First, the only child is a parent. Are you ready?
Yue Yue is the mother of a half-year-old baby. She gave birth to her daughter six months ago and took her parents to XXX to take care of the children herself. She often feels that she and her daughter are her mother's two children. Basically, her mother is responsible for all the work of taking care of the baby, but she still goes out to date and dance often. When I get home, I have to be spoiled in front of my mother for a while, and then Doby children. When she is bored, she goes to do her own thing. Month after month, I feel that the relationship with my children is not as good as that of my mother, and my heart is sour. At the same time, I feel that children are a burden and I don't know what to do.
Countermeasures: No matter whether you are an only child or not, since you are a parent, you should assume the responsibility of your parents and make the sacrifices that parents should make. If the mother feels that she is not ready, she can spend more time with her baby and communicate with her baby with the help of her grandmother, which will naturally make her baby more responsible and patient.
Social pressure is increasing.
One-year-old baby actually signed up for three training courses, and the "high-priced early education" with a year of nearly 10,000 yuan was sought after by young parents. Some babies with diapers are also shuttling between booths, and extracurricular education is developing towards younger age. These imaginations are not uncommon. Indeed, in today's increasingly competitive society, parents will have higher expectations for the only second-generation baby. In addition, today's society is in an era of knowledge explosion, and parents can't help but have the mentality of pulling out the seedlings to encourage them.
Countermeasures: Let the baby develop freely, and don't encourage it. Don't pin your dreams on your baby.
4-2- 1
The family model of the only second-generation baby is generally four old people (grandparents), two parents, 1 baby.
From the perspective of growth, the family relationship of the "second generation" is simpler. They don't know what "uncle", "aunt" and "cousin" are. At home, there is no chance to get along with peers, deal with adults, learn from brothers and sisters, even when adolescent rebellion is most needed.
Countermeasures: Let the baby enter the social circle early. Don't always keep children at home, invite children from the community and neighbors to be guests at home, and encourage children to make friends with kindergarten children. Usually, if you see a child with a contradictory plot on TV or in cartoons, you can also discuss with your baby what you would do if you were yourself.
With the passage of time and the continuous implementation of the national policy of family planning, there will inevitably be more and more independent second generations, which has become the mainstream of a society. Is your baby the only second generation? Educate him in his own way, because as an only child, we can certainly understand the child's feelings. I believe that the parents of the only child also thought about how to educate their children when they were wronged as children.
Second, the taboo about children's education
1, avoid demanding.
Parents "hate iron and not produce steel" for their children, demanding perfection in everything, and a little reprimanding, the children will be at a loss and depressed. After a long time, children may go to the opposite side and go their own way.
2. Avoid letting things drift.
If you don't guide and educate your children, let yourself go, do whatever you want, and fail to fulfill your parental responsibilities, the consequences will be unimaginable.
3. Avoid corporal punishment.
In real life, some parents rely on the creed of "don't beat the abrasive", but beat and scold and punish others. In this way, they not only fail to achieve the purpose of education, but also hurt their children's self-esteem and often put them in emotional opposition with their parents.
4. Avoid inattention
Children should be allowed to choose suitable sports, cultivate their ability to concentrate and concentrate on completing a task, and cultivate their perseverance. Don't repeatedly ask your child to change the content of the activity.
5. Avoid lack of adaptability
Cultivating children's ability to adapt to the environment is conducive to their development.
6. Avoid being out of control
Children should be trained to control their emotions, including their unreasonable demands and wishes.