law should give personal opinions on various problems of children, such as when to wean, what complementary food to add and so on. And let Xiao Jing listen to her. The mother-in-law just helps to take care of the children for a while when she is happy. Many times Xiao Jing not only has to look after the children, but also does housework. Later, when the child grew up, Xiao Jing went to work, and her mother-in-law took care of herself and went out to play mahjong, regardless of her family. Xiao Jing has been busy all day cooking dinner, waiting for her to come back. Nevertheless, her mother-in-law is always picky about the taste of food and ignores Xiao Jing's efforts at work.
Poor mother-in-law doesn't know how to respect the family from which her daughter-in-law comes.
Once, Xiao Jing's parents came to see the children and wanted to take them back to live for a while. Xiaojing carefully asked her mother-in-law's opinion, and her mother-in-law was really unhappy. She said that the child's surname is the father's surname and she wants to stay at her grandparents' house. Xiaojing didn't take it to her parents' house! Xiao Jing was very sad at that time, but she couldn't beat her mother-in-law, so she had to make up a euphemistic reason for her parents to go back first. I didn't expect my mother-in-law to be so unreasonable. My mother-in-law has been educating Xiaojing and said, "Xiaojing, since you are married into our family, you should know what to do as a daughter-in-law, what to do and what not to do. Mom has been through it. It is not easy to be a daughter-in-law. You should have requirements for yourself. "
Poor mother-in-law doesn't know how to respect her daughter-in-law's parenting concept.
On another occasion, Xiao Jing and her husband had a contradiction in the concept of early education. Her husband thinks the child is too young to need these things. Xiao Jing thinks that the child has actually begun to understand. While arguing in the living room, the mother-in-law came out with her child in her arms. Xiao Jing felt cold, and her mother-in-law said, "Xiao Jing, the child is still young. I am afraid I will not learn anything if I let the child go so early." We don't want others to learn anything. This course is too expensive. Besides, many early education classes cheat money! "Xiao Jing looked at her mother-in-law and husband standing on the same front and could only agree.
Xiao Jing told us that she and her mother-in-law became enemies, which made her begin to regret entering this marriage. She thinks that a good mother-in-law can be met but not sought. It doesn't mean that if she does well, her mother-in-law will be rewarded. After all, there are only a few mothers-in-law who can fully respect their daughter-in-law's concept and lifestyle, and there are endless "evil mothers-in-law" on TV, but in fact, poor mothers-in-law are even worse.
The reason why mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can enter a house shows that there is a great fate between them. A clever mother-in-law will cherish this fate and be good at seeing things from the other side's point of view. Mother-in-law will not use her own ideas to block young people's ideas, leaving each room, and will fully respect her daughter-in-law's opinions on raising the next generation. How can such a kind mother-in-law not please her daughter-in-law? The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law also gets along naturally and harmoniously.