Preface and

Chapter 1 Question: Are all children from different worlds? ( 1-5)

First of all, excerpts and opinions

"The purpose of education is to get students out of the slavery of reality, not to adapt to reality."

"The most effective channel to improve the situation of children is not schools, churches or job centers, but families."

"In the process of children's growth, it is important to help them form a series of completely different and valuable qualities, such as concentration, self-control, curiosity, responsibility, perseverance and self-confidence. Economists call these qualities non-cognitive skills, psychologists call them personality characteristics, and most ordinary people directly regard them as personality. "

Feeling: I have heard such a saying before, "It is my duty to be a talented person", and I deeply agree with it. Although I also want my children to be excellent and outstanding, I find that in the process of children's growth, we should put the cultivation of children's character in a more important position than excellent grades and outstanding performance. In reality, more and more parents adopt the method of putting the cart before the horse, saying "Don't let the children lose at the starting line", which makes all parents collectively anxious and advances the "starting line" of their children, not the earliest but earlier. I have also done early education for my children and studied various interest classes, including some cram schools now. Fortunately, our premise is that children are interested and can persist. In the process of continuous trying, let children find their true hobbies and give play to their strengths and advantages. I read some opinions in the book today, but I also have some regrets. When I was a child, I didn't systematically and scientifically cultivate some valuable characters of my children. I hope I can make up this lesson now, improve my cognition through learning, and better accompany my children to grow up.

"The main reason why bad experiences in the early days are harmful to the development of the body and brain is stress."

"When some reactions occur, we can be aware of them: emotions such as fear and anxiety, or physical reactions such as rapid heartbeat, chills and dry mouth. Many effects produced by HPA axis are beyond our experience. "

"If a person's HPA is under too much pressure, especially in infancy, it will bring various long-term adverse reactions to the body, mind and nerves."

Feeling: Education and medical care can best reflect a country's civilization and economic strength. In today's chapter, I was stunned by the case of Finger High School in Chicago, USA. I can't believe that in a highly developed country like the United States, the phenomenon of problem children and teenagers is so prominent. Another case came from a pediatrician in Los Angeles, USA. In her years of work, she has seen too many children suffer from various diseases in their health because of early injuries. If even the "body" and "mind" are unhealthy, how can we cultivate excellent children?

I never think that stress can be quantified and injury can be scored, but these massive research results explain many problems to us. I feel that as parents, we can no longer rely on traditional experience and the luck of "following our feelings" to educate our children. In our childhood, we were hurt more or less by our parents and family. At that time, our parents didn't understand, and now we have to understand. Don't let this regret happen to our next generation.

Second, parent-child interaction

I brought my son a cup of milk tea on my way home today. He was very happy, but he was a little disappointed after receiving milk tea. He asked me, "Why not add more ingredients? There is too little content in it, which is not good at all. " I was a little unhappy at the time. I think the child is too picky and ungrateful, but I think we can communicate with him in a better way. I said, "I'm sorry I bought a drink you don't like, but I don't know what kind of ingredients you like." Tell me now, and I will know when I buy it later. " Kid, I didn't expect to say this. He was a little embarrassed: "I like red beans, oats, raisins and coconuts." If you are willing to buy it for me in the future, you can add one or several. " Ok, I remember. The child said to me happily, "thank you, mom." In fact, this kind is quite delicious. " "Great!"

Third, I am grateful today.

Today, I want to thank my friends who work with me. She told me a new method of computer processing forms, which unlocked a new skill for me!