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Analysis may enter the "sensitive period of hitting people"

Dai Dongmei, a senior early education expert in Nanning, said that according to the research of Italian children educator Montessori, most children aged 2-5 will enter the "sensitive period of hitting people" for three main reasons. First, children's self-awareness began to sprout. If children instinctively feel violated and their language ability has not developed to the point where they can communicate effectively with others, they have to "speak" with their fists. Second, children really want to make friends with other babies, but they don't know how to signal to others more politely, so they have to "make friends with each other" to attract each other's attention.

There are also family factors. Parents' overindulgence leads to children's willfulness. When they disagree with their children, they will not express their opinions in an appropriate way, but choose the way of beating, cursing or swearing. For example, if a child accidentally bumps into a table, the parents will tell him not to cry, and then knock on the table with his hand and say, "smash it, smash it." In this way, before you know it, he will feel hurt or something else, and it will be solved by "hitting" anyway. There is another kind of children, whose parents are too busy to take care of their children, seldom communicate with them, and lack of love, often develop into two tendencies. One is to close your inner needs and appear submissive on the surface; The other is aggressive, using violence to protect themselves.

Deal with patience to weaken children's aggression.

Teacher Lu, the head of a well-known early education institution in Nanning, said that children who love to beat people must not be violent. Give them full concern and communicate with them more. When children feel loved, their inner sense of security will gradually increase, and they will gradually change their behavior and show a good side. In addition, for children who love to hit people, some parents are afraid that their children will get into trouble, so it is very inappropriate to reduce the chances of contact with other children. Children who love to hit people need to take part in more group activities under the guidance of their parents, cultivate good behavior habits and learn correct social methods.

It is not enough for children to gently stop after hitting people, but also to demonstrate the correct way to get along. Parents can say to their children, "Do you want to be friends with your little brother? If you want to be friends with him, you can shake hands with him or take out your toys to play with him. " In this way, parents can not only let their children know what not to do, but also let him know how to do it better. You know, children are the best imitators, and if they persist for a period of time, their aggressive behavior is likely to decrease.

Ms. Li, the aviation mother, said: "My child is 6 years old this year. When he was more than 2 years old, he showed a strong tendency to violence. If he is a little uncomfortable, he will reach out and pick up whatever he wants. Once, his father's head was wrapped in a stool. His father gave him a good beating, and the effect was not obvious. Later, when he started, I grabbed his hand, and immediately found a topic that could attract him, diverted his attention and pretended not to care. Later, I slowly reasoned with him, and I was not afraid of being bored. Children often can't remember it again and again. This lasted for about two months, and his habit of hitting people gradually changed. "