1. Parents should think from their children's standpoint and put themselves in their children's shoes. At this time, the child is no longer a child. Parents should treat him as an adult and pay attention to the tone of speaking with their children.
2. Respect children more, don't beat and scold children, don't compare children with others, not only care about children's learning, don't tremble in front of children, and don't repeat the same mistakes.
3. Trust the child, let him do his own thing, don't be too strict, let go of the child more.
4. treat children as friends, parents should support their inner thoughts and let them trust their parents. Children are naturally willing to accept their opinions.
5. Praise and encourage children more, don't deny their practices and ideas, and give them the following hints.
This is a curable disease, but it can't be blocked blindly, but it should be dredged.
Need to communicate more, don't make trouble. It is better to be a father-son friend and let him know from it than to supervise every education.
A high school parent of the swimming team said that the child was adolescent and grumpy. Later, my father took his children to run 3000 meters every night before going to bed. The child is as tired as a grandson every day, and he is no longer fidgety.
He is impetuous, and I believe your temper is not much better. Give him the cold shoulder first He needs your concern, wants to talk to you, and then talk to him well.
There is a generation gap between children and parents. It is because they have not reached a "* * * knowledge" that they can't talk well.
Encounter menopause is also afraid of adolescence. If adults dare not speak loudly at home, I think this problem is formed over time, not just adolescent impetuous psychology.
Method 1: Parents should change their roles and actively establish a good parent-child relationship.
A good relationship is better than a lot of education, so parents must pay attention to this educational reality. Adolescent boys are in the "psychological weaning period" and have a strong sense of independence, trying to break free from the shackles of their parents. But at this time, they are very concerned about "psychological friends" and care about the attention and respect of others. Therefore, if parents can adjust their roles in time, play the role of boys' friends, give boys the necessary respect and understanding, and help them relieve their troubles, they will enhance their feelings and become friends, psychological counselors and mentors of adolescent boys.
Method 2: Face up to the "adolescent problem" with understanding and respect.
Due to the maturity of sexual function and the awakening of sexual consciousness, the "hazy love" between teenagers and girls is a normal psychological need during the growth of teenagers. For this kind of demand, parents should understand and respect it, guide and educate it in time, and don't stop and interfere rudely at will, which will only bring short-term or long-term negative effects to boys.
In the short term, it will cause boys to be depressed, affect their studies, and even have resistance to parents and teachers; In the long run, this kind of emotional depression in adolescence can easily cast a lingering shadow on the boy's psychology, and the concept of love will be distorted. As some parents who were used to flowers said, "When he is not allowed to find a girlfriend, he can always find one, but he can't find one."
In life, many boys don't have a clear attitude towards love when they are in contact with the opposite sex. They just like each other and sometimes go together. These are normal heterosexual interactions, but parents and teachers are often "scared" and "scared". As a result, the original normal communication has become "fake play and real action". In fact, even if boys really fall in love, it's not that terrible, as long as parents give it. With the correct guidance, they can grasp themselves well.
Method 3: Pay attention to the fluctuating emotional changes of adolescent boys.
Boys enter adolescence, not only physically, but also psychologically.
This is mainly due to the influence of hormones that control emotional changes. Their mood changes greatly, and lively boys may suddenly become withdrawn and their mood is obvious. In addition, adolescent boys also generally have rebellious psychology, which is inevitable in the process of maturity.
Adolescent boys are going through a "psychological weaning period", and they often think they are adults. Coupled with a strong desire to control themselves, they want to make their own decisions, but they can't, so they feel depressed and lonely. When others are superior to themselves in some way, boys will feel inferior and jealous out of competitive psychology. When faced with challenges and tests, negative emotions such as anxiety and anxiety will occur. If negative emotions are not solved and overcome for a long time, they will be in anxiety and tension for a long time.
In this state of mind, it will bring great harm to boys' body and mind. Therefore, parents must attach great importance to it, cultivate students' emotional wisdom, teach them to know, understand and manage their emotions, and overcome the negative emotions in adolescence. If you don't know how to use "emotional wisdom", "emotional disorder" will appear in the long run.
The emotional change of adolescent boys has uncontrollable factors brought by their own physical development, and it is also a necessary stage for teenagers to mature psychologically. Therefore, it is not terrible that they have emotional ups and downs. The terrible thing is that no one helps them understand and manage their emotions.
In short, adolescent boys are the most in need of help. Only when boys are freed from psychological troubles and pressures can they study easily, communicate happily and grow into useful talents for society.
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