Some people think that letting children go to nursery school or send them to full-time nursery school as soon as possible can cultivate their self-care ability and collective consciousness. If this logic holds, children in orphanages will get the best early education. But in fact, most children who grow up in orphanages have serious psychological problems, and their self-awareness and cooperation awareness often stay at a low level. It's not that their talents are not good enough, nor that the nurses don't work hard. The real reason is that they lack the nourishment of family atmosphere and emotional and language communication with their relatives since childhood, which leads to permanent psychological and ability defects in adulthood.
Neuroscience has confirmed that early emotional dysplasia will directly damage the normal development of the brain, make its structure abnormal and cause irreversible pathological changes. When I was leafing through the books, I saw such a piece of historical materials and posted it for everyone to feel:
After World War II, Romania's population declined sharply. In order to solve the population problem, the Romanian government stipulates that every woman of childbearing age should have at least four children. For those families who can't support their children, let them send their children to the national reformatory funded by the government for material support. To this end, more than 60,000 babies were sent to reformatory schools, but most of these children were mentally retarded, emotionally stunted, unable to look at people and talk to people, and used to sitting alone in the corner or repeating certain rigid actions. This situation is called "orphanage phenomenon".
Some parents said: "If it is not good to send children to the nursery in advance, why should people accept it?" Speaking of which, do you remember that public service advertisement: "No business, no killing"? If there is demand in the market, there must be supply.
Other parents said: "I know that it is not good for children to leave home too early to adapt to collective life, but I am really busy at work and can't help it." Fighting for your career is no reason for you to give up your children. No matter how busy you are, you have to go home, even if you take a little time every day, it is meaningful for children. The relationship between children and their parents needs time to get along with each other and high-quality companionship, and the younger the children are, the more emotional needs they have for their parents. When children have separation anxiety, the subconscious fear of being abandoned by their parents will be highlighted. This explains why the separation of children from their parents will be rejected, wronged, crying, tangled and unreasonable.
Although we advocate early education, early education does not mean forcibly separating children from their parents. If you let your child go to nursery too early, it is tantamount to hastily developing his social attributes in his childhood, so that his original needs can not be met. This kind of encouragement will make it difficult for children to grow up and express normally in the future. It should be noted that parents' warm embrace, loving eyes, gentle words, correct guidance and scientific education are indispensable for children's growth; It is irreplaceable by others and educational institutions.