One day Xiaoxi felt a little uncomfortable and didn't want to practice dancing, but Xiaoxi's mother didn't care, thinking that the child was "making excuses". It was not until the child cried loudly and painfully in the interest class that Xiaoxi's mother discovered that the child was very hot.
Like Xiaoxi's mother, in order to help children "win at the starting line", there are also many parents who help their children cultivate multiple specialties. However, these parents have not really discovered their children's hobbies except forcing them to attend various interest classes.
First, parents need to correctly understand their hobbies and specialties 1 Every child is unique.
I saw Zhang's children learning piano today, and I will give them a piano lesson tomorrow. Tomorrow, when you see the Wangs' children learning English, you should enroll them in an English class ... Most parents enroll their children in interest classes in order not to distance themselves from other children, not realizing that each child is an independent individual with different hobbies and interests.
2 When exploring children's hobbies in the early stage, we should aim at "playing".
Now early education is booming, and parents hold the idea of "early education". The starting point of children's "teaching" is getting lower and lower, and even they begin to do so-called "prenatal education" in their stomachs. Early children's physical development is immature, so it is necessary to explore children's hobbies for the purpose of "playing", discover children's preferences through the process of "playing", and focus on them in future education.
3 Let children have access to all kinds of things.
Instead of enrolling children in multiple interest classes, it is better to let them have more contact with games and activities. Let children know all kinds of new and interesting things and find their hobbies in the process of children's contact.
Only an interest that makes people feel happy can develop into a specialty.
If the child's interest can make the child experience pleasure in the process of participation, then the child will not reject this interest and will not be "fresh for three days". Only when children can continue to experience fun in these interest activities can they develop this interest into a specialty.
Nowadays, parents are very concerned about their children's hobbies, and they all hope that their children can develop one or more specialties in order to contribute to their lives and work in the future. But parents don't know how to find their children's hobbies. After all, the child's concentration is not very concentrated, and it is likely that a hobby will be gone in a few days.
Second, how should parents discover their children's interests?
1 Provide children with various opportunities and pay attention to observation.
Many parents don't know what their children like and are good at, so they enroll their children in various interest classes, hoping to discover their talents. However, children who wander between training classes will soon lose interest in various interest classes. Parents should give their children more opportunities to contact with various industries or activities, pay attention to their hobbies in the process of "playing", and then let their children contact interest classes.
Pay attention to the things and activities that children like for a long time.
Parents can observe whether their children have long-term favorite things and activities in the process of getting along with their children. For example, some children like to disassemble; Some children like ball games. However, children's curiosity does not last long. It is likely that they will not play ball for two days and toys for two days. Therefore, paying attention to the long-term is more important than paying attention to what children like.
Give children opportunities to show their talents and give encouragement.
Many parents feel that their children's poor grades will give them "shame". For example, some children like singing, but they can't sing well, so parents won't let their children sing, but let them learn art, rejecting their desire to show their talents. Parents should give their children more opportunities to show their talents, encourage their children's performance and let them stick to this hobby.
Children with one or more specialties can add points to their future study, work and life, so that they can better adapt to society and live a more colorful life. Therefore, it is necessary for parents to attach importance to and cultivate their children's hobbies and specialties.
Third, what should parents do in their daily life? 1 Diligent in discovery and good at guidance.
If you want to turn your child's hobbies into your child's specialties, you need your child's real interests, not the specialties that parents force your child to learn. Therefore, parents should pay more attention to their children's activities, discover their hobbies and talents, guide them in this respect, and gradually cultivate their hobbies and talents into specialties.
2 Communicate with children often and respect their ideas.
Some parents may not have the opportunity to learn all kinds of specialties in their childhood, so they will want to impose their wishes and ideals on their children through their children's "agency satisfaction", enroll in training classes they don't like, and learn their disliked specialties. Parents usually communicate with their children, respect their ideas about hobbies and encourage them to try and persist.
3 Cultivate children's hobbies and specialties in life.
Parents should strive to improve their artistic accomplishment and influence, and edify their children from themselves. Create a harmonious and stable learning atmosphere for children, stimulate their interest in certain things, and encourage them to stick to it. Just like if children want to learn musical instruments, parents must create an atmosphere of music learning, and parents themselves need to learn music knowledge and grow up with their children.
It takes a long time for children to become interested in certain things or activities, develop into love, and finally become a specialty. In this process, parents should not rush for success, but gradually discover and cultivate their children's hobbies in daily life, and finally cultivate them into their specialties.
Fourth, parents should pay attention to 1 when cultivating children's hobbies, which is more positive and worthy of praise.
The establishment of children's initial self-confidence mostly comes from parents' encouragement and praise. Only when parents encourage and affirm their children's behavior can children realize their own value and gain the motivation to continue their efforts.
Refuse to label children as "negative"
In the process of finding hobbies, children always have problems such as liking the new and hating the old, not being firm and making mistakes constantly. At this time, parents can't label their children with some negative labels such as "stupid", "no talent" and "that's it". What they need is comfort and encouragement, avoiding "perfectionism" to demand children, helping children analyze the causes of problems and helping children solve difficulties.
Help children face difficulties and setbacks correctly.
When children fail or make mistakes, many parents always like to criticize their children for not working hard enough with negative comments. At this time, what parents need to do is to allow their children to make mistakes and failures, tell them that "difficulties and setbacks are temporary", help them face difficulties and setbacks correctly with encouragement and comfort, help them stick to their hobbies, and increase their "resistance" ability.
There are many ways to cultivate children's hobbies and specialties, and attending interest classes is also a way. However, parents can't blindly rely on various interest classes. They need to teach according to their children's different conditions and performances, so as to really help their children grow better.